FR Petite blonde with bf. Instant date and escalation.

[kristian]

I see her and this time I decide to approach the right way. She did not send me any invitations but I liked her so I went straight up.

Me: (After pre-opening). I just saw you pass me by, (pause) and I had to tell you (pause) that I find you really cute.

She starts smiling and I transitioned from there asking her what she does. She tells me about her studies and her work. She then asks me what I do, and when I said I sing, she smiled warmly asking me even more. I reached the hook point.

And by this time. Just before I was going to give up she appeared. I was glad I ignored my feelings and approached her (after having several failed attempts through the day.

Me: So what are you up to now?
Her: Nothing special, actually. I'm just going to a store and look for some clothes (escalation window).
Me: Why don't we go and grab a coffee?
Her: I already had coffee. (test)
Me: A cup of tea then... Or a soda...
Her: (smiles, I passed the test) Where do you want me to take a coffee?
Me: There's a place nearby actually.

As I was walking with her she says she has a bf. I ignore this and start talking about the weather and so on. She asks me where I live and when I say Tøyen and try to get her there, she says it a little too long (bad logistics I guess). I was thinking I could move her later on. I buy her a coffee and find us a cozy couch and we start talking about music.

After a while, I start touching her arms. Her thighs. She doesn't move. She doesn't protest.

Before this, and in between topics, I make sure she "gets it" (this drove me crazy before when girls didnt know about my intentions). I was looking at her with desire, building up tension by silences and intense stares that ended me triangulating (looking at her eyes and then her mouth). She responds well. Nice.

Her: So how often do you do this? (test)
Me: Do what?
Her: How often do you stop girls like this.
Me: So you think I am a player, huh?
Her: Maybe?
Me: I don't believe in Tinder or online dating. I do not go out at night-clubs. Do I do this every day? No, but when I am inspired and see someone I am attracted to I can start talking. You see, I love women. And when I saw you I just had to talk to you.
Her: (smiling)

Then her sister starts calling and as she was talking to her, I started touching her hands. The place was too crowded and light to just start kissing, so I figured out I could do it outside.

Me: let's go to my place.
Her: I cant. If I do we will end up having sex. I and my BF are trying to figure out things. I have to be honest with you. I like you, but I won't cheat on him.

Which is totally understandable...

After going to the bathroom, we walk outside. Hand in hand. I follow her to the store. Hold her tightly in my arms as I kiss her goodbye on her cheek. She said she loves how approachable I seem (I guess I am attainable) and how direct I am. I say I would love to check out on her in a couple of months. If she is single we could be lovers, I say. She smiles. Then I wave her goodbye.

All this in one hour.

........

I think I needed this. Next time I would move a girl closer to my place and been more persistent. Other than that, I think I pushed myself out of my comfort zone

 

[Inowtakethelead]

Great post!!! Copy and pasted in notes thanks for posting. i need to work on girls shit testing me, i need to have my answers ready.

 

[kristian]

Thank you, man. It means a lot when other recognize my gains!

Passing test is all about exposure and often failing at them. Girls love it when you pass them because they see you as an experienced guy. And that speaks pre-selection.

Do you write a journal? If not, do it pronto. It will catapult your success.