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Plummeting Down From Recurring Problems Over and Over

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Space Monkey
space monkey
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Hey Slay,

Sort yourself out pronto. Go to the gym, go for a run and start doing things for your parents like buying groceries and join the local baseball team (you're no doubt still pretty good). I'm 17 - play games ectera but I know that when I need to step-up I will and do. Project your personality out into the world. You had the chance to go pro - that makes you an incredible asset to a local team.

Another trick is to stop gaming. Try it for a couple of days, use all that extra time persuing the stuff you want to do. ]

Write a list right now about what you want to achieve and put it on the PC screen on 'Notes'. Mine is currently:

Long Term:

Get into Sandhurst you silly Goose!

AAB for UNI <3

Buy an Island!

Travel the world with hot girls!

Constantly improve!
i.e get Socials Prefect
i.e Get good at pick-up!

Then get to work doing it.

Good luck,

Rob :)
 
the right date makes getting her back home a piece of cake

Drck

Cro-Magnon Man
Cro-Magnon Man
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I think I've been to similar situation. Life was too good. I got everything I wanted (relatively speaking), good family, lots of freedom... I was physicaly strong, quite self-disciplined (honestly have no idea where that one came from), fairly good looking, good friends, good respect in circles I was in at that time...

I wasn't much exposed to girls, but porn was fairly easily accessible. So I watched porn. Some hot blond (yea, dream girl of many of guys here) was quite interested in me at that time, but being clueless I had no idea what to do with her. I was shy, yet she kept going after me, inviting me out, being compliant, even visited me at work couple times... On one side I was happy that I have sort of GF, going out with such hot girl couple times a week... and on the other I didn't want to get tied down to marriage or serious LT relationship...

She was the silver plate for me, it was all given, all easy, all laid down on a plate right in front of me - get married, have babies and family, and have a happy and easy life. Most guys want that, or at least wanted at that time. But me, being such a Nice and Clueless Guy, it took her only couple of months of dating with no progress before she dumped me, LOL. Things like that you can't even make up, it goes against everything what you read on these boards... I went from 0 to 100 overnight, thinking how easy it is to date hot girl. Couple of months later, I went from 100 to 0, thinking how impossible is to find pretty looking girl...

I was what, 18-19...? But now what? The whole life in front of me, lots of energy, lots of motivation, broken heart, I knew that I could have done ten or twenty different things and succeed in any of them - but what to do, which way to go? It may sound like a good life to many, but the reality is that it was all so fucking depressing... I couldn't stand it, I couldn't stand the idea that in couple of years I'll be having mediocre life like most people around me...

I remember those long endless winters, it was already dark at 5-6 pm, snow, dimmed street lights, cold... I was supposed to be happy, instead I was going out and drank beers with my close friend, almost daily, talking big BS, talking about making tons of money, making big plans, talking about extreme sports... Talking and talking, doing nothing... Read about philosophy and buddhism, lived and loved martial arts, made decent money, twice as much as guys who were working hard 20 years... dated that hot girl (or not, LOL), watched porn, did what I wanted to do without anybody interfering...

Honestly, it may sound good to some but looking back I couldn't stand it. Too much freedom, life was too easy, I had it too good... I needed to struggle, I needed something to fight for... It was as if I was ready to fight, I was full of energy and motivation, but there was nothing to fight for, nothing to achieve, nothing to struggle for, nobody to fight with...

So I left, moved to another country, not knowing any language. What for? I have no idea. It doesn't make sense today, looking back nothing make sense today, but at that time it did. Struggled some more, did jobs below my level that I hated, no GF's... became more isolated, read more, watched porn more, drank more, went to strip bars, and hated my life even more... So what's next?

I didn't know what's next. But next I found education. Education was sort of an enlightenment for me, I started to study and study, and then I studied some more. Perhaps I found peace in studying...

The education brought much more struggles, but I really like how far I got with it, I built my whole life around it. But even the achievements bring more struggles. I could have done much better but fuck it... fuck the education too, I'm just a person...

So, I don't have any advice for you. Just wish you lots of struggles, maybe Life isn't suppose to be easy... Find your struggle and fight it, find something that talks to you, find something you can invest all of your energy into... perhaps that's how you'll find your inner peace... :)
 
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