Pick up had me neglecting my carreer. Now where do I go from here?

[kristian]

The better I become at understanding women, relationships and dating, the more I realize how much I've been neglecting my career.

At first, I did not have a clue of what I wanted to do, so I did what I was told - until the age of 27 when I decided to leave the woman I was with to "see what else was out there".

The last two and a half years I've been mostly focused on pick up, so much I haven't done anything career-wise. While working hard to transform myself as a highter-value guy (and working part-time to devote my energy at understanding women) I've seemed my non-seduction friends get promoted, advance in their careers, settle down and so on.

I haven't thought that much about it since I get so focused on improving one skill at a time (and this has been the most important for a while) - but now that I finally feel like I have choice with women I also realized that I paid a big price; not having any financial security.

As a result, I recently decided to get the money aspect down.

But a scary thought has kept me awake for many nights; was all that sacrifice even worth it? And if I continue this road, in what way can seduction skills help you in your career?

Just to put it out there: going through this journey has made me a better man in many ways so I don't regret it at all - but I know I would have been better off financially at least if I just decided not to do this and that thought has been bugging me lately. I regret not being able to keep my eye on my job opportunities at all while working on seduction skill and that's really bothering me.

I will turn 32 in January.

Any advice and thoughts about this will be extremely helpful.

 

[addman16]

This is something I can really relate to except the level of prefer made. I had very severe social anxiety where I would have panic attacks in a mall. However when I entered college I decided I was going to fix myself the best I could. I got better, I slept with a few women, had a few relationships, some make outs at a club but still I have massive approach anxiety and literally don't have any friends left.

All my friends are getting married, etc.

I think the key word here I failed to realize, im 31 now btw, was balance and opportunity cost. It took me twelve years to graduate college. I had been accepted to the top engineering schools in the country, yet I decided to go to a local party school hoping it would help and it did to some extent but I paid too high a price for the results.

I think life has many different facet's that add up to make a happy person.

Just like I paid too high a price giving up my forte career and education, you might feel you paid too high a price.

I think you should def focus on your career and bring pickup into a more balanced place where you change the priority it has.

Pickup is great for learning people skills, there are many jobs that require excellent communication. So many of today's high paying jobs are more people managing leading and organizing based rather than specific knowledge

 

[Michal]

Most of those friends you see get promoted do that, I assume, in a corporate setting. Meaning there is a path and after some time, they get promoted if they "deserve it". But jobs and career are skill based mostly so you can put your newly mastered communication skills to use. Just find the career you like and which requires that skill set.
There are many ways to earn money.

Btw imagine the opposite - you had all the money you wanted but could not seduce a fattie to save your life so your only girlfriend options would be golddggers who would you get tired of fast because they would not like you for you but for your resources.

Balance is the key. But the question is whether you have monetizable skills.