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NarrowJ

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Been meaning to get this up.. It was too good not to share. Anyway, Chase talks about getting pre-selection in front of girls that you maybe messed up with, or they weren’t interested enough, and how powerful the effect can be. This will be a good example of that.

There’s a bar close to my house, and they have THE BEST food. I eat there probably twice a week. Anyway, maybe about 2 months ago they hired this girl. She’s 22, blonde, and very tiny (She’s seriously like 4’11” I would guess). Extremely petite little girl, however she has very large breasts. I don't know how the poor girl carries them around.

She’s a waitress over in the restaurant part of the place and I always sit at the bar when I go in to eat. The waitresses have to come to the bar to get their drinks. I was sitting there one day and she walks up right beside me (I was sitting by where the soda gun is). Immediately noticing how cute she is, I wait for her to look my way and when she does I open her.

Note: Keep in mind this has been almost 2 months ago. I don’t really have recollection of what exactly was said.

Anyway, I tell her how cute she is and ask her how long she’s been working there. She tells me. I can’t really make much conversation with her because she’s busy and coming back and forth. We flirt and tease one another a little. I figure I’m going to stay and have a couple more drinks until the restaurant kind of winds down. Eventually it does, and I ask her if she wants to go have a drink somewhere else with me when she gets off work. She says she can’t, she has to go study. I ask her what she’s studying and we talk about that for a while. It’s really annoying because she has to keep leaving and coming back, so I can’t really run my process. Anyway, at some point she gets to laughing about some comment I’d made about her being in nursing school so she can make boys cough. She agrees to go have a drink with me sometime and I get her #.

I do what I’d usually do and text her an icebreaker text, then a couple days later text her for her schedule. We agree to a date the following Tuesday. Except, we never make it up to that point.

I avoid the bar for the next few days and go to a party (bonfire) out at my friend’s house that weekend. And she’s there. She’s with a girl I know, that used to date a friend of mine. I immediately go talk to her, and we get to talking and stuff and I’m thinking it’s on like Donkey Kong. At some point though, I don’t see her anymore. She had left. I text her and ask her where she went and she says she has to work the lunch hour tomorrow so is at home and going to get to bed. I tell her I’ll see her Tuesday. She doesn’t respond.

Then, she cancels on me the next day. Something has went wrong here, and I think I was having some trouble with my process because of her being busy when I first met her. I couldn’t really run my process like I normally would. Then, we run into each other at a group thing. Hmm, kinda weird.

Anyway, I see her again out at the bar one night like a week and a half later and we flirt and everything and she’s super into it and fueled by the alcohol I end up kissing her out back in the beer garden. We make out some, and I know it was a mistake not to wait until I could get her back to my place. And she does resist when I tell her we should go somewhere more private and she won’t let me escalate in the beer garden either. Anyway, eventually the bar closes and she won’t come home with me. She ends up leaving with the girls she was with.

She texts me the next day saying “Last night was a mistake blah blah blah I really like you as a friend blah blah blah” whatever. I could care less. I had fun messing around with her, and for some reason there’s this feeling in my gut that I’ll end up with her.

And I would.

Saturday night I’m going out to the bar with a bunch of friends for a costume contest. I bring my costume over to his house, planning to change there. I get there, and she’s in the kitchen playing cards with a couple of really good friends of mine. I'm thinking "well this is swell. She's becoming part of my social circle". Oh well, I had all but forgotten about her. This is where is where shit gets interesting (and a little comical too).

She is probably about 4 beers deep already, which for someone of her size, she’s having a good time. She sees me and immediately comes up and gives me a big hug and tries to kiss me in front of everyone. I am completely astounded by her doing this. I don’t know what to think. I’m just… bamboozled.

Anyway, one of my friends (female) that she’s been playing cards with is an ex-girlfriend of mine. Unbeknownst to me, they’ve been talking about me while they were playing cards. My female friend had told her she used to date me and that I gave her the best sex she’s ever had, and somehow they got into this girl-competition about which one of them I would rather get with tonight (this was made known to me by my other friend (guy) that was sitting with them playing cards).

I kind of pry her off of me and head to the bathroom to change into my costume. She follows me in there and starts undoing my belt. I’m like what are you doing, girl?!! But hell, I’m going to let her 

She undoes my pants and gives me a bj, and eventually I get her naked and do her on the sink. People knock on the door to use the bathroom but we just ignore them for about the next 30 minutes or so.

NJ
 

Eternity

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Damn Bro, you are getting as good as Chase im really impressed at how you bed these girls. Were you this good in school or less? What's your process to get past the deep diving stage? This is where i cannot pass with some girls, the middle to the closing part. Can i P.M when i need some advice?
 

Franco

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Ahh... pre-selection. The ultimate "get her back" Kool-Aid that you can drink.

Good one, NJ. ;)

- Franco
 

Supah

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Cool story man, very nice how you handled things.

Cheers, supah
 

Marty

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NJ:

This is stunning in its effortlessness. From her perspective it must have seemed like you didn't actually do anything at all—she did practically all the work!

So glad that you closed the deal.

NarrowJ said:
She texts me the next day saying “Last night was a mistake blah blah blah I really like you as a friend blah blah blah” whatever.
Any idea why she did this? I know you say you don't care, as you have true abundance, but just out of interest for the rest of us... was it a test? Was she ensuring you were strong enough not to care and instead react like this:

NarrowJ said:
I could care less. I had fun messing around with her
...which shows outcome independence, detachment and confidence that you can make it happen anyway?

Terrific report!

-Marty
 
the right date makes getting her back home a piece of cake

nino

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Nice job, especially setting the frame that now she's the one chasing you.

NarrowJ said:
She texts me the next day saying “Last night was a mistake blah blah blah I really like you as a friend blah blah blah” whatever. I could care less. I had fun messing around with her, and for some reason there’s this feeling in my gut that I’ll end up with her.

And I would.

That "And I would" makes me believe you texted her back in order to end things. Any memory on how you did it? Also, if let's say you wouldn't want to end it, do you text something back or ignore her?
 

ocantu1987

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Nice LR NJ, quick question, did you ask her if she was single before you grabbed her number and invited her for a date?

I am still debating on whether I should ask if she is single first or skip it and just talk, deep dive, and tease a lil bit then grab the digits.
 

NarrowJ

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Eternity,

... Were you this good in school or less? What's your process to get past the deep diving stage? This is where i cannot pass with some girls, the middle to the closing part. Can i P.M when i need some advice?

Yeah, I'd say I was really pretty good with girls in general back when I was in school. I got sidetracked for 8, 9 years in a relationship and it was a huge setback, to be honest. All the stuff that had came naturally to me before, I had to kind of "re-experience women" a little bit to get it back (and this site helped me do that). Then, I started accumulating all this knowledge here, that even guys that are naturally good with women don't really know, and just sort of put all of it together.

Getting past deep diving: I'm not real sure what you mean here. I assume you're talking about physical escalation. Anyway, that's a huge, huge topic and there's way more to it than I can fit in this reply. We could literally go on about it forever. I would say go read all the articles about getting compliance, getting investment, making a girl comfortable, and anything having to do with physical escalation. I think the push/pull article (I think it's an older one) would be a good one for you too.

And yeah, man. PM me anytime.



Marty, Nino,

I think you guys were both kind of asking the same thing there. How I handled her text message the morning after we made out in the beer garden. I just responded: "lol ok... ;)" and she actually texted me back "What's so funny?!!" and then I didn't ever respond to that one. My thought process there was just that it makes no sense to push with a girl that's telling me stuff like that, and I knew her actions when we're together spoke otherwise, and it just gave me this gut feeling that I could get with her, but would have to work on her in person. I was getting nowhere with her via text (the "safe distance" thing, maybe?).

This has became an issue with a few girls lately, where they hide their interest. It seems like they think I'm eventually going to cave and chase them. Not real sure if it's just a coincidence or what, but I'm trying to figure out what the deal is, and re-calibrate myself and make some tweaks if needed. I think the more I learn, the more all of this is just different to me, and I have to revisit a lot of things I'm doing and make changes here and there. I mean, all of us are ever-evolving...



ocantu,

Did you ask her if she was single before you grabbed her number and invited her for a date?

Yeah, I should have added that. I usually ask right after I tell them I think they're cute (or whatever direct comment I make). Like: "You're super cute. Are you single?"



NJ
 
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