Passively Generating Attraction in Social Circle Scenarios

[Ronnie]

Since I am in "game", I have never been a big fan of dating girls from social circle environments although some experiences I had recently kinda made me think that there is plenty to fish in these circles if you do it right. Aside from very good fundamentals, do you have any tips on how to generate strong attraction in "passive" ways in order to make girls' interest signals more evident so that you know which is the girl you can move things forward with without being exposed as a "player" in the social group you are in.

I remember years ago (way before I was gaming) I watched this fun movie called "The Tao of Steve" where this fat 30-year old guy was basically suggesting to "be desireless, be excellent, be gone"... of course I see a lot of flaws in this approach after having gamed for quite a bit. But the basic idea of displaying attractive signals while in the social interaction, then retreat from the social circle and then come back seems something you can really leverage. However, the problem is that this create attainability issues ("He's the super cool guy all the girls kinda like but he's probably dating some other girl somewhere else and we're just people he hangs out with for fun).

What do y'all think?

 

[Chase]

@Ronnie,

Part of why being gone works so well in social circle is it keeps you from becoming a fixture in the girl's circle, and keeps you more on the periphery. Once she starts to consider you too firm a core part of her circle, hooking up becomes a lot more fraught for her and it gets a lot tougher to do outside a serious relationship -- so you want to stick to the outskirts of her circle:

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But yeah, Tao of Steve, "be gone"... it is very good advice.

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So long as you're on the periphery, she won't really know exactly what your deal is. You COULD be dating other girls... but she doesn't know for sure... that just makes it more exciting for her. Girls like the guy who's getting other girls, so long as they don't know exactly who they are (or sometimes even if they do!).

Chase