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Hello again. So getting straight to the point, I had a welcome night. The first year students in my course were all paired up with second year students (i'm a first year student). So the girl I was with was 19, Scottish (I am studying in Scotland), she was a brunette and was just a couple of centimeters shorter than me (I'm 5 foot 6 six by the way). This should be a good read, because like I said earlier, I'm really new to girls so I would've made some hilarious mistakes. Once again, I'd be very grateful for any advice and feedback.
Venues visited:
Some uni cafe, place was reserved for tonight.
Then from there we went to a frat house (well, it was actually a second year students apartment)
From there I went to another frat house
Then headed to a nightclub
People with:
Left with a mate, he got wasted but I knew some other people there.
New People Met:
My second year student buddy, I'll call her F because its easier to type.
F's ex boyfriend, briefly (a big mistake)
F's friend
What Happened:
So before I start, I'll just point out that the text in brackets are what I thought the morning after. And the my memory is still not that good so i'll keep this focused to just the interactions.
Arrive at uni cafe
Meet F
F: Hi looks like I'm you gaudi (that means senior in this context)
Me: Yeah that me. (missed an opportunity to go for a genuine interest compliment)
Me: so what's you name
F: Blabla... What's yours.
Me: blabla...
Me: so where are you from.
F: blabla (some place up north of me, it's really small, like a little town or village.
M: Oh really, haha so you're some sort of farm girl (this attempt of repartee felt like it was missing something. I should have kept with the same stem, so "you're some sort of farm girl", but then added some sort of teasing cold read, something like "so you're some sort of farm girl, coming down here to chase some city boys" or something like that, essentially a cold read.)
F: Haha yeah what about you?
Me: I'm from London.
And someone else starts talking to us, and the interaction died down a bit. Which is ok because I am shit at deep diving, with people in general, its something I need to work on.
But then F re engages me
F: do you drink?
Me: Why? Are you trying to get me drunk (I tried to say that in a suggestive way, she laughed a bit which good, but I didn't nail that line as well as I could of.) Well... sometimes. (i said that with facial expressions that implied no. That wasn't my intention. I was actually trying intrigue.)
F: Oh okay (she sounded sad about that)
Me: But I would like one now actually. (this may have seemed like I was reacting to her)
F: Oh great! (She was a bit of a party person... I'm not too sure)
We both got some punch. And I downed the drink while she was looking away because I was thirsty. She then looked towards me and saw that I downed my drink. She was taken aback and said that was impressive. Now I don't know what she felt when she said that, but to me, and correct me if i'm wrong. To me that felt she was appreciating implicit value. I don't know.
Then the challenges/drinking games begun. I'll list the challenges out just to make this field report go smoother. Challenge one, five guys stood on chairs with a banana between their legs and their gaudis (seniors; they were all girls) had to peel the banana with their mouths. It was like role playing a blowjob. Challenge two was guys stand on chairs, down some beer, take a shot out of their gaudi's mouth and then the roles are reversed. The other challenges are a bit irrelevant. Back to the interaction.
F: looks like the first challenge is happening (excited in a nervous way)
Me: yeah, lets go (i've been touching her a little already but i need to be more confident with it, because sometimes I do touch well (as you'll find out later tonight), other times especially at the beginning of the interaction i can come of creepy :/)
I touch her arm and pull her with me to the "stage" (a line of stairs).
F: I wonder what the challenge is
Me: Well it's got something to to with a banana
F: Oh god, it's this one (she is a second year, and so she was in my position a year ago, that's how she knew the challenge
We stepped down from the stage as she didn't want to do this challenge.
This was a really sexual challenge. Should I have persisted and got her to do this.(I often miss a lot of opportunities because I don't take risks and play safe)
So the challenge happens and she refills my drink.
Me: You seem really determined to get me wasted, what are trying to do with me (said in a suggestive way. But it wasn't clear the line. The stem was fine, but in my opinion the bottom bit should have been " You seem really determined to get me wasted, as if you intend to do something to me later." )
F: (laughed)
The call for the second challenge comes. It was the shot in mouth challenge and she decided that it was okay to do (should she be "calling the shots" like that?)
We do the challenge. I did it in a normal and boring way, could I have used the challenge as an excuse to touch her or escalate her in some way? Because I did have to take a shot glass out of her mouth with my mouth.)
Challenge over, we laugh and we all head outside towards the first frat house (well, its actually the second year girls' house, but its not a sorority)
I let her drift away and I walk with F's friend. She seems interested in me and she touches my chest a bit during conversation. Maybe I should have spoken to her more.
Arrive at the place. Go in. Some time passes. Nothing eventful. We go sit down at a coach.
(Now this is the time I should have got her emotionally connected to me. In fact this is the best time to. But I was pretty drunk by then and for some reason I decided to read her palms, like a psychic. What are your thoughts on this. Because it could be could, you're holding her hands, she's holding yours, and it's a great way to deep dive and cold read etc. etc. However I my opinion, I thinks it's really childish and "gamey." Maybe it's the way I it that makes it childish and "gamey" put please, some feedback on this would be much appreciated.
Anyway we both get distracted by someone a bit too drunk. F's friend (the girl who "seemed" (i can never unless I tried to pull her) interested in me) comes up and we (me, F, F's friend and a few guys and girls) decide to hit the club, which, now that I think about it, was a bad move. It is ambitious but I should have got her to stay with me and escalated while the others went.
But anyway, we head out, my arm around her waist and her arm around me, we go. However on the way to the club, she let go or I let go, and I lost her for a bit again. This was a huge mistake but it did tell me that I didn't do a good enough job attracting her because had she really been into me, we would have stuck together.
Any way although I originally was going to the club. I now find myself lost with no one. I spot a few people on my course, they were also lost, we end up going to the other party house. (there were two. The first is where all the freshers guys go and the second is where all the freshers girls go.)
Any way at that place. I meet her again but her friend (not the girl who was touching my chest)is crying and she walked her home. But here I did meet her ex boyfriend. I don't think I should have ever interacted with him. But I can't believe I actually said "do you mind if I try with F?" I think the lesson to take there is that don't try pick up and alcohol. A drink is fine but really, I know I should have never said that.
Any way after that I went to the club, but being a newbie at this I felt a bit shit that I hadn't pulled F by now. So I called it a night and headed home. Later that night she added me on Facebook (I only told her my last name once) and messaged me. (and my response to her message is hilariously bad. If you've been kind enough to read the whole thing, this is your reward, to laugh at my shitty flirting).
F: Gaudi are you ok?? Did you make it to liquid (the nightclub) I had to go with [her crying friend]
then 45 minutes later
F: Please be alive
and my response an hour later was
Me: actually i'm dead, come to my flat to resuscitate me
haha no, i did make it to liquid. It's a shame you weren't there though
Then at 1 o clock the next day she replies
F: hahah you make it to anatomy this morning!? I know my friend was crying so I had to go with her but i'm proud of ya making it.
F: you enjoy the night hahah??
I'm guessing because she ignored the god awful resuscitate frame she isn't interested. But please do correct me if I'm wrong. I'm seeing her again next week. This time the first years will set the challenges.
If you've read this far, thank you for taking the time. I guess what I learnt from this night was to take risks. I should have given a genuine interests opener/compliment straight away. I should have been more confident with touch. Perhaps persisted to do the banana challenge and take advantage of the shot in mouth challenge. I should never had spoken to the ex boyfriend. and when I was sitting with her on the coach (we were in a public lounge) I should have deep dived.
Anyway, thanks again for reading, I'd be very grateful for any feedback. Please to be brutally honest.
Venues visited:
Some uni cafe, place was reserved for tonight.
Then from there we went to a frat house (well, it was actually a second year students apartment)
From there I went to another frat house
Then headed to a nightclub
People with:
Left with a mate, he got wasted but I knew some other people there.
New People Met:
My second year student buddy, I'll call her F because its easier to type.
F's ex boyfriend, briefly (a big mistake)
F's friend
What Happened:
So before I start, I'll just point out that the text in brackets are what I thought the morning after. And the my memory is still not that good so i'll keep this focused to just the interactions.
Arrive at uni cafe
Meet F
F: Hi looks like I'm you gaudi (that means senior in this context)
Me: Yeah that me. (missed an opportunity to go for a genuine interest compliment)
Me: so what's you name
F: Blabla... What's yours.
Me: blabla...
Me: so where are you from.
F: blabla (some place up north of me, it's really small, like a little town or village.
M: Oh really, haha so you're some sort of farm girl (this attempt of repartee felt like it was missing something. I should have kept with the same stem, so "you're some sort of farm girl", but then added some sort of teasing cold read, something like "so you're some sort of farm girl, coming down here to chase some city boys" or something like that, essentially a cold read.)
F: Haha yeah what about you?
Me: I'm from London.
And someone else starts talking to us, and the interaction died down a bit. Which is ok because I am shit at deep diving, with people in general, its something I need to work on.
But then F re engages me
F: do you drink?
Me: Why? Are you trying to get me drunk (I tried to say that in a suggestive way, she laughed a bit which good, but I didn't nail that line as well as I could of.) Well... sometimes. (i said that with facial expressions that implied no. That wasn't my intention. I was actually trying intrigue.)
F: Oh okay (she sounded sad about that)
Me: But I would like one now actually. (this may have seemed like I was reacting to her)
F: Oh great! (She was a bit of a party person... I'm not too sure)
We both got some punch. And I downed the drink while she was looking away because I was thirsty. She then looked towards me and saw that I downed my drink. She was taken aback and said that was impressive. Now I don't know what she felt when she said that, but to me, and correct me if i'm wrong. To me that felt she was appreciating implicit value. I don't know.
Then the challenges/drinking games begun. I'll list the challenges out just to make this field report go smoother. Challenge one, five guys stood on chairs with a banana between their legs and their gaudis (seniors; they were all girls) had to peel the banana with their mouths. It was like role playing a blowjob. Challenge two was guys stand on chairs, down some beer, take a shot out of their gaudi's mouth and then the roles are reversed. The other challenges are a bit irrelevant. Back to the interaction.
F: looks like the first challenge is happening (excited in a nervous way)
Me: yeah, lets go (i've been touching her a little already but i need to be more confident with it, because sometimes I do touch well (as you'll find out later tonight), other times especially at the beginning of the interaction i can come of creepy :/)
I touch her arm and pull her with me to the "stage" (a line of stairs).
F: I wonder what the challenge is
Me: Well it's got something to to with a banana
F: Oh god, it's this one (she is a second year, and so she was in my position a year ago, that's how she knew the challenge
We stepped down from the stage as she didn't want to do this challenge.
This was a really sexual challenge. Should I have persisted and got her to do this.(I often miss a lot of opportunities because I don't take risks and play safe)
So the challenge happens and she refills my drink.
Me: You seem really determined to get me wasted, what are trying to do with me (said in a suggestive way. But it wasn't clear the line. The stem was fine, but in my opinion the bottom bit should have been " You seem really determined to get me wasted, as if you intend to do something to me later." )
F: (laughed)
The call for the second challenge comes. It was the shot in mouth challenge and she decided that it was okay to do (should she be "calling the shots" like that?)
We do the challenge. I did it in a normal and boring way, could I have used the challenge as an excuse to touch her or escalate her in some way? Because I did have to take a shot glass out of her mouth with my mouth.)
Challenge over, we laugh and we all head outside towards the first frat house (well, its actually the second year girls' house, but its not a sorority)
I let her drift away and I walk with F's friend. She seems interested in me and she touches my chest a bit during conversation. Maybe I should have spoken to her more.
Arrive at the place. Go in. Some time passes. Nothing eventful. We go sit down at a coach.
(Now this is the time I should have got her emotionally connected to me. In fact this is the best time to. But I was pretty drunk by then and for some reason I decided to read her palms, like a psychic. What are your thoughts on this. Because it could be could, you're holding her hands, she's holding yours, and it's a great way to deep dive and cold read etc. etc. However I my opinion, I thinks it's really childish and "gamey." Maybe it's the way I it that makes it childish and "gamey" put please, some feedback on this would be much appreciated.
Anyway we both get distracted by someone a bit too drunk. F's friend (the girl who "seemed" (i can never unless I tried to pull her) interested in me) comes up and we (me, F, F's friend and a few guys and girls) decide to hit the club, which, now that I think about it, was a bad move. It is ambitious but I should have got her to stay with me and escalated while the others went.
But anyway, we head out, my arm around her waist and her arm around me, we go. However on the way to the club, she let go or I let go, and I lost her for a bit again. This was a huge mistake but it did tell me that I didn't do a good enough job attracting her because had she really been into me, we would have stuck together.
Any way although I originally was going to the club. I now find myself lost with no one. I spot a few people on my course, they were also lost, we end up going to the other party house. (there were two. The first is where all the freshers guys go and the second is where all the freshers girls go.)
Any way at that place. I meet her again but her friend (not the girl who was touching my chest)is crying and she walked her home. But here I did meet her ex boyfriend. I don't think I should have ever interacted with him. But I can't believe I actually said "do you mind if I try with F?" I think the lesson to take there is that don't try pick up and alcohol. A drink is fine but really, I know I should have never said that.
Any way after that I went to the club, but being a newbie at this I felt a bit shit that I hadn't pulled F by now. So I called it a night and headed home. Later that night she added me on Facebook (I only told her my last name once) and messaged me. (and my response to her message is hilariously bad. If you've been kind enough to read the whole thing, this is your reward, to laugh at my shitty flirting).
F: Gaudi are you ok?? Did you make it to liquid (the nightclub) I had to go with [her crying friend]
then 45 minutes later
F: Please be alive
and my response an hour later was
Me: actually i'm dead, come to my flat to resuscitate me
haha no, i did make it to liquid. It's a shame you weren't there thoughThen at 1 o clock the next day she replies
F: hahah you make it to anatomy this morning!? I know my friend was crying so I had to go with her but i'm proud of ya making it.
F: you enjoy the night hahah??
I'm guessing because she ignored the god awful resuscitate frame she isn't interested. But please do correct me if I'm wrong. I'm seeing her again next week. This time the first years will set the challenges.
If you've read this far, thank you for taking the time. I guess what I learnt from this night was to take risks. I should have given a genuine interests opener/compliment straight away. I should have been more confident with touch. Perhaps persisted to do the banana challenge and take advantage of the shot in mouth challenge. I should never had spoken to the ex boyfriend. and when I was sitting with her on the coach (we were in a public lounge) I should have deep dived.
Anyway, thanks again for reading, I'd be very grateful for any feedback. Please to be brutally honest.
