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This has happened to me a couple times, and I am wondering whether I am genuinely doing something wrong (e.g. not showing enough interest, not giving her a reason to see me again, making the interaction more organic instead of making it seem like she was "forced" into).
I was out with a wingman for a coffee and decided to stop by a bookstore to check some books. I approached from the side this young girl who was browsing the book section. I roughly said "Hello (eye contact) I was going with my friend to browse some books in the fiction section, when I saw you, liked your style and wanted to meet you." . She laughed, introduced myself and did some regular assumption stacking. She appeared interested, asked me questions, conversation shifted to books and to her studies etc. I then closed saying that we should continue this convo some other time because we need to go and seeded a date. Asked her as usual what she's most comfortable exhanging (whatsapp instagram etc) and opted for an Instagram. There was no signal there so I said I'd send a request when I can. Asked her afterwards what her plans were and wished to have fun.
A whole week passed and she did not accept my request, I even forgot about it. I searched her username yesterday and found out that she blocked me. I have not sent any message or re-sent the request. To my understanding she probably was overly thinking about it, especially if she is a bit introverted. Maybe told her friends, she told her that talking with a guy you meet outside a screen is weird, and decided to avoid any trouble altogether. Of course feelings change fast. She basically was within a nice mental state during the interaction, which is different when she's out with friends or at home.Then decides it's not worth the effort. Nobody owns us nothing afterall. Alek explains everything here https://www.girlschase.com/content/why-women-flake-5-things-you-can-t-control
I have been approaching for years, on and off with relationships, gotten dates and insta-dates, but these types of reactions have seen an increase compared to older years. Although to my mind my interactions are more solid and grounded than when I was a beginner, maybe that's part of getting older. I have noticed, especially from younger women, that most are not really able to maintain eye contact and not really know how to respond. I don't know if this is due to the social media and smartphone brainrot, making people less social and overthinking talking to other humans, or due to my presence and behavior.
I was out with a wingman for a coffee and decided to stop by a bookstore to check some books. I approached from the side this young girl who was browsing the book section. I roughly said "Hello (eye contact) I was going with my friend to browse some books in the fiction section, when I saw you, liked your style and wanted to meet you." . She laughed, introduced myself and did some regular assumption stacking. She appeared interested, asked me questions, conversation shifted to books and to her studies etc. I then closed saying that we should continue this convo some other time because we need to go and seeded a date. Asked her as usual what she's most comfortable exhanging (whatsapp instagram etc) and opted for an Instagram. There was no signal there so I said I'd send a request when I can. Asked her afterwards what her plans were and wished to have fun.
A whole week passed and she did not accept my request, I even forgot about it. I searched her username yesterday and found out that she blocked me. I have not sent any message or re-sent the request. To my understanding she probably was overly thinking about it, especially if she is a bit introverted. Maybe told her friends, she told her that talking with a guy you meet outside a screen is weird, and decided to avoid any trouble altogether. Of course feelings change fast. She basically was within a nice mental state during the interaction, which is different when she's out with friends or at home.Then decides it's not worth the effort. Nobody owns us nothing afterall. Alek explains everything here https://www.girlschase.com/content/why-women-flake-5-things-you-can-t-control
I have been approaching for years, on and off with relationships, gotten dates and insta-dates, but these types of reactions have seen an increase compared to older years. Although to my mind my interactions are more solid and grounded than when I was a beginner, maybe that's part of getting older. I have noticed, especially from younger women, that most are not really able to maintain eye contact and not really know how to respond. I don't know if this is due to the social media and smartphone brainrot, making people less social and overthinking talking to other humans, or due to my presence and behavior.
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