I wanted to report my findings relative to an A/B test I've been conducting based on the recommendations from the POF article.
Before I had read the article, my profile was what I would call "mature-value". The MV profile is targeted at older women looking for someone that's no more than 10 years older than themselves. So the demographic I'm targeting is the 35+ year old divorcee looking for men 40 to 52 or so. To trigger responses in this demo the mature older man is required to provide information in your profile that shows you are stable and well established in your career, that you take care of yourself physically, and that you're healthy and outgoing. The 35+ demo also responds to guys that say they know what they want in a relationship (but do not actually say what you want). If you take a little bit of a deep dive on yourself and communicate that you're a gentleman, are successful w/o boasting, are stable with your career, and have a little humor, you will get plenty of action. In addition, if you show you're a bit of a foodie, and like wine and travel, you get brownie points.
I was doing ok with the MV profile and getting a good flow of activity. After I read the article, I changed my profile to the more "mysterious-guy" as recommended, and found that all my activity dried up almost immediately. FYI, this experiment was tried on both POF and Match and the results were almost identical. I've also found that the quality of women on Match is much better than POF (Pay vs Free crowd?)
While the recommendations for POF might work well for women likely 25 and younger, they do not seem to work for older women 35+ who are looking for older, more mature men, and those women who are mostly divorced.
After a couple of weeks of trying the "mysterious-guy" profile, I decided to go back to the "mature-value" profile, and almost immediately, the action has picked up for me again.
I also tried to adjust my pictures as part of the POF experiment. The pictures and the facial hair have been a mixed bag so far. I'm not sure either one has really helped or hurt me to be honest, but I ran the new pics with "mysterious-guy" and not as much with "MV" yet, so time will tell. I have not tried the professional pics yet, but that's next on my agenda.
I think one of the reasons I've been very successful besides that I know how to deep dive and use many of the elements prescribed by this site, is that I look like my pictures, and I am what I say I am. Women seem genuinely pleasantly surprised when they first meet me, and often I hear feedback from women that other men they have met in my age range from Internet dating sites are obviously lying on their profile. They tell me that many of the pictures are not representative of what the person actually looks like, and a picture of you at 35 does not look anything like you at 45+, so men should avoid posting those old pics of themselves.
Older men are also lying about their age, and body-type in obvious ways when they meet these women face to face. Guys if you need to go on a diet and exercise plan, lose the gray hair or gray beard, and dress better, go do it. Getting in good shape is not only good for you in general, it will score more women, and helps with performance when it's time to get intimate. With regard to wardrobe, I never thought I would spend over $200 for a shirt, and $500 for shoes, but I did (after I got in great shape, and lost all the gray in my beard), and let me tell ya, it helps open women real fast when you walk in and are the sharpest looking guy in the room and they get to hang with you!
Good Luck!
Before I had read the article, my profile was what I would call "mature-value". The MV profile is targeted at older women looking for someone that's no more than 10 years older than themselves. So the demographic I'm targeting is the 35+ year old divorcee looking for men 40 to 52 or so. To trigger responses in this demo the mature older man is required to provide information in your profile that shows you are stable and well established in your career, that you take care of yourself physically, and that you're healthy and outgoing. The 35+ demo also responds to guys that say they know what they want in a relationship (but do not actually say what you want). If you take a little bit of a deep dive on yourself and communicate that you're a gentleman, are successful w/o boasting, are stable with your career, and have a little humor, you will get plenty of action. In addition, if you show you're a bit of a foodie, and like wine and travel, you get brownie points.
I was doing ok with the MV profile and getting a good flow of activity. After I read the article, I changed my profile to the more "mysterious-guy" as recommended, and found that all my activity dried up almost immediately. FYI, this experiment was tried on both POF and Match and the results were almost identical. I've also found that the quality of women on Match is much better than POF (Pay vs Free crowd?)
While the recommendations for POF might work well for women likely 25 and younger, they do not seem to work for older women 35+ who are looking for older, more mature men, and those women who are mostly divorced.
After a couple of weeks of trying the "mysterious-guy" profile, I decided to go back to the "mature-value" profile, and almost immediately, the action has picked up for me again.
I also tried to adjust my pictures as part of the POF experiment. The pictures and the facial hair have been a mixed bag so far. I'm not sure either one has really helped or hurt me to be honest, but I ran the new pics with "mysterious-guy" and not as much with "MV" yet, so time will tell. I have not tried the professional pics yet, but that's next on my agenda.
I think one of the reasons I've been very successful besides that I know how to deep dive and use many of the elements prescribed by this site, is that I look like my pictures, and I am what I say I am. Women seem genuinely pleasantly surprised when they first meet me, and often I hear feedback from women that other men they have met in my age range from Internet dating sites are obviously lying on their profile. They tell me that many of the pictures are not representative of what the person actually looks like, and a picture of you at 35 does not look anything like you at 45+, so men should avoid posting those old pics of themselves.
Older men are also lying about their age, and body-type in obvious ways when they meet these women face to face. Guys if you need to go on a diet and exercise plan, lose the gray hair or gray beard, and dress better, go do it. Getting in good shape is not only good for you in general, it will score more women, and helps with performance when it's time to get intimate. With regard to wardrobe, I never thought I would spend over $200 for a shirt, and $500 for shoes, but I did (after I got in great shape, and lost all the gray in my beard), and let me tell ya, it helps open women real fast when you walk in and are the sharpest looking guy in the room and they get to hang with you!
Good Luck!
