Phenomenon: How is your taste in women formed?

[Zoro]

I've noticed that my taste in women will change after a relationship. Mainly I'll be attracted to women who look like the girl I just dated.

Girls that I didn't really pay too much attention to, I'll suddenly be much more attracted to them if they look like a girl I had a strong emotional sexually charged connection with...

Chase I know you love them studies, have you come across anything on how our taste in lovers is formed?

Anyone else experience a similar phenomenon? Or have experiences that differ?

I'm pretty fond of blondes. Natural blondes with pale skin. The relationship I am fond of most in my life was with a natural blonde with pale skin. Is this the only reason? I'd like to know more.

 

[Richard]

I've noticed that my taste in women will change after a relationship. Mainly I'll be attracted to women who look like the girl I just dated.

Girls that I didn't really pay too much attention to, I'll suddenly be much more attracted to them if they look like a girl I had a strong emotional sexually charged connection with...

Chase I know you love them studies, have you come across anything on how our taste in lovers is formed?

Anyone else experience a similar phenomenon? Or have experiences that differ?

I'm pretty fond of blondes. Natural blondes with pale skin. The relationship I am fond of most in my life was with a natural blonde with pale skin. Is this the only reason? I'd like to know more.

J,

I was deeply curious about this topic when I was in my social psych class and I had to do a presentation on any topic in psychology; the caveat being I had to add some theory or flare of my own to the work so I picked attraction. Psychology says a lot about how attraction works from you being more likely to become attracted to someone you see more, in closer proximity, etc. but I wanted to know where does initial attraction come from, and why do people have "types?" Why do Latinas turn me on, initially, so much more than other women?

Well, I interviewed a lot of people and came to a broad conclusion. This is by no means proven, and it's a theory I came up with to get an A.

Anyway, my theory was that at the earliest ages in your life when your ability to feel stronger, and more "human" (that is, emotions distinct to humans alone) emotions then the first "surge" of emotion you feel around the opposite sex (or same sex for that matter) then that person becomes your "prototype" or "archetype" or "schema." Psychology does say that you're more often attracted to people who resemble your parent of the opposite sex which is natural if you feel this first "surge" around your parent.

As you get older, then, your "schema" or idea of what is attractive becomes more loose to incorporate a larger population into your potential pool. So, instead of being hell-bent on finding a Latina with black hair, double Ds, a cute smile, etc. then you become more loose about what you will and will not accept so, she does have to be a Latina, but she can have smaller tits, etc.

However, some characteristics become fundamental to what is attractive to you and you don't loosen up on or if you do loosen up you still prefer those characteristics over anything else. So, for you it's blondes: you're more naturally attracted to the fundamental characteristic of a girl being "blonde" just as I'm more initially attracted to a woman who is distinctively "Latina."

Make sense?

Also, another theory that has been proposed is that you initially have no "type" and that it, instead, develops as you date more and more women and you find out what you do and do not like. I'm pretty sure it's also been shown that most girlfriends proceeding your first girlfriend will resemble her more and more.

I prefer to mix the two together, though. Maybe you were watching a movie when you were 3 or 4, and had a "surge" when you saw a blonde actor. From that point on you knew what your first characteristic to look for was: "a blonde" and then as you date more and more you narrow down what you do and do not like in women, etc.

I'd be curious to know what you think about this, J Wick?

-Richard

 

[Zoro]

Why do Latinas turn me on, initially, so much more than other women?

I had to chuckle to myself because you're the perfect person to answer this question. Thanks for the response

Anyway, my theory was that at the earliest ages in your life when your ability to feel stronger, and more "human" (that is, emotions distinct to humans alone) emotions then the first "surge" of emotion you feel around the opposite sex (or same sex for that matter) then that person becomes your "prototype" or "archetype" or "schema." Psychology does say that you're more often attracted to people who resemble your parent of the opposite sex which is natural if you feel this first "surge" around your parent.

I've heard this before (maybe from you?) and I think its interesting and makes sense to me. I'd love to see your theory explored deeper.

Questions. Do you remember that surge event? Did your interviewees? I'm going to think back more on it, but at the top of my head I don't really remember anything like that.

As you get older, then, your "schema" or idea of what is attractive becomes more loose to incorporate a larger population into your potential pool. So, instead of being hell-bent on finding a Latina with black hair, double Ds, a cute smile, etc. then you become more loose about what you will and will not accept so, she does have to be a Latina, but she can have smaller tits, etc.

Yup, this has been my experience. I used to absolutely love big tits (first girl friend, also blonde) then I dated a petite girl with smaller tits and while I still like some size to play with, I admire the smaller sizes more.

Also, another theory that has been proposed is that you initially have no "type" and that it, instead, develops as you date more and more women and you find out what you do and do not like. I'm pretty sure it's also been shown that most girlfriends proceeding your first girlfriend will resemble her more and more.

I'm going to go and say this issue is probably not black and white and many factors may go into our "initial personal attraction." Being a reader of GC, I know that I want to expand my horizons and sample all the flavors and also that I can't say I don't like something or do like something until I've tried it out.

I'm still on the inexperienced side and haven't slept with many women, so I've noticed significant changes in my tastes and ideas about women when I have sex with a new woman. Unpleasant sexual partners seem to turn me a little off to their lookalikes and the most pleasant partners strengthen my desire for their lookalikes, especially if its cumulative (more blondes for me, more latinas for you)

I don't doubt that more peasants experiences with cuties outside my current preference will increase my attraction to look a likes.

Can't speak for J Wick but I think there's a lot of truth in that. Another thing I've had people confirm to an extent is facial structure. Mainly how the head and face looks. I have an angular face and tend to like girls with the same. My mother also has one so this links back to your theory.

This reminds me of something that may be relevant and definitely is curiously interesting.

I have noticed that when I travel I'll see people who look like people I know back home. If i'm in Chicago, I'll call them Chicago's Fred or Bob. I even experienced this when I went to Japan. I was seeing Japanese versions of friends and acquaintances back home. It was quite humorous. Lately I've been seeing more 'dopplegangers" and I've had people tell me I look like someone they know. There is a black guy I work with who looks just like my white friend. And in this case it is not only facial structure, but demeanor, body shape, and they even both have dreadlocks.

Now, my father once told me that he heard all humans can be traced to 7 mothers. I heard it again from somewhere the number was 70. (maybe he had misspoken). I think this is a deeply intriguing suggestion and deserves a whole discussion on its own. But I find it relevant here.

Could the link between the women we desire actually run deeper than looks? Maybe the look-a-likes are less coincidentally similar than we think.

 

[Zoro]

The gears in my head are cranking!

Please anyone who shares, if you have a definite type, let us know about it!

I'm going to share some pictures of girls who fit my "type" well and then girls I'm attracted to, but who do not fit my type.

She reminds me of the blonde that I had my favorite relationship to date with, and has many of the qualities of my "type"

This girl STRONGLY reminds me of a pleasant ex girlfriend.

Now girls that aren't my type but attract me.

I'm going to say feminine demeanor is definitely a strong element to my type. The more feminine, the more better.

In fact, coupled with this article http://naughtynomad.com/2015/04/22/are-white-women-naturally-more-attractive/ (written by a man with a strong preference for black women) I'm now confused if my type is blondes at all, but maybe what I have learned to be feminine traits (biology confirming good mothers?)

If I think about it, I have a strong preference for natural beauty and a dislike for makeup, fake tits, hair coloring, etc. Am I consciously seeking out the best mothers?

I'm starting to wonder if blondes are really my type at all. I am beginning to think that somewhere I'm looking at this too black and white. I think there are girls who do not fit my type and can arouse and attract me just as much as my type. The difference may be that I am consciously seeking out the type I know best because nature loves streamlining sex.

 

[mb1]

Not to discount the psychological factor, as both nature and nuture likely have a hand in the game. Still, perhaps part of your attraction's a subconscious guide towards finding the ideal DNA match. Sex exists for making babies. We'd be self-replicating if combining genes with another being for immune system benefits wasn't more evolutionarily competitive against parasites. Even the female orgasm's function is to open up for sperm. The guy who can make her cum likely has the higher quality seed right? Those tits make MILK, and feminine girls likely would make for more nurturing mothers.

http://www.theguardian.com/lifeandstyle ... ct-partner

 

[Zoro]

Not to discount the psychological factor, as both nature and nuture likely have a hand in the game. Still, perhaps part of your attraction's a subconscious guide towards finding the ideal DNA match. Sex exists for making babies. We'd be self-replicating if combining genes with another being for immune system benefits wasn't more evolutionarily competitive against parasites. Even the female orgasm's function is to open up for sperm. The guy who can make her cum likely has the higher quality seed right? Those tits make MILK, and feminine girls likely would make for more nurturing mothers.

http://www.theguardian.com/lifeandstyle ... ct-partner

Yeah, definitely a biological factor in attraction. But here I'm wondering about the attraction preference for certain looks. Does Richard subconsciously view latinas as better mothers? Do I see petite blondes as better mothers?

If so, why the distinction?

Is this based on feminine qualities observed through experience with certain girls?

Is there more to it than just seeking quality genes and attributes for making babies?

If I have more pleasant experiences and sex with latinas will start to crave them too? Is that my biology's way of seeking what it already knows as good quality baby makers through a first hand experience or is it because of a more mental demand?

I'm going to need more data ;}

 

[Richard]

Not to discount the psychological factor, as both nature and nuture likely have a hand in the game. Still, perhaps part of your attraction's a subconscious guide towards finding the ideal DNA match. Sex exists for making babies. We'd be self-replicating if combining genes with another being for immune system benefits wasn't more evolutionarily competitive against parasites. Even the female orgasm's function is to open up for sperm. The guy who can make her cum likely has the higher quality seed right? Those tits make MILK, and feminine girls likely would make for more nurturing mothers.

http://www.theguardian.com/lifeandstyle ... ct-partner

Interestingly enough, this is also covered in some areas of psychology that people consider to be "dark side-ish." Men are more attracted to women who's bodies show features that suggest higher fertility success rates such as wider hips for instance. So, you're not really discounting nature or nurture but instead simply shedding light on topics most people feel uncomfortable bringing up

I'd argue, though, that features that suggest higher fertility rates only marginally increase attraction. Basically, if you take two identical women but give one of them wider hips then I'd agree that most men take the "hips" version of the woman. But, compare that woman to another woman who isn't your type but has fertility qualities then I'd say most men still roll with their "type."

Questions. Do you remember that surge event? Did your interviewees? I'm going to think back more on it, but at the top of my head I don't really remember anything like that.

Yeah I do, and after some prompting many people I interviewed did. As it turned out many people did look for qualities of the parent of the opposite sex, in the case where parent's (like my case) weren't around enough to make that kind of impression it was usually a peer who stood or somebody famous. In reading your question I also wonder if you generalize an idea of your "type" based on how many surges you have with different "types" of women.

So, maybe your first "surge" was because of a blonde. But, following that you had 15 around brunette women. I think you'd start to recognize the pattern unconsciously. In my case, the fist girl I "liked" was named Champagne (a Latina), first in a movie was Michelle Rodriguez (a Latina) and so on. Obviously, I've experienced a lot of women and can pretty much speak to having fucked across the ethnicity board, my predominant taste is still Latinas.

-Richard

What I'm saying is that their is a difference between looking to have a baby, and looking to get your dick wet. The two, as we all know, aren't mutually exclusive anymore.

 

[Lawliet]

Perhaps taste in women changes over time as we get advanced too?
What do you bros think?

@Richard did you always have a thing for latina or was it different before?

Lawliet