Publicity and wanting to be seen as being good with women.

[Indian Race Troll (IRT)]

While I have made some progress ever since being a part of GC, I feel like something that is a big part of my life right now is this need to be recognized as a player, this need for publicity, and the need to be seen as that guy. In a way, I feel like being seen as being good with women as being seen as a playboy is much more important to me than actually being one. Being seen as the guy that gets hot girls is more important to me in life than being the guy that actually gets hot girls.

It's like I would rather sleep with 5 hot girls in a year as long as a lot of people heard of it and recognized me for it as opposed to sleeping with 50 hot girls in a year and keeping it secret.

I've long admired men like Hugh Hefner and Dan Bilzerian for this very reason, it's this need for the playboy image as opposed to actually living the playboy lifestyle.

For me, I feel like being in a pic with hot girls who want to be in a pic with me and having that pic get 100+ likes on social media is more important than actually fucking those hot girls.

It's not about the sex itself as opposed to creating that player image.

How does a guy create that image for himself as he gets older and is out in the real world? How does he manage to have that image become his image?

Is lots of pics on social media with hot girls the only way to go about it? I have done this with a bit in recent months and want to steadily grow this.

Does it become tougher to do as you get older?

 

[andersen09]

While I have made some progress ever since being a part of GC, I feel like something that is a big part of my life right now is this need to be recognized as a player, this need for publicity, and the need to be seen as that guy. In a way, I feel like being seen as being good with women as being seen as a playboy is much more important to me than actually being one. Being seen as the guy that gets hot girls is more important to me in life than being the guy that actually gets hot girls.

It's like I would rather sleep with 5 hot girls in a year as long as a lot of people heard of it and recognized me for it as opposed to sleeping with 50 hot girls in a year and keeping it secret.

I've long admired men like Hugh Hefner and Dan Bilzerian for this very reason, it's this need for the playboy image as opposed to actually living the playboy lifestyle.

For me, I feel like being in a pic with hot girls who want to be in a pic with me and having that pic get 100+ likes on social media is more important than actually fucking those hot girls.

It's not about the sex itself as opposed to creating that player image.

How does a guy create that image for himself as he gets older and is out in the real world? How does he manage to have that image become his image?

Is lots of pics on social media with hot girls the only way to go about it? I have done this with a bit in recent months and want to steadily grow this.

Does it become tougher to do as you get older?

Everybody goes through their own journey and faces insecurities. That's exactly what you're doing which is great. Sooner or later, you will overcome your insecurity of being need to seen as a player in order to compensate for your past and move onto a new level.

I just want you to an insight that might cut you some time as it seems that you're little bit older.

1. If your goal is to be perceived by others to be seen as a player, your actions/strategies will be just around that.

* How to get seen with this hot chick?
* How do I get her to take a picture with me?
* How can I get her to comment? Should I just tag her? etc

This is all find and dandy as you will get over it after you accomplish it.

What you want is validation -> you WILL get validation -> you realize your life is still the same without any significant changes.

But what I want to invite you to do is exercise self-control. As you focus on skills with women naturally, and as you start sleeping with women, women WILL sense it and find out naturally as women talk. If you're goal is to be seen with women without sleeping with them, they will SOONER or LATER find out that you're just friends with these women.

But what's more POWERFUL is, when you're actually sleeping with them, and you try to keep it down low, and they figure it out by themselves that you're actually achieving results.

The thing is so many guys are already doing what you're doing. Being seen as a player, posting pictures with hot women, and 'flirting' with them to act like they're getting women, and once they find out what you're doing, it's kind of lame to them.

I want to invite you focus on getting skills versus perception of other people, because that will be a NATURAL side bonus. It's like when you focus on just going to the gym and doing workout everyday without really telling everyone versus going to the gym everyday and putting pictures up like DOING THIS TODAY, DOING THAT TODAY.

It's more powerful in terms of effects too. Women will get curious about what ELSE you're hiding, and why you're not trying to put it out to public like other guys in the world. They'll actually start hitting on YOU when they think you're hiding all this value from the public eye.

Self-Discipline of knowing LONG TERM FULFILLMENT will ALWAYS beat short term fulfillment like being seen as a player. But it's up to you.

With that being said. here's some strategies should you want to continue pursuing your social media goals.

Position yourself as someone that has a 'legitimate' reason to be around hot women.

1. Photographer - You need to build up a portfolio and start contacting small time instagram models to ask them for a photoshoot and find a way it can benefit you both. (Having a page with alot of followers and getting them exposure is one good reason)
2. Go to events such as AVN or Anime conventions where women dress up (And make friends with them)
3. Club Promoter - Always inviting women to clubs.

Those are some easier ways of getting naturally closer to 'attractive' women around you for social media exposure.
And sometimes the best way to get rid of your craving (being seen as a player) is by going through what you think you want and see what happens~

Hope it helps!

 

[Marcellus]

It's like I would rather sleep with 5 hot girls in a year as long as a lot of people heard of it and recognized me for it as opposed to sleeping with 50 hot girls in a year and keeping it secret.

FUCK THAT