Please QUICK Help with 2nd Date for National American Miss Teen of my St

[BlackBolt]

I know for a fact now I do not have absolute abundance yet; I didn't push for sex with this girl on the 1st date because she blew my criteria of what I want in a girl out the water! PLEASE HELP ASAP. Anyways here's the texts 1 day after the 1st date

Sep.2
Me: Hey ____ enjoyed hanging out with you... You're very pleasant to talk to
Her: I had a great time, hope classes are going well so far

Responded Sep. 3
Me: I'm actually pretty stoked for classes this year. Let's grab lunch or dinner sometime this week/wknd... what's your schedule like for either?
Her: I have pageant business in *neighboring city* all weekend but should be free Sunday night
Me: Ah I've got work that evening don't get off til 10:30 =(
Her: I might still be in town Friday afternoon? Depends but I'll let you know

Responded Sep. 4
Me: Hey no worries I've got classes early Fri afternoon so we'll just try next week, let me know what your schedules like and we'll go from there.

No response from her yet.

Any advice on how to get this 2nd date? This is the 1st girl I met in 3 years since my last girlfriend that I'd actually consider for a relationship?

 

[Rtodd201]

BlackBolt,

I would say the first thing you need to do is chill out and really focus on outcome independence on this one. What happened on your first date has happened to a lot of guys (me included) when they go out with a girl that feels just beyond their reach. You don't act like yourself because you don't want to blow it with her. Thats comes from a place of insecurity and it can cause a guy who normally has his shit together to make basic mistakes and blow it.

Your report is really short so there's not much context on her(how you met, personality, how much she dates etc.) so it's hard to guess where her heads at. Personally, I like to leave it up to the girl to text me after a date. I feel like following up after the date with a, "i had a good time" text puts the girl in the mindframe of "I got him' which is usually a death sentence with the super-hotties. They want to wonder if you like them as much as they like you. The follow up text(Sep. 2)combined with another date request less than 48 hours later signaled "INTERESTED and AVAILABLE" to her which may have cooled her.

Responded Sep. 3
Me: I'm actually pretty stoked for classes this year. Let's grab lunch or dinner sometime this week/wknd... what's your schedule like for either?
Her: I have pageant business in *neighboring city* all weekend but should be free Sunday night

On the plus side, she did offer an alternative night to get together which is a big plus. I wouldn't worry too much about her not texting back. If you don't hear anything by next week, ping her and act like you never had the previous text convo. Also, IDK if you noticed this but you seem to be putting the ball in her court as far as scheduling. If she doesn't text you before next week, you might want to try offering a couple of days you're free and see if she'll fit HER schedule into what you have going on.

Your not out of the running but you're aware enough to know it's not in the bag either. Be cool, be strong and go close this one bro!

Rocco

 

[BlackBolt]

Hey man thanks for the help. I was definitely overreacting and this became a LR. Just sent her a chill hope the weekend was fun let's get together etc. text. Got it posted in the Field reports section!