What's new

Psychological Battle

Inferno

Space Monkey
space monkey
Joined
Dec 20, 2012
Messages
143
I'm having an ongoing psychological battle in my head. I met a girl, a junior who asked me to prom. I said maybe, and after not finding a date, I said yes. Then everything changed. We talked a lot on Kik and went to the park together. She told me she liked me and I said I feel the same way. I was really happy, but also paranoid about whether or not I was doing everything right, because of how stupid I was in the past. This continued until prom. After we left for prom, her mom felt the need to tell my mom her daughter has a crush on my best friend. I was unaware, but somewhat suspicious. Anyway, at prom I see her twerking on ross. I tak her out on the balcony, and asked did she like him. She said no. I know that girls can do that for fun, but not when you have a date that you "like" we talk on the balcony and I asked to kiss her (super smooth) and she says no. I'm fine with this, but I asked her why. She said she wanted to stay friends and I felt kinda sad about that. I spent so much time paying for her ticket and limo. Helping her with her artwork and trying to be nice. Only to be let down. I guess I should have learned my lesson. But I got really mad at her because of this. The day after prom I told her that I wouldn't talk to her for a week. Later on that day I said I was being too mean and we made up. I said I would take her to tim Hortons to make up for it. I tried, but it was a bust. She ran off with her friends right after I bought them something. I feel like I was used. She told me she liked me, but then made herself not like me. I feel like I got played, and I feel like a part of me wants to say I didn't. I'm back in school now, and she's not acting normal. She says she's having some drama at home, but I feel like thats all apart of her pushing me away from her after having no purpose for me. She got to go to prom and we're all done. I feel like I'm the only one who cares about our relationship as friends , and maybe too much. Maybe we shouldn't be friends, maybe I should just not care how she's acting distant and not talk anymore until I graduate. Do you think I got played? I think it's highly likely, but I can't decide. I feel like maybe I should cry because of my terrible track record with women over the years in high school. All in all I want this to be a never again moment, and keep moving forward
 

Richard

Tribal Elder
Tribal Elder
Joined
Mar 1, 2013
Messages
1,819
She let you play yourself bro.

We talked a lot on Kik and went to the park together
I take her out on the balcony, and asked did she like him
I asked to kiss her (super smooth) and she says no.
I spent so much time paying for her ticket and limo. Helping her with her artwork and trying to be nice. Only to be let down.

Everything I quoted is a mistake on your end. Can you figure out why this happened from what I quoted?
 
you miss 100% of the shots you don't take

Inferno

Space Monkey
space monkey
Joined
Dec 20, 2012
Messages
143
Yeah I know I messed up on those ends. Now so much of it is because of how stupid I was to expect any good outcome from moving slow and not taking charge of the situation. I also over provided good feelings talking to her everyday and helping her do shit. This should be an example of why being a nice guy never works. I sent the same email to my psych teacher. She told me to talk to her and tell her how I felt about everything. In summary we ended up ending the friendship, and I talked to her brother and we agreed that I would move on.
 

Richard

Tribal Elder
Tribal Elder
Joined
Mar 1, 2013
Messages
1,819
Inferno said:
Yeah I know I messed up on those ends. Now so much of it is because of how stupid I was to expect any good outcome from moving slow and not taking charge of the situation. I also over provided good feelings talking to her everyday and helping her do shit. This should be an example of why being a nice guy never works. I sent the same email to my psych teacher. She told me to talk to her and tell her how I felt about everything. In summary we ended up ending the friendship, and I talked to her brother and we agreed that I would move on.

Don't just move on - move up. Situations like this are what should inspire you to climb the mountain bro.

You said you want this to be a never again moment so take action and make sure it never fucking happens again.
 
Top