Panicky feeling.

[superomar]

So today, third day of approaching, I realized I panic alot. Itll take me forever to muster up the courage to approach a girl, heart beating fast Ill say my direct opener, and then feel awkward. My mind will start telling me a billion things at once and go blank, I'll try to move on the conversation but literally start getting scared. My tone of voice starts faltering, and I feel like a total pussy. How do I get rid of this feeling?

 

[mkivtt]

By doing it a lot and realizing it doesn't matter...

You are not the only one btw, I have it too with most girls.

 

[Thedoctor]

I agree with mkvitt.

Another thing I would suggest is writing a schedule down and following it. That way you won't make excuses not to do it, but at the same time, it gives you a "cool-off" period where you can assess what you're doing right, what you can improve etc. For instance, tell yourself Mon, Wed and Sat, you''ll work on approaching 5 girls a day for each. That way it's not as overbearing at first since you have time off in between each day, but at the same time you're approaching 15 girls a week. That's more than most guys approach in a year! On your days off, try to work on your fundamentals and visualize approaches going right. The next time you go out to approach, you'll feel a little refreshed, and hopefully, a little more relaxed.

Cheers,

-Doc

 

[Estate]

Everyone has this, don't worry about it.

I always liken it to learning to drive a car. First time I got behind the wheel in traffic I was terrified.
But I just kept doing it until I don't even think about it now even though the same fears and dangers are still present, they don't phase you anymore with experience.

 

[superomar]

Thanks Doc and Estate, I'm slowly getting to that point, and actually starting to have alot of fun