Prepping your Bachelor Pad

[stlap4321]

The article on this site for prepping your bachelor pad is great and the tips for the 3 major areas of bedding, lighting, and music are great tips.

However, if you're dating multiple nights in a row, here's a couple of other tips to keep you in good standing...

1. Clean your bathroom - if you're having a female visitor you want your bathroom to be clean. Generally a good idea for any visitor really. However, in addition to the regular cleaning, shake out those rugs and get in there with a vaccum and check the shower area. You don't want long blonde hairs hanging around when your brunette friend is over and vis-versa. Same rules for towels. Make em fresh. Take out the bathroom trash.

2. If you had visitors last night, make sure all of the dishes are done before you go out the next day. You never know if you're going to be bringing a friend home, and those wine glasses on the counter from last night... bad form. Clean em up and be ready for any unannounced guests.

3. Change the sheets if you've got em, or at least make that bed and try to remove any obvious signs you had visitors the night before.

all the best...

 

[Estate]

I wish there was a LIKE button for this one. Its a great topic which is sorely overlooked. So glad that article went up.

It goes especially for younger guys who are getting their first place when they start working. You're not a student anymore, don't let your apartment look like it!
It's another one of those common sense things where it goes beyond game. You go to all that work to GET a girl to your apartment, looking like a super cool James Bond character, don't let yourself down by a pigsty!

The basics:
Kitchen/Dining Area: Be well equipped. People are impressed by a full fridge and cabinets. You should at least be able to offer her some snacks and definitely be well prepared to make some easy yet impressive breakfast in the morning. She won't want to wake up starving and see an empty fridge or 20 packets of ramen only.
Besides food, make it look like you use your kitchen, be well organized, clean, tidy and have the basics. If you offer drinks you should have some cool beer glasses, real wine glasses or whiskey glasses. You can buy a "starter" pack of basic kitchen utensils at Target for half-nothing. It just makes it look like you know what you're doing. You're not eating off paper plates and pizza boxes.

If you have a dining table, have it laid out, like you eat there.

Living area:
Organized. If you have TV, xbox, cable box, pc, etc... don't just have them all over the floor with wires doing everywhere. Just tidy it up.
If you have a couch, a fluffy throw or blanket and some cushions make it more welcoming.
Have a coffee table. You can put something interesting or something to look at on there.
Decorate a little. Bare off-white walls of a rented apartment are easy to dress up. Just a few photos, cheap art, pictures, anything that gives it color. Frame photos, don't just hang flags and posters. Kids do that.

Bedroom:
Bed should be made. Clean sheets which smell good. Lots of pillows. Big warm fluffy comforter/duvet and blankets. It needs to look comfortable. Use this to add some color to the apartment too. Nice matching sheets, duvet cover, pillow covers, etc...
No clothes lying around... always washed, ironed and hung. If there ARE any dirty clothes, laundry basket in a corner. (Don't leave sweaty smelly clothes sit there. You become obliviant to your own smells.)

General:
Vacuum & Dust... yes, just do it.
Air fresheners, scented candles, whatever... just make it smell good. Double goes for bathroom, as above, clean it thoroughly and regularly... especially toilet and bath. No hairs, grime, soap scum... clean it!
Everything tidy, everything has it's place, no clutter!


All of the above sounds like an absolute pain. You're a guy, you think... you don't care about scented candles and you'll throw out that pizza box later!
Look, it's true but girls notice this stuff. You are a MAN, men are grown up and take care of their crap. Boys apartments smell and have crap everywhere. A MAN with his shit together has a really cool apartment that you WANT to hang out in.

I can't tell you how many times women make comments on the cleanliness of my apartment compared to other places they've been. They lie in my bed and tell me it's so comfortable they don't want to leave. They see things hung on my walls or lying about that they ask questions about (but relevant stuff... I have a particular interest and some of the decoration in my apt is in relation to that, so it's stuff I put there for ME but naturally make people ask more... )

The kitchen thing is big too. I've had girls come back and just go right to my fridge or in the morning, and when it was empty they'd come back saying "Eh, is there anything to eat here? I'm starving... I should prob head home soon".
Then again I've had girls come home,go to the fridge and be like "OMG, look at all this stuff... can I try one of those snacks, I love those and I'm starving!"

It's basic, but as guys, we ignore them, girls don't. They are impressed by a man who is put together and where he lives tells a lot about him.

 

[ocantu1987]

good post, my place is a mess haha

 

[Estate]

stlap4321, sorry to hijack the topic, just wanted to expand a little:

See, this is exactly where things have changed for me. GAME IS NOT DIFFICULT. I mean, yeah, there's a lot to learn, there's a lot of social queues to pick up on but at the end of the day, it's not actually that hard. The most difficult part is realizing that alone.

But the part that irks me for so long when I used to frequent PUA boards and read their products was this dumb attitude that it really is a "game". That life is some sort of game where guys believe social rules no longer apply.

There are basic principals to just being a grown ass man that all guys should know and apply without it ever having anything to do with game which MAKE YOU MORE ATTRACTIVE. This is one simple one: Have a clean apartment! It's just one of many, like have a little style, take care of your finances, have friends, have hobbies, have a life outside picking up women, have a great career, the list goes on...

But it just ALL gets overlooked. It's so frustrating. Guys obsess over "She didn't answer my text... what did I do wrong... maybe I should neg in her my next text, maybe I'd didn't "frame" it right"... well... maybe she liked you and say you lived like a pig! Maybe she is a career girl but you work at Burger King. Maybe she is a stylish, fit, active girl who needs a man who can fit with that, but you are over-weight, or just flabby and consider a flashing LED belt buckle to be "style".

It just all makes no sense. If you just get your shit together it makes you attractive, it gives you value... but guys want to ignore all this and somehow exude value with gimmicks and tricks. It's all false value. Why not ACTUALLY exude value and then no tricks are required... you actually are more attractive, girls value what you have and therefore game becomes much simpler.