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Okay i've been away for a while, main reason is that i've been fucking around with my head and trying to wait for my problems to solve myself. Yeah, that doesn't work. So after a trip to Barcelona, biting the bullet and going through the basics again i can happily say i'm back on track to getting results.
So i met this lovely much more experienced blonde at a party. She was into from the minute she saw me but i didn't do much. Fast forward a few days and we find ourselves on a date at a dive bar. The night before we did meet up with friends and we made out during a movie but nothing more happened because of our friends being there and having to walk home.
Now the date itself is split into two parts. Part one is dreadful and that's me trying to hard, putting pressure on myself to perform and is just plain bad. I'll skim over the mistakes because the real fun is in part two. I arrive, we kiss as a greeting. I sit and we talk. We talk for a while, the touch is okay but the one on one interaction and conversation is devoid of sexual vibe, flirty banter and deep connection building. To put it simply it felt dry in every sense. Yeah we were talking but there were not emotions being shared, no intrigue being built or anticipation rising. It was a bust. And what didn't help was me trying to fix the problem. I began chasing and my attainability plummeted. Not good and very close to being a fuck up. Luckily we had texted a couple to join us later on as friends. They arrived just as the conversation was about to dry up for good.
So i left her with those two friends (a couple we knew) and when to the toilet to recollect my thoughts. Now from my break in game i can fairly say that i've become pretty shit at a lot of things. But looks, fundamentals and judgement has not suffered at all. In fact going over all the basics and the advanced stuff is not only easier but i'm uncovering and realizing a lot of things i'd never thought of before. So in the toilet i figure that the date looks like it's down the drain, might as well enjoy what i can and have a drink with friends. AND JUST LIKE THAT! the pressure was off. And man, the difference it made!
I return to my seat and my whole body language changes, it just becomes more relaxed and i feel relaxed. Like i'm not chasing or trying for something to happen. I stop trying to make conversation with my date in a forcefully way and even my attention from her drifts. The four of us begin talking normally and casually. Now i'll explain why this was brilliant. During the start of the date, and actually for anyone out there interacting with women, whenever you put expectation or some sort of goal like "she has to like me, i have to take her home, this has to go well," you've just put yourself under a heap of pressure. Now everything you do will be seen as either good + towards the goal or bad + away from that goal. You're going to be stressed, looking and over analyzing every detail and just trying too hard. Think about a guy whose put way too much money on a game and his teams losing, he’s not going to be looking sexy and chill?
In other words instead of having my attainability too low and chasing (by putting all that pressure) it zapped right back up to a good level. I cared still but I wasn’t that stressed, it was more of a detached or playful curiosity. I was open to the idea of her coming around but not dependent on it. And wouldn’t you know, she came around.
After 5-10 minutes of less attention to her the first thing I noticed was her leg brush up against mine. She still talked to the others and bit to me but that was the first little sign. Now I didn’t want to react straight away and push back my attainability to the ground. In fact one thing I’ve realized is how amazing and universal attainability is. It’s everywhere, and paramount to getting girls to chase in seduction!
A while later I lightly brush back with my leg on hers. We look at each other and smile slowly. That vibe and tension starts to spark and build. One thing I am much better at, no matter what is non verbal game, it just comes easy to me and I can feel it much better than words. Anyway we continue to talk as a group, sometimes splitting the conversation two by two and then back to the group.
Slowly her hand rests on my leg and I know better than to not take the opportunity to escalate, so I hold and she holds it back. Things are getting better. I now know I need to get her home soon. But keeping in line with the calm approach I decide to let things play out and see what happens.
Luckily the couple we are with have a mini fight and they start to leave. Bad for them but amazing timing for me haha. They leave and it’s just me and my girl sitting. By this time the nonverbal escalation had built up a good vibe and we talk freely. I put my arm around her and we mention a few things and then I draw her in for a couple of kisses and she happily complies
I mention a good Bollywood film earlier as a setup for an invite and even after the kissed she is resistant. Now I’ve had at least half a hundred girls lost because I didn’t push for the close. So much so that I knew what would happen if I just accepted that answer. I'd go home dissapointed, she'd go home disappointed, and that would be the end of that. So I persisted. She resisted. I persisted, she agreed. And what was amazing was that she genuinely did seem more interested and excited after that. (guess you were right Chase
)
We head over to hers which is just opposite the bar (good planning makes things 100 times easier). Once we head inside we lie on her bed and I set up the film. I make sure that I am close to her and put my arm around her and she cuddles into me.
Now I don’t make the move until a good 20-30 minutes. That’s not out of nervousness or fear. Rather it’s actually quite well paced. I didn’t want to rush or put pressure on myself to start the escalation so instead I just played with her body. Stroking her arm and then leg from time to time. Kissing her and then back to the film. I think it just builds comfort and really shows your confidence. She WILL be wondering whether you are going to make the first move or not and when. So why not build a little anticipation.
Alas my hand brushes under her shirt and over her hard nipple. I can’t contain any longer. I go on top of her and we start escalating. Now I had A LOT of resistance. A LOT. And I loved every minute of it. It’s great to have sex with a girl who puts up no resistance. It feels natural. But breaking though her resistance and then seeing her melt into you afterwards, there is nothing like a good challenge and the reward that comes from beating it.
The first piece is that she tells me she likes me too much. I smile and say something witty and we continue to escalate and talk but i make a note to maybe display less value next time. I keep trying slowly, trying to take her panties off but she isn’t letting me. So I stop. I do nothing and we just go to sleep.
Only that 2 minutes later she’s back on top me, clearly she’s debating this in her head and so we escalate more. Again I try take the panties off but no cigar. So I try a final things I’ve read here on GC. It is definitely daring but man it works. I move her hand and place it on my cock. And…yep, that starts things up.
5 minutes later all the clothes were off for some really fun “loving.” And one things is that there is nothing like fucking a petite girl, you can literally use her like a ragdoll
It was a fun date with a good end that could've gone a different way on many turns. It's shame i spent so long in mental limbo trying to convince myself that my game was okay rather that just going for it and starting from the bottom. Before you know it you'll be well on your way tackling issues that were way above you before your break,
Just leave any thoughts or comments below!
So i met this lovely much more experienced blonde at a party. She was into from the minute she saw me but i didn't do much. Fast forward a few days and we find ourselves on a date at a dive bar. The night before we did meet up with friends and we made out during a movie but nothing more happened because of our friends being there and having to walk home.
Now the date itself is split into two parts. Part one is dreadful and that's me trying to hard, putting pressure on myself to perform and is just plain bad. I'll skim over the mistakes because the real fun is in part two. I arrive, we kiss as a greeting. I sit and we talk. We talk for a while, the touch is okay but the one on one interaction and conversation is devoid of sexual vibe, flirty banter and deep connection building. To put it simply it felt dry in every sense. Yeah we were talking but there were not emotions being shared, no intrigue being built or anticipation rising. It was a bust. And what didn't help was me trying to fix the problem. I began chasing and my attainability plummeted. Not good and very close to being a fuck up. Luckily we had texted a couple to join us later on as friends. They arrived just as the conversation was about to dry up for good.
So i left her with those two friends (a couple we knew) and when to the toilet to recollect my thoughts. Now from my break in game i can fairly say that i've become pretty shit at a lot of things. But looks, fundamentals and judgement has not suffered at all. In fact going over all the basics and the advanced stuff is not only easier but i'm uncovering and realizing a lot of things i'd never thought of before. So in the toilet i figure that the date looks like it's down the drain, might as well enjoy what i can and have a drink with friends. AND JUST LIKE THAT! the pressure was off. And man, the difference it made!
I return to my seat and my whole body language changes, it just becomes more relaxed and i feel relaxed. Like i'm not chasing or trying for something to happen. I stop trying to make conversation with my date in a forcefully way and even my attention from her drifts. The four of us begin talking normally and casually. Now i'll explain why this was brilliant. During the start of the date, and actually for anyone out there interacting with women, whenever you put expectation or some sort of goal like "she has to like me, i have to take her home, this has to go well," you've just put yourself under a heap of pressure. Now everything you do will be seen as either good + towards the goal or bad + away from that goal. You're going to be stressed, looking and over analyzing every detail and just trying too hard. Think about a guy whose put way too much money on a game and his teams losing, he’s not going to be looking sexy and chill?
In other words instead of having my attainability too low and chasing (by putting all that pressure) it zapped right back up to a good level. I cared still but I wasn’t that stressed, it was more of a detached or playful curiosity. I was open to the idea of her coming around but not dependent on it. And wouldn’t you know, she came around.
After 5-10 minutes of less attention to her the first thing I noticed was her leg brush up against mine. She still talked to the others and bit to me but that was the first little sign. Now I didn’t want to react straight away and push back my attainability to the ground. In fact one thing I’ve realized is how amazing and universal attainability is. It’s everywhere, and paramount to getting girls to chase in seduction!
A while later I lightly brush back with my leg on hers. We look at each other and smile slowly. That vibe and tension starts to spark and build. One thing I am much better at, no matter what is non verbal game, it just comes easy to me and I can feel it much better than words. Anyway we continue to talk as a group, sometimes splitting the conversation two by two and then back to the group.
Slowly her hand rests on my leg and I know better than to not take the opportunity to escalate, so I hold and she holds it back. Things are getting better. I now know I need to get her home soon. But keeping in line with the calm approach I decide to let things play out and see what happens.
Luckily the couple we are with have a mini fight and they start to leave. Bad for them but amazing timing for me haha. They leave and it’s just me and my girl sitting. By this time the nonverbal escalation had built up a good vibe and we talk freely. I put my arm around her and we mention a few things and then I draw her in for a couple of kisses and she happily complies
I mention a good Bollywood film earlier as a setup for an invite and even after the kissed she is resistant. Now I’ve had at least half a hundred girls lost because I didn’t push for the close. So much so that I knew what would happen if I just accepted that answer. I'd go home dissapointed, she'd go home disappointed, and that would be the end of that. So I persisted. She resisted. I persisted, she agreed. And what was amazing was that she genuinely did seem more interested and excited after that. (guess you were right Chase
)We head over to hers which is just opposite the bar (good planning makes things 100 times easier). Once we head inside we lie on her bed and I set up the film. I make sure that I am close to her and put my arm around her and she cuddles into me.
Now I don’t make the move until a good 20-30 minutes. That’s not out of nervousness or fear. Rather it’s actually quite well paced. I didn’t want to rush or put pressure on myself to start the escalation so instead I just played with her body. Stroking her arm and then leg from time to time. Kissing her and then back to the film. I think it just builds comfort and really shows your confidence. She WILL be wondering whether you are going to make the first move or not and when. So why not build a little anticipation.
Alas my hand brushes under her shirt and over her hard nipple. I can’t contain any longer. I go on top of her and we start escalating. Now I had A LOT of resistance. A LOT. And I loved every minute of it. It’s great to have sex with a girl who puts up no resistance. It feels natural. But breaking though her resistance and then seeing her melt into you afterwards, there is nothing like a good challenge and the reward that comes from beating it.
The first piece is that she tells me she likes me too much. I smile and say something witty and we continue to escalate and talk but i make a note to maybe display less value next time. I keep trying slowly, trying to take her panties off but she isn’t letting me. So I stop. I do nothing and we just go to sleep.
Only that 2 minutes later she’s back on top me, clearly she’s debating this in her head and so we escalate more. Again I try take the panties off but no cigar. So I try a final things I’ve read here on GC. It is definitely daring but man it works. I move her hand and place it on my cock. And…yep, that starts things up.
5 minutes later all the clothes were off for some really fun “loving.” And one things is that there is nothing like fucking a petite girl, you can literally use her like a ragdoll
It was a fun date with a good end that could've gone a different way on many turns. It's shame i spent so long in mental limbo trying to convince myself that my game was okay rather that just going for it and starting from the bottom. Before you know it you'll be well on your way tackling issues that were way above you before your break,
Just leave any thoughts or comments below!
