Socializing Party Vibe Conversation

[Zoro]

I have noticed that at a party/ group setting, I come at people with deep, stimulating conversation that is great for one on one. Even at parties if we are isolated, I have great conversation and fun with people.

Its when there is a group conversation, especially with girls ( I don't want to get too deep with girls, playful is the aim) that I lose people to boredum. I just hold a groups attention like a newbie juggler holds oranges.

This post is to explore the differences and flesh out what makes great group setting conversation exciting. All while keeping in mind the concepts of being an attractive sexy man.

I'm sure my usual low energy/smooth approach is partially to blame. That is good for one and one and drawing people in. As the weather warms I will be shifting into experimenting with higher energy.

Mean while, it will be worth while to explore the concepts.

- J Wick

--Side note, being young and relatively inexperienced with picking up women, I see that the more aggressive, high energy approach is exhilarating, fulfilling and effective. You go through girls at a faster rate thus experiencing and learning a lot more. I feel like a man, going for what I want, brushing off the setbacks and rejections with a smile, and facing life head on.

Perhaps, the natural unfolding is aggressive go getter to experienced smooth magnet.

 

[Whizzy]

I used to struggle in this area too, but aside from giving an enormous post about how to change that...channel your inner Anatman my child Also I have a feeling that you think you should be the center of the conversation, which is simply not true in a group setting unless you are telling a spectacular story.

 

[Zoro]

Yeah, I think doing that would help in many areas like shower threesomes and the like. Haha

Though my problem may have been taking a more masculine approach to speaking at people in groups rather than letting them contribute and relate. Focusing on the connection rather than content of what I'm saying has helped a lot with talking to people... haven't used it a party yet though.

 

[Big Daddy]

This is a topic that interest me as well, I'd love to hear what people have to say. I also feel that I need to develop the power in my voice to talk effortlessly loud enough for everyone to hear.

 

[Franco]

J,

Somewhat on this topic, make sure to check out my post I wrote here: https://boards.girlschase.com/viewtopic.php?f=24&t=5087

It covers this topic somewhat (mostly with men), but it's the same way with women involved as well. You want to listen to what they're saying, but make sure you only talk if you have something interesting and/or funny to say. Don't just talk just to talk -- that's a woman's job!

- Franco