Mr. Rob and I were discussing this over text earlier today... basically this is an area where I'm slipping up.
The Girls Chase article is extremely comprehensive but unless I've missed something, there doesn't seem to be an awful lot of material on how to properly follow up after a date ended (successfully). It's hinted at in places, though. In the famous Flirt and Swoon article, Chase suggests sending her a text message (!) the next day to let her know I enjoyed it, which to me feels extremely cold and impersonal. I'm not normally one to doubt any of the site's recommendations, but this is so counter-intuitive I can't even imagine doing it. A text message? Seriously... it seems out-of-character for Chase who normally advocates a relatively warm communication style.
My normal tendency (assuming I kiss the girl—anything less than that on a first date I'm regarding as a lost cause these days) is to telephone one to two days after, and let her know I enjoyed it. For example, after my recent FR+ with BigSister, which was Wednesday night, I phoned Friday lunchtime and for some reason she was unavailable to take the call, so I left a voicemail saying that I liked spending time with her.
The jury is still out on that one however as I haven't heard anything back. Rob pointed out quite correctly that Girls Chase highly recommends having sex with the girl at the end of the first date, which is a good point... but supposing she doesn't want to? For us beginners, maybe we do not have an adequate vibe to arouse her sexual interest so soon, but she is happy to kiss for the time being. It would be hardly gentlemanly to lead her to non-consensual sex, so we are then faced with the question of what to do to ensure a further encounter where she will want sex.
I'm very interested to hear your suggestions.
The Girls Chase article is extremely comprehensive but unless I've missed something, there doesn't seem to be an awful lot of material on how to properly follow up after a date ended (successfully). It's hinted at in places, though. In the famous Flirt and Swoon article, Chase suggests sending her a text message (!) the next day to let her know I enjoyed it, which to me feels extremely cold and impersonal. I'm not normally one to doubt any of the site's recommendations, but this is so counter-intuitive I can't even imagine doing it. A text message? Seriously... it seems out-of-character for Chase who normally advocates a relatively warm communication style.
My normal tendency (assuming I kiss the girl—anything less than that on a first date I'm regarding as a lost cause these days) is to telephone one to two days after, and let her know I enjoyed it. For example, after my recent FR+ with BigSister, which was Wednesday night, I phoned Friday lunchtime and for some reason she was unavailable to take the call, so I left a voicemail saying that I liked spending time with her.
The jury is still out on that one however as I haven't heard anything back. Rob pointed out quite correctly that Girls Chase highly recommends having sex with the girl at the end of the first date, which is a good point... but supposing she doesn't want to? For us beginners, maybe we do not have an adequate vibe to arouse her sexual interest so soon, but she is happy to kiss for the time being. It would be hardly gentlemanly to lead her to non-consensual sex, so we are then faced with the question of what to do to ensure a further encounter where she will want sex.
I'm very interested to hear your suggestions.