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BACKGROUND
I've had this girl in my mind.. She's unavailable (in a long time relationship) but she's been chasing me quite hard. She's clearly interested, even asked me to her apartment one night, after having hooked up with me for some time from her initiative.
I do like this girl too but.. Yeah, she's unavailable and that's pretty much about it. I've not chased her (law of least effort) and have not put her on a pedestal (abundance mentality), but she's been slowly but surely getting inside my head so to speak. At least we do not stumble upon into each other that often, I find it hard resisting with all that chasing of hers.
Anyway, I decided I need some fresh air and decided to head to a local nighttime dance venue. It's a really long time since I've last head out in nighttime at the weekend all by myself. Usually I've either had a wingman or I've joined a nighttime event where my social circle's been gathering.
THE VENUE
The age range of the customers of the venue ranged from 18 to 30 or 35. And perhaps I had become more skillful with my radar, because I saw right away how hard it would be to get a decent pickup from the venue. I felt like a fish out from the water lol. Almost every girl were either with a group or having an orbiter (boyfriend or not) with them. The place was very high in energy, perhaps even too high for my taste. But I had just bought my tickets in, so there was no turning back.
I scanned the room, looking for a place to sit. There was a row of seats and a guy was sitting alone of the edge of that row - I picked my drink and went to sit in the middle of the row. A few other men came and sat down later and it got nonverbally labeled kind of as the "row of the single guys" lol. It didn't take long to notice that a girl from a group far away to the left side was checking me out. And also another girl who had hooked up with a guy.
Normally, I would be slightly drunk at this point and waiting for a moment to head to the dance floor like all the other dudes. But this time I only had a drink or two and stayed calm, observing my surroundings. The only approach invitations I had were few fleeting glances from girls in a group or who had hooked up with an orbiter guy and that's pretty much about it. No girls lingering near me or anything like that. There was another thing I noticed eventually: The side of the room where I was sitting was really, really dark. Actually the whole room was quite dark, I hardly even saw the faces of the girls checking me out. I became slightly frustrated and decided to head to another room with a better lighting.
I entered the next room, which also had a dance floor and seats on the edge of it. Then I noticed a bright light near me. It was a blackjack table, filled with gentlemen, seated tight on the edge of their seats. I couldn't resist the temptation but had to join to spectate.
"20 bucks. Give me all ya got.", said a guy next to me to the dealer.
"F*ck!", shouted another one who had apparently lost around the same amount of money, and gave his bank card to the dealer in order to get an equal amount of chips to have another run.
I liked the vibe of this table. The gents were confident and cocky, not really caring about the women around them in the room.
I spectated for about 20 minutes, glancing away from the table every now and then. More and more people seemed to enter the room. It started to become very crowded and you could barely hear the people talking at the blackjack table.
I realized that me being at the table meant that I was now focusing on the poker alone. But with good luck, I could get some preselection out of it. I decided to enter the poker game with a small bet. Gents gathered behind me to either queue for their turn or to see how I would do. Before long I had doubled my pot, but now realizing it was getting late at this point and I should exit the place if I was about to get some snack before catching the night bus. I went to the counter and the girl to the left of me, hooked up with a guy, seemed to be intrigued by me and my poker chips, but at this point it was a bit too little too late. I returned the chips, got the cash and headed out from the venue.
I was kind of disappoint that I hadn't managed to get a single cold approach under my belt, but then again I now realized that dance clubs are not that much my thing anymore. I'd prefer cocktail lounges or karaoke bars which could at least give me a better preselection (I'm pretty good at singing). I returned home only to notice that the girl mentioned in the beginning of the post had liked my several-days old fb status in the middle of the night. Seems like someone's on her mind.
I'm having second thoughts about heading out again the next weekend. It'll cost, but then again I need to head out in order to get results - and to keep the girl out from my thoughts.
I've had this girl in my mind.. She's unavailable (in a long time relationship) but she's been chasing me quite hard. She's clearly interested, even asked me to her apartment one night, after having hooked up with me for some time from her initiative.
I do like this girl too but.. Yeah, she's unavailable and that's pretty much about it. I've not chased her (law of least effort) and have not put her on a pedestal (abundance mentality), but she's been slowly but surely getting inside my head so to speak. At least we do not stumble upon into each other that often, I find it hard resisting with all that chasing of hers.
Anyway, I decided I need some fresh air and decided to head to a local nighttime dance venue. It's a really long time since I've last head out in nighttime at the weekend all by myself. Usually I've either had a wingman or I've joined a nighttime event where my social circle's been gathering.
THE VENUE
The age range of the customers of the venue ranged from 18 to 30 or 35. And perhaps I had become more skillful with my radar, because I saw right away how hard it would be to get a decent pickup from the venue. I felt like a fish out from the water lol. Almost every girl were either with a group or having an orbiter (boyfriend or not) with them. The place was very high in energy, perhaps even too high for my taste. But I had just bought my tickets in, so there was no turning back.
I scanned the room, looking for a place to sit. There was a row of seats and a guy was sitting alone of the edge of that row - I picked my drink and went to sit in the middle of the row. A few other men came and sat down later and it got nonverbally labeled kind of as the "row of the single guys" lol. It didn't take long to notice that a girl from a group far away to the left side was checking me out. And also another girl who had hooked up with a guy.
Normally, I would be slightly drunk at this point and waiting for a moment to head to the dance floor like all the other dudes. But this time I only had a drink or two and stayed calm, observing my surroundings. The only approach invitations I had were few fleeting glances from girls in a group or who had hooked up with an orbiter guy and that's pretty much about it. No girls lingering near me or anything like that. There was another thing I noticed eventually: The side of the room where I was sitting was really, really dark. Actually the whole room was quite dark, I hardly even saw the faces of the girls checking me out. I became slightly frustrated and decided to head to another room with a better lighting.
I entered the next room, which also had a dance floor and seats on the edge of it. Then I noticed a bright light near me. It was a blackjack table, filled with gentlemen, seated tight on the edge of their seats. I couldn't resist the temptation but had to join to spectate.
"20 bucks. Give me all ya got.", said a guy next to me to the dealer.
"F*ck!", shouted another one who had apparently lost around the same amount of money, and gave his bank card to the dealer in order to get an equal amount of chips to have another run.
I liked the vibe of this table. The gents were confident and cocky, not really caring about the women around them in the room.
I spectated for about 20 minutes, glancing away from the table every now and then. More and more people seemed to enter the room. It started to become very crowded and you could barely hear the people talking at the blackjack table.
I realized that me being at the table meant that I was now focusing on the poker alone. But with good luck, I could get some preselection out of it. I decided to enter the poker game with a small bet. Gents gathered behind me to either queue for their turn or to see how I would do. Before long I had doubled my pot, but now realizing it was getting late at this point and I should exit the place if I was about to get some snack before catching the night bus. I went to the counter and the girl to the left of me, hooked up with a guy, seemed to be intrigued by me and my poker chips, but at this point it was a bit too little too late. I returned the chips, got the cash and headed out from the venue.
I was kind of disappoint that I hadn't managed to get a single cold approach under my belt, but then again I now realized that dance clubs are not that much my thing anymore. I'd prefer cocktail lounges or karaoke bars which could at least give me a better preselection (I'm pretty good at singing). I returned home only to notice that the girl mentioned in the beginning of the post had liked my several-days old fb status in the middle of the night. Seems like someone's on her mind.
I'm having second thoughts about heading out again the next weekend. It'll cost, but then again I need to head out in order to get results - and to keep the girl out from my thoughts.
