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Problems with giving a girl a decent sexual experience the first time

snipefield

Tool-Bearing Hominid
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I'm having trouble giving a girl I meet for the first time a decent sexual experience.

This has happened just recently, and now that I've recognized it, it's happened in the past as well.

Most recently:
- brought the girl home and while we were making out, I got so excited that I could not help but cum in my pants (tight-fitting jeans, uncomfortable)
- she stayed over in hopes of getting it, but I was nervous and couldn't get it up at all
- she came over another evening, I got hard, but came within 1 minute of being inside her

Similar situations (getting excited by a first-time girl, cumming in my pants) have occurred in the past.

I had a girlfriend in late December and we had no problem with sex. I wasn't lasting long (max of about 10 minutes), but I could always get it up. So I attribute this problem to excitement of being with a new woman. Since early January, I've actually been doing Kegel exercises using an app 2/x day, so I would have thought that I would have gotten better, not worse.

The problem is that I'm gaming and meeting new women. I want to be confident that I can give them a decent sexual experience the first time. Otherwise, the seduction loses a lot of its meaning.

I would prefer not to use any pills. I generally eat healthy (avoid all sugar, try to eat simple foods with as little ingredients as possible), don't jerk off at all (will not change that either), and work out 2-3 times/week. I'm in my 30's.

Look forward to your thoughts.
 
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Bboy100

Cro-Magnon Man
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You're nervous about sex. You're not relaxed. Cumming in your pants or having ed problems is a physical manifestation of your discomfort. Try to figure out why you're so tense and address it. I'd start with the fact that you seem to be super preoccupied with giving her a good sexual experience. Don't worry about that. Just have fun. She'll see that you're and not taking it too seriously. She will in turn feel the same way. Ironically, this actually leads to more satisfying sex for both people.

Remember, sex should be fun, not a chore.
 
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