Playing hard to get = Investing?

[Xpander]

Hi,

Women often play hard to get. But when they do this doesn't this mean they are investing? It's not easy to play hard-to-get and it takes a lot of thought and effort.

 

[NarrowJ]

Hey Xpander,

Women play hard to get for a few reasons:

1) They don't want a guy they like to think they're "easy".
2) They want a strong, dominant man who will pass their tests and break them.
3) Or, they just read it in a magazine or something.

So yeah, in a sense they are making an investment. Because playing hard to get takes a conscious effort.

But! There's a big difference between a woman who isn't interested in you, and one that is actually playing hard to get. That's where the water gets a little murky. You have to be able to know the difference between shit-tests and indifference.


Not interested:

• Doesn't respond to texts or short, 1-3 word responses (no effort, very little effort)
• Deflects questions or attempts to hook her in conversation (little effort)
• She doesn't "push-pull" you (no effort)
• Makes no effort to schedule a meet-up (again, no effort)

Playing hard to get:

• Sends confusing texts, but initiates contact with you by texting first (moderate effort)
• Shit-testing you (moderate effort)
• She tries to "push-pull" you, by acting interested one minute and not the next (some effort)
• Makes some effort to schedule a meet-up, but acts busy (some effort)

So, as you can see it does take some work on her end to do this. You just have to be able to tell the difference.


Hope that helps!
NJ