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Howdy folks,
We've had to warn several forum members recently over a handful of incidents:
Lots of guys rely on dating apps to meet a lot of the women they bed these days, which can make it tempting to just take a screenshot of the girl's pictures and your message history with her.
We get it, it's cool to show off the pretty girl you shagged, and it's easier to share a screen dump than to retype all the messages out (plus it adds a little extra authenticity!).
But seduction is under fire, many of the old big sites have closed down, most of the forums are gone, and the media outrage machine is in complete utter hysterics now, getting worse by the year, employing an army of professionally outraged Twitter pundits to comb through the web with a fine-toothed comb to search for anything remotely triggering and post it everywhere in outrage. And for these people, visuals trump all else (they can't be troubled to read your 2,000-word lay report, but they will happily rage over that blacked-out image of a girl you posted). In addition, it's easier to find stuff online than ever, and it isn't cool to the girl that her pic is posted up for other guys to know someone shagged her over.
Remember, this is not a private forum: it is not just the other logged-in members you are sharing this stuff with. At any given time anonymous, logged-out users and lurkers outnumber logged on members 6:1 here. There are tons of people you don't know who they are reading stuff on here and looking at these girls' pictures or browsing the other personal data you post if you post it.
And, on the revealing personally identifying information issue, whether about girls or other people from your life or folks you met off this forum... there's a fine line between "I live in Smallville and met this college girl who's a waitress with blonde hair and we shagged on the first date" (that's fine) and "I live in Smallville and met this girl Bethany who works at the Hooters there on Mondays, Wednesdays, and Fridays with short blonde hair going to school for a communications degree and we shagged the first date" (too much). You can share details, but stay away from anything that is too precise.
Lastly: respect your fellow forum members. If you know a guy lives in such-and-such neighborhood, or attends such-and-such school, or is on such-and-such medication, or has a job with such-and-such company, but that isn't something he's sharing publicly on the forum, don't go talking about it publicly or with anyone else you met off the forum yourself. Depending on how egregious your violation is, this can be a ban-on-first-offense type violation.
We've just updated the board rules on each of the boards across the forum to reflect this addition to the policy.
We weren't as clear on it before, because guys largely weren't posting a ton of pictures before and they weren't revealing things about each other.
However, we're seeing a bunch of this now, so we're getting stricter on it.
Reminder:
Violate these rules, and we may warn you, suspend you, or ban you.
And if you violate them more than once or twice, we will no longer warn or suspend you... just ban you.
I know it sucks to have restrictive rules. And that if you were chatting with your buddies you would share pics and talk details and it'd be okay.
Just keep in mind: your conversations here are not buddy-to-buddy... they are buddy-to-Internet. You're having a one-to-many conversation here -- please respect the privacy implications of that.
Chase
We've had to warn several forum members recently over a handful of incidents:
- One member revealed personally identifying information he happened to have about another member that that member had not shared publicly
- Another member posted screenshots of women he'd had dates with and/or bedded
- Several other incidents included posting screen dumps of message conversations with women, some with the women's names and/or pictures visible
- In another incident, a member did not post pics, but invited other members to "DM him for pics"
Lots of guys rely on dating apps to meet a lot of the women they bed these days, which can make it tempting to just take a screenshot of the girl's pictures and your message history with her.
We get it, it's cool to show off the pretty girl you shagged, and it's easier to share a screen dump than to retype all the messages out (plus it adds a little extra authenticity!).
But seduction is under fire, many of the old big sites have closed down, most of the forums are gone, and the media outrage machine is in complete utter hysterics now, getting worse by the year, employing an army of professionally outraged Twitter pundits to comb through the web with a fine-toothed comb to search for anything remotely triggering and post it everywhere in outrage. And for these people, visuals trump all else (they can't be troubled to read your 2,000-word lay report, but they will happily rage over that blacked-out image of a girl you posted). In addition, it's easier to find stuff online than ever, and it isn't cool to the girl that her pic is posted up for other guys to know someone shagged her over.
Remember, this is not a private forum: it is not just the other logged-in members you are sharing this stuff with. At any given time anonymous, logged-out users and lurkers outnumber logged on members 6:1 here. There are tons of people you don't know who they are reading stuff on here and looking at these girls' pictures or browsing the other personal data you post if you post it.
And, on the revealing personally identifying information issue, whether about girls or other people from your life or folks you met off this forum... there's a fine line between "I live in Smallville and met this college girl who's a waitress with blonde hair and we shagged on the first date" (that's fine) and "I live in Smallville and met this girl Bethany who works at the Hooters there on Mondays, Wednesdays, and Fridays with short blonde hair going to school for a communications degree and we shagged the first date" (too much). You can share details, but stay away from anything that is too precise.
Lastly: respect your fellow forum members. If you know a guy lives in such-and-such neighborhood, or attends such-and-such school, or is on such-and-such medication, or has a job with such-and-such company, but that isn't something he's sharing publicly on the forum, don't go talking about it publicly or with anyone else you met off the forum yourself. Depending on how egregious your violation is, this can be a ban-on-first-offense type violation.
We've just updated the board rules on each of the boards across the forum to reflect this addition to the policy.
We weren't as clear on it before, because guys largely weren't posting a ton of pictures before and they weren't revealing things about each other.
However, we're seeing a bunch of this now, so we're getting stricter on it.
Reminder:
- Do not post girls' pics (even if you black out their eyes or blur out their faces)
- Do not tell other forum members to "DM/PM me for pics"
- Do not post screen dumps (you can write message conversations out, minus anything personally identifying. But no screen dump images)
- Do not post anyone's private information he hasn't previously shared openly and FREQUENTLY with the forum (Joe Blow posting one time that he works as a systems administrator does not mean you should go around in every post you make talking about how Joe Blow is a systems administrator)
Violate these rules, and we may warn you, suspend you, or ban you.
And if you violate them more than once or twice, we will no longer warn or suspend you... just ban you.
I know it sucks to have restrictive rules. And that if you were chatting with your buddies you would share pics and talk details and it'd be okay.
Just keep in mind: your conversations here are not buddy-to-buddy... they are buddy-to-Internet. You're having a one-to-many conversation here -- please respect the privacy implications of that.
Chase
