Places to not approach

[ocantu1987]

Im thinking lately about not approaching at school and the gym anymore. At school there was a cute black chick in my class, well she works at the local mall. I approached and flirted with her there and she shut me down haha. When I saw her in class it becomes awkward, and its been that way ever since. I saw another girl i approached a while back at school today and it felt odd as well. The gym is the same thing.

I was watching another pickup artist on youtube name squatting casanova and hes big into working out. He says that "he doesnt shit where he eats" and he never approaches in the gym, he is there to workout only, unless he gets big IOI. Same here, i go to workout. At school i go to learn so i can get a better job.

Another guy on youtube, one of my favorites, johnny berba. He recommends being more social in school, not going around campus approaching mindlessly because eventually word will spread that your a pickup artist haha.

both my gym and community college are small as fuck. Anyways im thinking i should stick to my bars,malls,and coffee shops from now on, unless i get an ioi from a girl then things will change. So basically I will stop shitting where I eat haha.

Does anyone here relate? do you hold off approaching in these venues?

 

[Man-O]

I have flirted with the same girls without knowing/remembering that I had already approached them months earlier but when it happens we just have a laugh or I actually end up with a nr. unlike first time.

In the fitness I did get the nr. from a chick who comes there almost daily at the same time as myself.

took the running machine beside her (her usual girl friend wasn't there) and started running for 2 mins. Then when done:
Me: ”You always come here?
Her: ”I suppose I am”. Can't remember exact
Me: ”Just to stay in shape?..- (was kind of nervous guy game).
Her: ”Yes” brief smile.
Me: ”Or it has some other purpose?
Me: What's you name?
Tells me her name and I give mine. I remember thinking about the guy running behind us so tried to act as if we knew each other, so no touch at all.
Me: ”Okay, I find you rather cute and I find it attractive when you train that much... So I'd really like your number.” Don't have my phone when working out ”if you just tell me your number I'll remember it”.
Her: ”I can have yours”.
Me: ”Yea, I suppose so, just leave me a missed call” She sends the call.

It's not -exactly- the right words but something in that order. Was nervous.

I text her:
Me: Hey fitchick, finished an exam earlier today. Guess you've been working out again? Man-o
Her: Hey. Well today I had to skip the gym >_> What are you studying?
Me: Studying health *emoting healthy stuff* but hey, let's meet up some time and get to know each other more What's your schedule like next week?
EDIT: If someone could help me with what I could've done different or how to save this plz give feedback >_<

No answer from them and I did actually notice her today (she was alone even). But just couldn't get myself over and didn't text back so it DID become awkward as I'm certain she saw me.
All it takes is to act casual about it. If she doesn't want to see you again make it clear that you won't (after you've persisted) and you'll leave it as it is or simply don't show up when they do. But don't be a pussy like me who can't even text back or walk over again to get a date up or know her reason for not texting back -.-

So the less you make out of it the less it'll be. Of course if the girl is flustered about it, you tell her so that it won't get any more awkward for any of you.
The idea about pick up is that you can do it anywhere, any time on any girl. You could also go to different gyms and different times every week just to avoid being seen as "that guy" if it rly turns out to be a problem.

 

[ray_zorse]

In my opinion it is basically about calibration, and there are a lot of shades of grey. IMO opening situationally or with a "how's your day going?" kinda thing is as weak as hell, and so is trying to catch their eye when you could go up and get in their space, get in their face and polarize them fast -- however it is sometimes a good thing to do, if you want to go under the radar, like in the gym or in class etc. Sometimes in the train or other public transport it can be good not to be too forward, although making girls uncomfortable and/or disgusted on the train is kinda my guilty pleasure, hahaha. I would just treat gym etc as social circle and adjust the sexuality and so forth based on what kind of signals she gives. I know there are a few PUAs here who specialize in the low pressure opener plus turning it sexual fast, advice???
Ray
PS Having said all that, I hardly ever approach in the gym, if I do I'm mainly looking for friendship rather than dates. The girls at my gym aren't that hot, though there's a chunky Thai girl I want to talk to... wondering if it's fat or muscle, hahaha.