Hi, guys, I think I figured out what my main problem is. My brain cannot generate enough things to say. No coach or advice has been able to fix this problem. I get into interactions with chicks, and not just chicks but anybody in general who I'd like to befriend, and my brain just doesn't come up with the next thing to say. And it's not because of fear because I don't feel fear. My brain is empty and dry, that's all there is to it. Is there a cure for this?
What is your formula? A common way to look at it is to formulate a simple question (the simplest being 'why?') or an association (comment).
Let's say someone says "I like to go skiing". You can ask "why do you like skiing?". Or you can simply comment with a basic association. "That sounds fun!" "That sounds like a workout!" "That sounds cold!" You just associate skiing with a word - fun, tiring, cold.
If the person replies to your question with a statement like "I like skiing because it's fast" you can make an extrapolation like "oh you like the feeling of speed?" Which can be associated with things like danger, risk, adrenaline, high concentration, etc.
Obviously these are very basic examples but this is the root of conversation - questions (to find out information about someone) and associations (to provide information about yourself or create commonality).
Think about if you had to code an AI to have a conversation. The first thing you'd do is mine the sentences for keywords and try to have the AI build a statement with associated words. E.g.
You: I like cars.
AI: cars are fast and look great.
I mean, it's a response you can at least reply to ..
So simply practice asking questions and making word associations and you'll never run out of things to say. And over time you'll learn to add layers to your conversation.