Online & Apps Prolonging conversation to minimize conversation

[The Byronic Man]

I'm still playing around with this, but it seems like I can set up dates with less exchange of messages if I wait a day between each message. This means I will set up a date in 3-4 days. I could set up a date in 1 day, but I'll have to exchange many messages to create the same level of comfort, and that many messages means an exchange of a lot of personal information, which takes away a lot of the intrigue and conversational topics you could be having on your date. Pros and cons: Prolonging conversations is less work and builds more intrigue, but it takes longer and there's a risk that she'll get distracted by another guy (sounds like a bad frame to have, but I think this is realistic, and I don't let that bother me anyway because I don't get too invested in any one girl).

Setting up dates in real life happen quickly, but you have other tools to maintain intrigue and interest so she'll agree on the date.

Thoughts?

 

[mkivtt]

I almost always wait a day to respond, unless she happens to message me in the morning in which case I'll usually respond the same night.

I don't have a problem engaging the girls who do respond to my first message. As I never respond quickly, I can't give you the pros and cons of each, but I would assume responding quickly has the upside that you're moving fast (since girls get lots of messages it reduces the risk that someone else will snatch her up), and the downside that you might be seen as needy or someone who's constantly refreshing his inbox all day long with no social life of his own.

I'd say that as long as you are using proper banter to keep her giggling and excited, waiting is better. You'll stand out and it won't matter that 29 other guys messaged her "hi" and "what's up" that same day.