Previously failed hottie suddenly re-opened me. How to re-engage?

[wanderersh]

Fellas, would love your expert opinions on this - I've got a hottie for whom I thought the book was long closed since I couldn't escalate successfully, and I moved moved on. But she suddenly texted me to ask if I was open to grab food, how should I best play this?

Context:
I had a great 1st date with a hottie who then fell off the radar despite my best efforts. So I moved on to other girls. A few months later we randomly reconnected (using Chase's callback text, heh) for a 2nd date that bombed. She seemed not well and totally uninterested, so we split dinner and called it a day. Another month passed with no interaction, then suddenly she texted me out of the blue and apologized for not being in her best condition last time, and ask to meet up for dinner this weekend.

Question:
She's pretty hot, so I'd still like to take another shot at her again. Should I go in
1. Guns blazing - Lots of touching, deep dive, flirting, aggressive escalation, try to bring her home asap OR
2. Totally chilled out - minimal/no physical touch, totally laid-back, "let's see what you've got to offer" attitude?

I realize these are two extremes above, so the reality is probably somewhere in between. But very curious to hear which way you guys think I should lean. Would certainly report back the results!

(Incidentally I've got another girl who blew me off for months because of a "suddenly revealed" bf, but suddenly contacted me again for drinks. Seems the situation is pretty similar so would love to hear any thoughts.)

 

[Franco]

wanderersh,

If it were me, I would probably go with the second approach.

She's essentially the one contacting you after a few dates where she's "wasted" your time, so now you're qualifying her during the date and making her work for you. If it was the case that she seemed super interested and flirty the first couple of dates but refused to go home with you (and then you chose to break it off), then it would be more in your interest to go in guns a' blazing and get physical right off the bat -- essentially giving the girl what she wants after she realizes she played "too" hard to get the last time around.

You don't want to be dismissive, but coming across as more "laid back" this time around will probably make her work harder and get more investment out of her. If you can do that, your chances of sleeping with her go up.

Good luck, bud!

- Franco