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Hey everyone,
I've been a frequent reader of the site for about a year now, and have been using its information mostly for meeting girls in social circle. Things have improved vastly since I started moving fast with women. I had a very nice 9 month relationship, and a also couple of flings since reading GirlsChase. Still, social circle is very limiting to the kind of women you can meet, so I decided to just start listening to Chase and going out to do some cold approach.
For my first outing I went out by myself to a nice downtown bar that's usually pretty crowded, plays good house music and usually has a few people dancing. Overall there were a lot of people in groups not being open to being approached. After feeling the room for about a half an hour, I decided to try going for the dancefloor first, approached a girl who was very into the music, but I wasnt' patient enough to think and wait for best way to approach and ended up approaching her from behind and she clearly got a weird vibe from me. I engaged her in some conversation but she was already weirded out, acted aloof and seemed more interested in dancing by herself than talking to me. Perhaps I should have smoothly joined the dancefloor first and see if anything happened, instead of directly approaching. Remained in the dancefloor for a little while, to see if another girls were interested but there wasn't much luck with that either.
After that I started conversation with a couple of girls that were in small groups (the whole place was pretty much people in small groups). They were polite enough to talk a little to me, but they pretty much just didn't seem interested in meeting someone new and kept getting back to their respective groups' conversation.
Feeling there wasn't much I could do there, I hit a house bar that's not too far from where I live but it ended up being a little too empty, and the people that were there were in very large groups, so there really wasn't a chance for approaching. Decided to hit home after that.
Definitely need to work in making my approaches seem more "natural", as I felt I was exuding a guy-approaching-random-women kinda vibe. If anyone remembers any good articles here on that subject, that would be helpful. I'll definitely have to consider doing day game as well, but next time I'll probably try another downtown house bar that I've heard is very crowded on weekends and see how that goes. I'll also try to bring wingmen/women because people do get the impression that if you're alone at a bar you're pretty much just looking to get laid.
Either way, a fun outing, a nice way to test what my city's night life has to offer right now. There's really nothing to lose in approaching a few strangers, like Chase says, you'll always bother the girls who aren't interested but it really is the only way to find the ones who are.
I've been a frequent reader of the site for about a year now, and have been using its information mostly for meeting girls in social circle. Things have improved vastly since I started moving fast with women. I had a very nice 9 month relationship, and a also couple of flings since reading GirlsChase. Still, social circle is very limiting to the kind of women you can meet, so I decided to just start listening to Chase and going out to do some cold approach.
For my first outing I went out by myself to a nice downtown bar that's usually pretty crowded, plays good house music and usually has a few people dancing. Overall there were a lot of people in groups not being open to being approached. After feeling the room for about a half an hour, I decided to try going for the dancefloor first, approached a girl who was very into the music, but I wasnt' patient enough to think and wait for best way to approach and ended up approaching her from behind and she clearly got a weird vibe from me. I engaged her in some conversation but she was already weirded out, acted aloof and seemed more interested in dancing by herself than talking to me. Perhaps I should have smoothly joined the dancefloor first and see if anything happened, instead of directly approaching. Remained in the dancefloor for a little while, to see if another girls were interested but there wasn't much luck with that either.
After that I started conversation with a couple of girls that were in small groups (the whole place was pretty much people in small groups). They were polite enough to talk a little to me, but they pretty much just didn't seem interested in meeting someone new and kept getting back to their respective groups' conversation.
Feeling there wasn't much I could do there, I hit a house bar that's not too far from where I live but it ended up being a little too empty, and the people that were there were in very large groups, so there really wasn't a chance for approaching. Decided to hit home after that.
Definitely need to work in making my approaches seem more "natural", as I felt I was exuding a guy-approaching-random-women kinda vibe. If anyone remembers any good articles here on that subject, that would be helpful. I'll definitely have to consider doing day game as well, but next time I'll probably try another downtown house bar that I've heard is very crowded on weekends and see how that goes. I'll also try to bring wingmen/women because people do get the impression that if you're alone at a bar you're pretty much just looking to get laid.
Either way, a fun outing, a nice way to test what my city's night life has to offer right now. There's really nothing to lose in approaching a few strangers, like Chase says, you'll always bother the girls who aren't interested but it really is the only way to find the ones who are.
