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Unfortunately, another tinder threat. I will start cold approaching tomorrow, i swear!
This one is few months old, but I wasn't aware about this great forum and I would like to get smarter from this fuck up. Because I tried to do my own post portem and my conclusion from this date was obviously (at least judging form results) wrong.
tldr; probably most important is "At my place" and "After date"
Tinder:
Sorry, pretty childish convo, but I think it makes some picture about her, which can be later important (?) (+maybe me)
We matched, I pinged her with compliment+open proposition that we should meet, chatted a little bit, I asked her out she agreed.
On day of the date, early in the morning she sent me message on tinder something like:
Sorry Throw, but I have weird vibes from you, you are too serious and not using and smiles/emoticons, I am not meeting with you today + you look like a serial killer
and arrogant
I told her something like :that's fine, it's tinder and people can resonate differently then whats their intent and yeah..I have buzz cut, so that serial killer vibe is pretty spot on, I told her she has good eye and also.. she is also not using any emoticons.(25y.o ..I am 28,ridiculous convo).
True be told, after she agreed with date wed days prior, I was not very responsive on her messages (I took my time, answer max 1 per day), we sew up date cca 5 days in advance (both busy)
She answered pretty quickly that date is back on the menu boys! ..later during date day she tested me with questions about my height (same like her) and astrology (I sent her overly slushy gif of my sign -> funny and good answer according to her).
Date:
Finally we met, she looks cute, behaves cute and little shy, we are few minutes from bar, we walk there and she is still testing me if the dates go wrong if I am gonna pay for her anyway?
Date goes cool,after few glasses I was able to flirt with her (more than in date from my last threat) but nothing amazing, few touches here and there, but meh, she sits across the table. She looked like a girl full of red flags, tattoos, went on multiple horrible tinder dates, piercings, lots LOTS of cliche phrases. New in town, new job, new career, mediator in parents divorce..loves psychology
hehe
After her 2nd cigarette outside, where she shyly asked me to go (I skipped first one, I felt like I would be following her, I know sounds stupid but I had that feeling with her _> I am not smoker btw) I felt like I have her, strong eye contact and exchange of compliments..but I didn't go for a kiss, I SOMEWHERE read to not kiss in public (simplified)
We went back, I asked for bill but it was taking too long, she somehow asked about feminism -> what do I think?
(I was making fun of her tattoos little bit but always balanced with sincere compliment and I have no idea/recollection how she end up asking me what I think about feminism? hahah)
I have my own though, you can guess I am not a fan but I told her something like "I believe it's everything what man do in his life is mostly from deep love for women, either mother, daughter or wife, and these few men who don't are not going to be fixed by feminism but by other beautiful men like me or something like that, sound all over the place but she seems to be satisfied/surprised by my answer BUT she throw at me bomb-> she was in abusive relationship -> i didn't ask for detail, I agreed that some men are horrible then we SOMEHOW shifted to movies (where the fuck is waiter?!)
I like her, she is cute, we are on same note, seems like a good person. We have some common opinions and hobbies.
Physical escalation
We went to park to little walk to nearest park, she was cute and nervous, she though she is boring me,(few girls told me this on date) I kissed her. Few dates before I messed up this stage with moving girl to my place (or once I moved her to my place, she went to toilet and left -> i dont think she had accident there) so I took it slowly (wrongly..I was lucky she was into me), told her let's walk around (we talked before how we both love that park and streets around it), we hold hands, few kisses here and there and then another deep kiss and I asked her to show me her tattoos at my place.
At my place
We are at my place, she is cute, extremely nice (btw, I strongly believe she had at least 30 bodies, also she mentioned she loves to test guys/make fun from guys on tinder, was on multiple tinder dates), we are passionately kissing but when I am trying to take her shirt of she is little bit protesting but I saw insecurity in her eyes...it took another few minutes of kissing, she was horny, she told me how she is horny but she "cant", she has periods.
I told her no problem, lets just start with taking top off. she was telling me how she is horny, how she wants to have sex with me,"lets meet in 3 days from now when I will dont have periods"...I added some dirty talk what I want to do with her, with her thighs etc., she went crazy with blusing and then took her top off and we are still kissing but jeans are now in a way..now she is telling me she needs to go on toilet, we need to take 10mins off for cigarette to be honest, it was too long and I was sleepy and drunk, I told her yes, we can take 10 mins of if she will take her jeans of or give me bj. Smiley face.
I gave her some instructions how to slowly go and switch some lights off while moving with her ass as much as possible, butat the same time we kept windows open so neighbors can see us (she like it)
She did her toilet business, we are in window smoking and talking, after that I am taking her to bed, jeans are off, she pointed out how she get fat recently (little bit bigger than I was expecting). Still hot.
She starts to sucking me, I am ready for action, she is asking for it...but she also asks for condom. I do not have problem...until today. Immediately after she put on condom, i went soft.
No problemo, we are kissing, snuggling, I told her to jerk me off, atmosphere was cool...5 mins I was back in game..but then guess what? I put condom on and game I went soft again like a fucking boss ahah. She also like to get chocked..and I mean.. I did some mma...but she wanted it harder. Same with slapping.
Here was probably some issue, I wasn't hard enough for her but to be honest, when slapped her, she panicked, so wasn't easy to find balance with her. But the atmosphere was still great, I had some bad sex before and this wasn't atmosphere like I had sometimes after shitty sex.
So we drink wine, talk, she was apologizing that she has this principle with condom, I told her thats fine, atmosphere was really nice, she was at my place at least for an hour after this parody of sex.I was trying to dress up and not stay naked (cold from smoking in window ahaha) but she didn't let me do it, she liked me without shirt. She told me how cool I am and how she need somebody like me in her life.
Later she played with my buzz cut and chest and gave me compliments that how manly I am...I was thinking I will let her sleep over (it was at least half past 4, I was fucking drunk and tired) but I didn't (bad experiences, I didn't want to get her boyfriend vibes but check how I fucked up again in 5..4..3..2..1) but I offered her to take together uber with her to her place (I would go back to my place after dropping her off) and I am not big fan of girls going in this hour alone in uber.
She politely declined, gave me some compliment, we kissed again and agreed we stay in touch.
After date:
around lunch I sent her message on tinder how I enjoyed her and lets exchange some contacts. She asked me for ig, unfortunately I dont have, I gave her fb and number, she added me on fb. She was flirty but again, I was not trying to chat too much (btw, it was day before valentines day) and also, she mentioned before, she has periods next 2days.
She answered me at 3 am (after 6 hour seen cca) on my half sexy message how my hands are healing hand with very dry answer which I do not recall. WE CHAT STILL ON TINDER. I didn't want to be clingy and started to chat with her too much. Also, I was not fast enough to change app for communication from tinder to tinder facebook..i just didn't' managed it, I was feeling like i have time. I would appreciate if you would comment on this.
I answered her that 3 am is too late for cute girl like her to stay up so long (or something in that sense) and again -> long seen (before date and day after date she replied always very quick) and long morning text from her on tinder in sense:
sorry Throw, I was very deeply thinking about myself and I guess it would be fair to say I need pause from meeting with new people now. Even if nigh was great and I enjoyed our time I don't have space for meeting with new people.
I know it sounds horrible, but I need to reflect on myself and see what next . I hope you are noting angry and thanks again for great Saturday. (I realized she blocked me on facebook where we weren't in touch at all).
I text her that its cool but important things like this I discuss over the coffee (she is very into coffee). At least she can bring me her "some meal" recipe and penties for memories
She replied "sorry but I have to cut it" and deleted me from tinder too
Shame. If I would gave her good dick, I would maybe get more date but my assumption is that I messed up with not responding,being too aloof, wrongly estimated her.
Attainability (too high) even with wack dick game? Sounds like BS, that's why I am asking you
I am curious about your questions and advice because ....my take away was that I lost her because of my attainability (I was too aloof + we had sex..ehm "sex" on first date) so I tried to be more attainable with next girls but like you can see e.g. in my previous threat, it didn't work for me either, I royally fucked up and lost frame in first 20 minutes.
Attainability (was I too low or too high)? When I have to ask, probably too low.
So was it just weak dick game?
Apologies for long post and maybe ton of useless info.
This one is few months old, but I wasn't aware about this great forum and I would like to get smarter from this fuck up. Because I tried to do my own post portem and my conclusion from this date was obviously (at least judging form results) wrong.
tldr; probably most important is "At my place" and "After date"
Tinder:
Sorry, pretty childish convo, but I think it makes some picture about her, which can be later important (?) (+maybe me)
We matched, I pinged her with compliment+open proposition that we should meet, chatted a little bit, I asked her out she agreed.
On day of the date, early in the morning she sent me message on tinder something like:
Sorry Throw, but I have weird vibes from you, you are too serious and not using and smiles/emoticons, I am not meeting with you today + you look like a serial killer
and arrogant
I told her something like :that's fine, it's tinder and people can resonate differently then whats their intent and yeah..I have buzz cut, so that serial killer vibe is pretty spot on, I told her she has good eye and also.. she is also not using any emoticons.(25y.o ..I am 28,ridiculous convo).
True be told, after she agreed with date wed days prior, I was not very responsive on her messages (I took my time, answer max 1 per day), we sew up date cca 5 days in advance (both busy)
She answered pretty quickly that date is back on the menu boys! ..later during date day she tested me with questions about my height (same like her) and astrology (I sent her overly slushy gif of my sign -> funny and good answer according to her).
Date:
Finally we met, she looks cute, behaves cute and little shy, we are few minutes from bar, we walk there and she is still testing me if the dates go wrong if I am gonna pay for her anyway?
Date goes cool,after few glasses I was able to flirt with her (more than in date from my last threat) but nothing amazing, few touches here and there, but meh, she sits across the table. She looked like a girl full of red flags, tattoos, went on multiple horrible tinder dates, piercings, lots LOTS of cliche phrases. New in town, new job, new career, mediator in parents divorce..loves psychology
heheAfter her 2nd cigarette outside, where she shyly asked me to go (I skipped first one, I felt like I would be following her, I know sounds stupid but I had that feeling with her _> I am not smoker btw) I felt like I have her, strong eye contact and exchange of compliments..but I didn't go for a kiss, I SOMEWHERE read to not kiss in public (simplified)
We went back, I asked for bill but it was taking too long, she somehow asked about feminism -> what do I think?
(I was making fun of her tattoos little bit but always balanced with sincere compliment and I have no idea/recollection how she end up asking me what I think about feminism? hahah)
I have my own though, you can guess I am not a fan but I told her something like "I believe it's everything what man do in his life is mostly from deep love for women, either mother, daughter or wife, and these few men who don't are not going to be fixed by feminism but by other beautiful men like me or something like that, sound all over the place but she seems to be satisfied/surprised by my answer BUT she throw at me bomb-> she was in abusive relationship -> i didn't ask for detail, I agreed that some men are horrible then we SOMEHOW shifted to movies (where the fuck is waiter?!)
I like her, she is cute, we are on same note, seems like a good person. We have some common opinions and hobbies.
Physical escalation
We went to park to little walk to nearest park, she was cute and nervous, she though she is boring me,(few girls told me this on date) I kissed her. Few dates before I messed up this stage with moving girl to my place (or once I moved her to my place, she went to toilet and left -> i dont think she had accident there) so I took it slowly (wrongly..I was lucky she was into me), told her let's walk around (we talked before how we both love that park and streets around it), we hold hands, few kisses here and there and then another deep kiss and I asked her to show me her tattoos at my place.
At my place
We are at my place, she is cute, extremely nice (btw, I strongly believe she had at least 30 bodies, also she mentioned she loves to test guys/make fun from guys on tinder, was on multiple tinder dates), we are passionately kissing but when I am trying to take her shirt of she is little bit protesting but I saw insecurity in her eyes...it took another few minutes of kissing, she was horny, she told me how she is horny but she "cant", she has periods.
I told her no problem, lets just start with taking top off. she was telling me how she is horny, how she wants to have sex with me,"lets meet in 3 days from now when I will dont have periods"...I added some dirty talk what I want to do with her, with her thighs etc., she went crazy with blusing and then took her top off and we are still kissing but jeans are now in a way..now she is telling me she needs to go on toilet, we need to take 10mins off for cigarette
to be honest, it was too long and I was sleepy and drunk, I told her yes, we can take 10 mins of if she will take her jeans of or give me bj. Smiley face.I gave her some instructions how to slowly go and switch some lights off while moving with her ass as much as possible, butat the same time we kept windows open so neighbors can see us (she like it)
She did her toilet business, we are in window smoking and talking, after that I am taking her to bed, jeans are off, she pointed out how she get fat recently (little bit bigger than I was expecting). Still hot.
She starts to sucking me, I am ready for action, she is asking for it...but she also asks for condom. I do not have problem...until today.
Immediately after she put on condom, i went soft.No problemo, we are kissing, snuggling, I told her to jerk me off, atmosphere was cool...5 mins I was back in game..but then guess what? I put condom on and game I went soft again like a fucking boss ahah. She also like to get chocked..and I mean.. I did some mma...but she wanted it harder. Same with slapping.
Here was probably some issue, I wasn't hard enough for her but to be honest, when slapped her, she panicked, so wasn't easy to find balance with her. But the atmosphere was still great, I had some bad sex before and this wasn't atmosphere like I had sometimes after shitty sex.
So we drink wine, talk, she was apologizing that she has this principle with condom, I told her thats fine, atmosphere was really nice, she was at my place at least for an hour after this parody of sex.I was trying to dress up and not stay naked (cold from smoking in window ahaha) but she didn't let me do it, she liked me without shirt. She told me how cool I am and how she need somebody like me in her life.
Later she played with my buzz cut and chest and gave me compliments that how manly I am...I was thinking I will let her sleep over (it was at least half past 4, I was fucking drunk and tired) but I didn't (bad experiences, I didn't want to get her boyfriend vibes but check how I fucked up again in 5..4..3..2..1) but I offered her to take together uber with her to her place (I would go back to my place after dropping her off) and I am not big fan of girls going in this hour alone in uber.
She politely declined, gave me some compliment, we kissed again and agreed we stay in touch.
After date:
around lunch I sent her message on tinder how I enjoyed her and lets exchange some contacts. She asked me for ig, unfortunately I dont have, I gave her fb and number, she added me on fb. She was flirty but again, I was not trying to chat too much (btw, it was day before valentines day) and also, she mentioned before, she has periods next 2days.
She answered me at 3 am (after 6 hour seen cca) on my half sexy message how my hands are healing hand with very dry answer which I do not recall. WE CHAT STILL ON TINDER. I didn't want to be clingy and started to chat with her too much. Also, I was not fast enough to change app for communication from tinder to tinder facebook..i just didn't' managed it, I was feeling like i have time. I would appreciate if you would comment on this.
I answered her that 3 am is too late for cute girl like her to stay up so long (or something in that sense) and again -> long seen (before date and day after date she replied always very quick) and long morning text from her on tinder in sense:
sorry Throw, I was very deeply thinking about myself and I guess it would be fair to say I need pause from meeting with new people now. Even if nigh was great and I enjoyed our time I don't have space for meeting with new people.
I know it sounds horrible, but I need to reflect on myself and see what next . I hope you are noting angry and thanks again for great Saturday. (I realized she blocked me on facebook where we weren't in touch at all).
I text her that its cool but important things like this I discuss over the coffee (she is very into coffee). At least she can bring me her "some meal" recipe and penties for memories
She replied "sorry but I have to cut it" and deleted me from tinder too
Shame. If I would gave her good dick, I would maybe get more date but my assumption is that I messed up with not responding,being too aloof, wrongly estimated her.
Attainability (too high) even with wack dick game? Sounds like BS, that's why I am asking you
I am curious about your questions and advice because ....my take away was that I lost her because of my attainability (I was too aloof + we had sex..ehm "sex" on first date) so I tried to be more attainable with next girls but like you can see e.g. in my previous threat, it didn't work for me either, I royally fucked up and lost frame in first 20 minutes.
Attainability (was I too low or too high)? When I have to ask, probably too low.
So was it just weak dick game?
Apologies for long post and maybe ton of useless info.
