Calls & Texts Ping her or wait

[ElderPrice]

Been thinking about this lately, and after reading the articles here on the subject, plus a couple forum threads, I can't tell what the best thing to do is for this situation.

Let's say it's a girl you've been on a date with and the last time you spoke you generally agreed on the next date which is 7-10 days away. Or maybe it's a busy girl and it's on her to let you know when she has some free time coming up, maybe she works 3 jobs or 2 jobs and a kid, something like that. Or maybe it's even a girl that's seemingly been into you for a while, but you two have such different schedules, they just haven't been able to align yet.

In cases like this, if the girl isn't the one reaching out to you to follow up, what's the better approach - Ping her after some reasonable amount of time to be persistent, or to never text her and if she's interested, well then she'll have to be the one to reach out first?

 

[BigPapa]

when in doubt , ping her

and always take the lead in the seduction process , never tell her to get in contact with you , you are not a rockstar that tours the world ... yet

 

[Mr.Rob]

Ping her after some reasonable amount of time to be persistent, or to never text her and if she's interested, well then she'll have to be the one to reach out first?

Definitely not the latter.

Im not an expert texter by any means but I think ideally if it's that long of a wait it's not a bad idea to ping her with a quick connecting/fun text that contextually makes sense (so she smiles and remembers you) ... And then when closer to meet up then text/call to get her schedule to plan the date.

Yes you should absolutely always follow up a minimum of 2 times for every girl. That's just good sales 101.

In sales (and women) you have to do the work each step of the way if you want their business.

The buyer has options (and hopefully you do too) and unless they really want what your selling our you did an outstanding sales pitch (which makes up maybe 30% let's say if ur really good)... Then if you want those last 70% to buy you gotta keep yourself top of mind and make it happen.

Otherwise your competition will.

 

[Skills]

i found this year the best ping ever...

the eyes emojij... is neutral, means nothing i learned it from women

When using emojis what does the two eyes mean?

Answer (1 of 5): 👀these? A few things in different context. 1. I'm watching you 👀 (if you're say outside their house waiting for them to get ready) 2. 👀!!! (What! No way!. Like the shocked expression widening your eyes) 3. You couldnt stop staring at them! 👀👀👀👀 (making googly eyes at them or m...

www.quora.com

 

[BigPapa]

@Skills never used it , but it does not really sounds right to me to just send that emoji . It can easily be ignored , because like you said , it does not mean anything

 

[Skills]

@Skills never used it , but it does not really sounds right to me to just send that emoji . It can easily be ignored , because like you said , it does not mean anything

is like i am looking at you.... The whole point of the ping is to get a response, if she does not respond, then she is likely not interested... i love that ping for my style... Again i learned it from women. Try it to see if it works for you...

 

[Skills]

some times i ping crazy shit!

me:no hi! no i miss you! no nothing! you disappoint son

 

[ElderPrice]

is like i am looking at you.... The whole point of the ping is to get a response, if she does not respond, then she is likely not interested... i love that ping for my style... Again i learned it from women. Try it to see if it works for you...

I'm totally stealing this for a while. I tried it with a lot of people this week. A couple girls I saw last week, some dead tinder conversations, some friends. Not too many responses, but I don't blame the emoji. I think a single emoji is a great, low effort idea to quickly find out who's interested in you and who isn't.

 

[ElderPrice]

Definitely not the latter.

Im not an expert texter by any means but I think ideally if it's that long of a wait it's not a bad idea to ping her with a quick connecting/fun text that contextually makes sense (so she smiles and remembers you) ... And then when closer to meet up then text/call to get her schedule to plan the date.

Yes you should absolutely always follow up a minimum of 2 times for every girl. That's just good sales 101.

In sales (and women) you have to do the work each step of the way if you want their business.

The buyer has options (and hopefully you do too) and unless they really want what your selling our you did an outstanding sales pitch (which makes up maybe 30% let's say if ur really good)... Then if you want those last 70% to buy you gotta keep yourself top of mind and make it happen.

Otherwise your competition will.

What are your thoughts on how this compares to the idea that you're in the best position when you're not the one doing the chasing?

 

[Mr.Rob]

What are your thoughts on how this compares to the idea that you're in the best position when you're not the one doing the chasing?

Well I wouldn't consider pinging a girl chasing. It's more a litmus test to gauge her interest and a tool to rekindle interest.

Your the man you have to lead and make things happen. Most girls, even if they like you, arent going to make it that easy for you.

Sending a quick "hey [name] thinking drinks at the islander is the move after work this week. Whats ur sched looking like?" ... Thats just moving things forward.

A lot of guys sign up for the free consult at GC and we'll have a good convo but they're not ready to buy straight away. Even if I do the most killer sales pitch of my life you know what happens if I never follow up with them? NOTHING.

You know what happens when I just reach back out and see where they're at? Well some guys tell me they're good... but a good percentage of them thank me for reaching back out and drop $3K for coaching on the spot.

It's the same with women.

Now are there guys that have laser fine tuned game where they specialize in getting girls super invested/aroused and then just peel off and leave them begging for more?

Sure. And if you've got game where you can do that consistently then more power to you.

But even if that guy only waits for the girl to follow up he's still going to leave girls on the table... And all it takes is a simple little text ;o

 

[Skills]

By the way girls ping guys too and when they do, you need to jump on the opportunity fast, cause sometimes there is a short window....

The girls i ping for me is fuck you money, nothing to lose... those are the ones i ping i really don't care...

i even ping this shit to a bunch of women (i ping the link not the article the forum is doing that):

Economic impact payments: What you need to know | Internal Revenue Service

IR-2020-61, March 30, 2020 — The Treasury Department and the Internal Revenue Service today announced that distribution of economic impact payments will begin in the next three weeks and will be distributed automatically, with no action required for most people. Updated with new information for...

www.irs.gov

P.S. When i ping i don't ping one women i ping like 10 minimum to see who bites

pinging one women is meh

 

[ElderPrice]

Well I wouldn't consider pinging a girl chasing. It's more a litmus test to gauge her interest and a tool to rekindle interest.

Your the man you have to lead and make things happen. Most girls, even if they like you, arent going to make it that easy for you.

Sending a quick "hey [name] thinking drinks at the islander is the move after work this week. Whats ur sched looking like?" ... Thats just moving things forward.

A lot of guys sign up for the free consult at GC and we'll have a good convo but they're not ready to buy straight away. Even if I do the most killer sales pitch of my life you know what happens if I never follow up with them? NOTHING.

You know what happens when I just reach back out and see where they're at? Well some guys tell me they're good... but a good percentage of them thank me for reaching back out and drop $3K for coaching on the spot.

It's the same with women.

Now are there guys that have laser fine tuned game where they specialize in getting girls super invested/aroused and then just peel off and leave them begging for more?

Sure. And if you've got game where you can do that consistently then more power to you.

But even if that guy only waits for the girl to follow up he's still going to leave girls on the table... And all it takes is a simple little text ;o

All makes sense. I think there are a few points to consider for me to answer my own OP.

1. Pinging is just a follow up or check-in.
2. Following up is just good sales form whether you feel the lead will respond favorably or not.
3. A ping, especially if it's as simple as an emoji or sharing IRS info like Skills posted, is not chasing.
4. A ping won't turn a girl off. If she's not interested, she wasn't going to respond to anything.

 

[Skills]

All makes sense. I think there are a few points to consider for me to answer my own OP.

1. Pinging is just a follow up or check-in.
2. Following up is just good sales form whether you feel the lead will respond favorably or not.
3. A ping, especially if it's as simple as an emoji or sharing IRS info like Skills posted, is not chasing.
4. A ping won't turn a girl off. If she's not interested, she wasn't going to respond to anything.

i did a video breaking down pinging like a baby, i got not love in the video cause i was in one of my trolling moods but if you disregard my trolling i break it down really deep:

 

[Mr.Rob]

@ElderPrice thats a good summary.

I guess you could differentiate a ping from a follow up as in what Skills suggested is a ping (just reminds her you exist and baits her to respond) and a follow up would be like either starting a text convo that leads to you getting her schedule and plan another date OR just a simple text that gets straight to the point.

In both cases if she likes you she will respond. If not then she;s prob not that interested. You should still follow up 1-2 more times with the "not interested girls" with a ping or phone call, etc.

@Skills Nice intro on the vid XD