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Hey guys,
I just got back from a weekend at the big state school visiting some friends. I spent Friday night, all of Saturday, and Sunday morning there. Friday night we partied hard. We had a bunch of people in my friend's room, and lots of drinking ensued. Ended up blacking out and passing out, but if I hadn't I almost definitely would've hooked up one of two specific girls that were there. Fuck, my bad. But my physical game was nice, so that was good.
After the weekend ended, I came to the realization that my physical game has significantly improved recently. I'm getting a lot better at leading girls, using touch to up the sexual tension, and then escalating. Honestly, my verbal game during parties/nighttime game is still a bit weak (not too bad but not my strong suit), and that's more so just me not always knowing exactly what to say/talk about. It can be really loud and hard to have a conversation with a girl at a party, and it's harder to deep-dive girls. Sure it can be done, but when I've been relying too much on talking/verbal game and not using touch early on, I tend to struggle. Instead, I just keep things light and playful while being sexy and mysterious, and then get physical with the girl early on and continue throughout the interaction. I came up with somewhat of a mini-guide to how I use touch to run my interactions at college (and previously high school) parties. There are many ways to do this, but this is what I commonly do. It can work during the day and/or when it's not a party, but you just have to calibrate the touch for the situation.
First off, breaking that initial touch barrier is super important. A lot of my game comes from turning a girl on through touch, so incidental touch early on is always good. When you meet a girl, shaking hands and lingering/holding a couple seconds longer than normal (or as long as you can/want to) is good. If you already know the girl, hug her and hold the hug a bit longer; when you release, move your hands to her hips, look her in the eyes, smile, and greet her ("How's it going?/How you doing?"). This really just gets her more comfortable with your touch, and opens up the later moves. As the interaction moves along, you want to be increasing your touch. If she's got rings or bracelets or whatever, I'll tell her to give me her hand, inspect the accessory, and ask her about it. Basic stuff like this. You can even high-five a girl if she says something you like or can relate to, however I feel this can be a little too friendly if you don't use it right though, so be careful. If you do use this, you want to hold her hand a little bit afterwards, kinda like lingering during the handshake, and don't overuse it either.
As you move it along, you can put your hand on her elbow every now and then, hand on the small of her back when walking with her or standing up, or even holding her hand while leading her. If she starts touching you back, that's very good. I always tend to have a bit of a playful vibe going on. I'll tease her a little, then maybe she'll try to playfully slap my arm, and I'll catch it and hold it. Doesn't always play out exactly like this, but either way we're both getting comfortable touching each other. The space/distance between you two should be decreasing and you two should be getting a lot closer too. After a little bit, especially if there's a loud party music going on, I'll have her get up or move her and tell her to come dance with me (sometimes not so verbal). Then I lead her to a place where we can move a little bit, and we dance. Sometimes I'm holding her hand(s) while we dance, but either way I soon get her grinding on me, have my hands running along and grabbing her hips, her waist, her booty, etc. After dancing, I'll sit her down on a couch or on a bed in another room. Hand on the leg and/or arm over her shoulder. Talk a little bit (or not if you're like me and go straight for the kill), if you're holding drinks set them down, and kiss. Then escalate to sex. Pretty simple.
Throughout this interaction, it's also good to have her mutually escalating touch on you. First it'll be just simple and lighter stuff, and then she'll be lightly hitting or slapping you or whatever, then she'll have her hand on your chest or her arms around you, etc.
Again, this is just a rough guide. Sometimes I'll start dancing with her much more quickly if it's a lot louder, darker, and more energetic. Other times I'll skip the dancing all together and go straight to another room if it's a lot more chill and low key. My logistics are always shit, I'm 18 and live at home, so I can't normally pull her out to my place, especially when I live far away from where the parties are. If your logistics are good, you can get her ass out of there. In terms of stuff I talk to her about, it's very basic deep diving/getting to know you stuff, not diving to the depths of the Pacific Ocean or anything. I keep it light, flirty, fun, and let my physical game do the talking, no pun intended. The verbal part of my game could use some work to make me more balanced and well-rounded, but for now I don't worry about what to say, because when I do I just psych myself out. So I just let things come naturally to me.
Let me know what you guys think.
Cheers,
Pato
I just got back from a weekend at the big state school visiting some friends. I spent Friday night, all of Saturday, and Sunday morning there. Friday night we partied hard. We had a bunch of people in my friend's room, and lots of drinking ensued. Ended up blacking out and passing out, but if I hadn't I almost definitely would've hooked up one of two specific girls that were there. Fuck, my bad. But my physical game was nice, so that was good.
After the weekend ended, I came to the realization that my physical game has significantly improved recently. I'm getting a lot better at leading girls, using touch to up the sexual tension, and then escalating. Honestly, my verbal game during parties/nighttime game is still a bit weak (not too bad but not my strong suit), and that's more so just me not always knowing exactly what to say/talk about. It can be really loud and hard to have a conversation with a girl at a party, and it's harder to deep-dive girls. Sure it can be done, but when I've been relying too much on talking/verbal game and not using touch early on, I tend to struggle. Instead, I just keep things light and playful while being sexy and mysterious, and then get physical with the girl early on and continue throughout the interaction. I came up with somewhat of a mini-guide to how I use touch to run my interactions at college (and previously high school) parties. There are many ways to do this, but this is what I commonly do. It can work during the day and/or when it's not a party, but you just have to calibrate the touch for the situation.
First off, breaking that initial touch barrier is super important. A lot of my game comes from turning a girl on through touch, so incidental touch early on is always good. When you meet a girl, shaking hands and lingering/holding a couple seconds longer than normal (or as long as you can/want to) is good. If you already know the girl, hug her and hold the hug a bit longer; when you release, move your hands to her hips, look her in the eyes, smile, and greet her ("How's it going?/How you doing?"). This really just gets her more comfortable with your touch, and opens up the later moves. As the interaction moves along, you want to be increasing your touch. If she's got rings or bracelets or whatever, I'll tell her to give me her hand, inspect the accessory, and ask her about it. Basic stuff like this. You can even high-five a girl if she says something you like or can relate to, however I feel this can be a little too friendly if you don't use it right though, so be careful. If you do use this, you want to hold her hand a little bit afterwards, kinda like lingering during the handshake, and don't overuse it either.
As you move it along, you can put your hand on her elbow every now and then, hand on the small of her back when walking with her or standing up, or even holding her hand while leading her. If she starts touching you back, that's very good. I always tend to have a bit of a playful vibe going on. I'll tease her a little, then maybe she'll try to playfully slap my arm, and I'll catch it and hold it. Doesn't always play out exactly like this, but either way we're both getting comfortable touching each other. The space/distance between you two should be decreasing and you two should be getting a lot closer too. After a little bit, especially if there's a loud party music going on, I'll have her get up or move her and tell her to come dance with me (sometimes not so verbal). Then I lead her to a place where we can move a little bit, and we dance. Sometimes I'm holding her hand(s) while we dance, but either way I soon get her grinding on me, have my hands running along and grabbing her hips, her waist, her booty, etc. After dancing, I'll sit her down on a couch or on a bed in another room. Hand on the leg and/or arm over her shoulder. Talk a little bit (or not if you're like me and go straight for the kill), if you're holding drinks set them down, and kiss. Then escalate to sex. Pretty simple.
Throughout this interaction, it's also good to have her mutually escalating touch on you. First it'll be just simple and lighter stuff, and then she'll be lightly hitting or slapping you or whatever, then she'll have her hand on your chest or her arms around you, etc.
Again, this is just a rough guide. Sometimes I'll start dancing with her much more quickly if it's a lot louder, darker, and more energetic. Other times I'll skip the dancing all together and go straight to another room if it's a lot more chill and low key. My logistics are always shit, I'm 18 and live at home, so I can't normally pull her out to my place, especially when I live far away from where the parties are. If your logistics are good, you can get her ass out of there. In terms of stuff I talk to her about, it's very basic deep diving/getting to know you stuff, not diving to the depths of the Pacific Ocean or anything. I keep it light, flirty, fun, and let my physical game do the talking, no pun intended. The verbal part of my game could use some work to make me more balanced and well-rounded, but for now I don't worry about what to say, because when I do I just psych myself out. So I just let things come naturally to me.
Let me know what you guys think.
Cheers,
Pato
