FR Party at my joint

[ray_zorse]

So lately I haven't been doing approaches, at least not going direct, got off to a great start a few weeks back but the anxiety may have crept back a little, anyway I've got a bit on my plate at the moment with tight deadlines for legal matters that I have to prepare for, chapters of my dissertation and so on, got my kids for the school holidays so really have to juggle my schedule. So I'm planning to hit hard with some approaches after the school holidays when things have settled down, have also realized that I'm too fat (even though I'm 180cm and can carry it pretty well) and have fallen off the diet due to stress and got to get this sorted too. Anyway with all this shit going on I decided to relax(?) by throwing a party...hahaha...have been preparing for it all week, my mistress was also pretty enthused and offered to help with the decorations so we've been organizing an Aladdin's Cave / Moroccan theme (she's been coming around every day and I've been doing my best to reward her with sex, touch and other attention), and I've been running around buying DJ gear, lights, smoke, etc, teaching myself to beatmix and making playlists of pop and techno, not to mention organizing kegs of beer, cocktails and so on...all this is mainly inspired by the post under advanced techniques on how to get a wicked social life going by being the MAN organizing the parties and club nights, VIP entry and so forth, but its only a trial run so I haven't been doing street invitations or the Facebook group yet.

On the night things got off to a pretty smooth start, was there with her husband and organizing the food whilst I mixed up the cocktails and welcomed the guests, it was spontaneous so many ppl were already committed elsewhere but attendance was pretty good anyway. One of the guests was an Iranian dude from uni [Y] who I always notice because he dresses very well, wears cologne and so on, I didn't know him very well but he has solid fundamentals and a bit of game as I discovered later. He told me to expect his friend [J] later on and [J] arrived with a cute friend [N], I asked her if she was his girlfriend and she said flatmate, I thought she said family which led to some amusement but we got it sorted out. Now it turned out that [J] is a DJ so I convinced [N] to drive him back home to get his music etc which they did, and he rocked the party with some sick tunes, meanwhile [N] was responding quite well to my touch and I started a deepdive before getting interrupted to make more cocktails and so on. Later she came over and told me she was leaving, which was a pain as I hadn't asked her out on a high point but anyway I got her number and suggested a date at the nearby shopping centre, she said she doesn't like that place so I said I'll think of something else and she left. Have sent an icebreaker but I think she'll flake..hmm..dunno.

So back to the story, well firstly [Y] told me that my mistress is fucking hot and he goes for her, so I said I'd try to set something up, unfortunately she wasn't into him, or perhaps he had approached her the wrong way (her husband had gotten smashed and gone to sleep in the car, I think it was around midnight by this stage). So after an hour or two I broached the subject with [Y] of being my wingman, it turns out he needs to improve his game a little but he's certainly a lot of the way there and I think this will work out quite well, he thought I meant straightaway so we then hatched the plan of ditching the party and going out to hit some clubs, we took a group in 2 cabs (I could not convince to come along as she still thought I was trying to set her up with [Y] even though I just wanted to get her dancing and having a good time). We also couldn't get the DJ [J] to come along, we got him out and into the taxi at one stage but then he changed his mind and went inside to continue playing tunes to an empty house, very strange but eventually decided to leave him to it.

I now digress to mention a wicked technique which I think is described in the eye contact articles, if you are in the supermarket or at a bar or whatever and waiting for service DO NOT LOOK AT THE CHECKOUT CHICK / BAR GIRL, just stare into the distance until she turns to you and establishes eye contact, only then do you return the eye contact, smile and make your order. THIS WORKS LIKE ABSOLUTE MAGIC, it puts them in the position of a supplicant and then they fall over themselves to please you and serve you as well as possible. All the new guys should try it, such a simple thing really improves your interactions. I do this with the bar chick and she starts flirting with me and we begin joking around about how I'm having a soda water with the works (lime, straw, ...) she starts thinking of crazy stuff to put in it too and this really sets the tone for the rest of my night. She's hot but I decide not to hit on her since the bar is pretty crowded.

Having arrived and got a drink we started to approach girls, I noticed a cute one [R] who was exchanging glances with [Y], but he seemed too shy to approach so I decided to introduce myself to her, she was receptive and then I introduced her to [Y] and stepped back a little, this seemed to go OK but they did not talk for very long. Meanwhile we were also standing near another couple [C] and a guy who it turned out was her boyfriend, well what I noticed about this couple was that he was very supplicating, clearly in a chasing mindset (even though they were in a relationship as it turned out), she was basically just standing there a bit aloof while he did all the leaning in and so on...I introduced myself to [C], I was expecting a bit of an ice-queen response but she was surprisingly warm, I think this was because she had witnessed the interaction between [R] and [Y] and my attempts to add value by breaking the ice between them. Anyway this didn't seem to go anywhere and so I did a few more approaches but nothing much doing, one girl I couldn't get her name despite persevering for some time but it was fucking loud so I just ended up teasing her a little before moving on. My mate also did some approaches although I think maybe he needs a bit better calibration so I'll chat with him about this in the office later (more on this later on though).

Anyway so then I was getting a drink at the bar when I noticed [R] again and this time I pulled her in for a bit of a chat, asked her what she'd been up to that day and she mentioned a 30th and a bit of other random back and forth, then we went to dance and she was very into it, we were dancing real close for about half an hour and gazing into each others eyes (I felt that I had given [Y] a chance with her and so I didn't really feel bad about stepping in), I gave her some compliments about her smoking body and so on, she went off for a few brief periods but came back so I felt I was on pretty solid ground, what I feel really pissed off about is that I did not move her at that stage to a couch where we could build some rapport but anyway I didn't realize time was running out...so eventually she says she'll be back soon and fucks off and doesn't come back, I felt bad she was holding leverage so I went off to do some other socializing, eventually bumped into her at the bar again where she ends up chatting to my mate, when they finish I get her attention with a pre-opener kind of manoeuvre and say sexily into her ear "rrendezvous?" indicating the dance floor, she doesn't understand so I say normally that I'll meet her over there, continue buying the round of drinks for my mates and eventually go over to the dancefloor but she's not there, fuck it. I get a bit pissed off, and go off looking for someone else to approach, I did talk to one girl but didn't press the issue when she just continued walking past me. Later I'm with my mates when I notice what looks like [R] flirting with some other guy in a different part of the club so I feel that I've moved too slow, attraction expired, move on... I could have got a pash too but restrained myself because I wanted to preserve the intrigue / sexual tension for when I get her alone, ended up getting bugger all

So persist until closing time but the ratio of men to girls in this club is not that favourable so it's uphill going, there's no one I can really approach since most are either with their boyfriends or partying hard on this incredibly dark and loud room...one thing I'm totally kicking myself about is that right before close [R] comes back and I notice her standing uncertainly towards the back of the dance floor, should have just gone over and grabbed her and taken her home but I calculated at the time that things had moved to more and more of a chasing dynamic, the other times she'd gone away from the dancefloor I'd approached her again after, and also at the bar I'd appraoched her so I decide not to reward non compliance and stupidly wait for her to do something, she doesn't and leaves and eventually we leave too. Fuck. [Y] and my other mate are keen to go to another club but I've got the kids in the morning so I just get a taxi home. At this point I notice there is someone crashed out in my lounge but stumble off to bed and sleep. I'm pretty surprised later when climbs in and starts blowing me, turns out that her hubby had got up, vomited and driven himself home and she'd stayed to deal with the last guests -- apparently it's gotten down to just her and the DJ [J] who has begun hitting on her, as I've said she looked stunning that night, she's said nothing doing though -- and then she's gone to sleep.

So anyway after being blown we cuddle for a long time and then I fuck her for the first time in a few days and this goes well, the bed starts falling to pieces halfway through since it actually belongs to a previous tenant of mine and isn't my regular bed, hahahaha she comes although by this time I've gone a bit soft again (since I already came in her mouth earlier), I'm still thinking of [R] and her body but the fantasies are getting a bit tired so we just have a shower together where I finger to another orgasm. We then go off to the shopping centre to get some garbage bags and have a coffee in our regular shop and talk about a lot of stuff like how she really connected with her hubby last night while they were hammered and this was good and lots of other deep emotional stuff. Then we come back and clean up together, I have to leave halfway through to pick up my kids and take them to a party but she continues until my house is fucking sparkling just like hers, did I mention she's an auto invester...this woman is gold.

OK that will do for now thanks for listening dudes..will hammer out some approaches & report.