Point of committed relationships

[Dylweed]

I'm turning 24 next week and ive never had a committed relationship. I lost my virginity 1.5 years ago and ive slept with 13 girls and had a bunch of FWB's and girls who wanted to be be my girlfriend although i never let them.

A girl ive been recently seeing gave me an ultimatum and i decided to go for exclusive relationship with her. However im second guessing it all the time. I definitely like her and i dont want to stop seeing her but having only one girl verses having multiple seems pointless.

Why do people go exclusive? What do you guys think are the benefits? Id want an open relationship, basically where i have a main girl that i do couple type things with but i still have other girls on the side. I think having girls on the side would make me appreciate my main girl more.

I love the game and meeting new girls and to give that up seems crazy. Although i realize at some point i will have to because never settling ever seems crazy. But im also only going to be 24 so i got time. I also just had to basically break up with my FWB and it felt terrible cuz i really dont want to stop seeing her. Almost makes me resent my committed girl because its because its basically her fault. I also cheated on my committed girl when i was drunk and made out with this girl who was probably hotter than her.

Any advice guys? Thanks

 

[Dude909]

There is no "point" of monogamous relationships. It's a matter of personal preference. Notice that I used "mono" and not "committed" because you can very well have a committed, non-monogamous relationship. I have a serious girlfriend since 3 years and have been banging dozens of girls in that time frame.

Now starting off a mono relationship from an ultimatum is 1) poor game 2) a poor start to a relationship, as you establish and accept a weak, submissive frame from the start. Doesn't augur well for the future of that relationship.

Monogamy should be 1) your choice, because it's something that YOU want, and 2) a gift from you to her, and not something you give up because she bitched to you about it.