so i ran into this issue the other night, and it seems to happen quite a fair bit. if i'm even decently sure a girl is down and ready for sex, i have no problem pulling and persisting. but if i'm just really not sure (for whatever reason), i am not nearly as persistent or willing.
the other night, i was able to isolate this girl. she was out with 3 friends for her birthday. i would end up spending about an hour with her total in the night. i opened, moved her like 5 feet away from her friends (her friends loved me as well), sat her down, talked, got her number, then her friends wanted to dance so she dragged me to the dance floor. i danced with her (failing an attempt to move her back outside to isolate her) until she had to use the bathroom, when i left as well. actually ended up reopening her and this group about 5-6 times but i'll skip all that as i think it's just a lot of filler.
later in the night, i managed to get a long stemmed rose from some other girl, brought it to this girl and said "i just wanted to make you feel special on your birthday". she and her friends loved it so much, i asked her to move outside with me and grab a water. she moves, i isolate her near the exit with our water. we talk more and make out. i say im tired of this place and suggest moving somewhere more quiet and she says "haha, im just gonna stay here, go back to my friends and go home". i try one more angle and she protests (she didn't have her phone on her) so i let it go and bring her back to her friends.
got a major sign that she really liked me but did not want to leave. now, i could have lied and said something to get her out of the club. at that point, she would not be able to get back in and would have no choice but to stick with me and i would lead her to my place (down the street). however....i guess the thought of ruining her night would just make me "feel bad". and having done this before, i've realized that girls get distraught when separated from their friends with no way to contact them...so much so that sex is the last thing on their mind. and at that point...i'm just wasting time in the night.
should i had just done it and come up with any excuse to get her out of their....in the hopes that her objections would cease or that i'd be able to address them and lead her well enough to sex?
the other night, i was able to isolate this girl. she was out with 3 friends for her birthday. i would end up spending about an hour with her total in the night. i opened, moved her like 5 feet away from her friends (her friends loved me as well), sat her down, talked, got her number, then her friends wanted to dance so she dragged me to the dance floor. i danced with her (failing an attempt to move her back outside to isolate her) until she had to use the bathroom, when i left as well. actually ended up reopening her and this group about 5-6 times but i'll skip all that as i think it's just a lot of filler.
later in the night, i managed to get a long stemmed rose from some other girl, brought it to this girl and said "i just wanted to make you feel special on your birthday". she and her friends loved it so much, i asked her to move outside with me and grab a water. she moves, i isolate her near the exit with our water. we talk more and make out. i say im tired of this place and suggest moving somewhere more quiet and she says "haha, im just gonna stay here, go back to my friends and go home". i try one more angle and she protests (she didn't have her phone on her) so i let it go and bring her back to her friends.
got a major sign that she really liked me but did not want to leave. now, i could have lied and said something to get her out of the club. at that point, she would not be able to get back in and would have no choice but to stick with me and i would lead her to my place (down the street). however....i guess the thought of ruining her night would just make me "feel bad". and having done this before, i've realized that girls get distraught when separated from their friends with no way to contact them...so much so that sex is the last thing on their mind. and at that point...i'm just wasting time in the night.
should i had just done it and come up with any excuse to get her out of their....in the hopes that her objections would cease or that i'd be able to address them and lead her well enough to sex?
Also I would try to avoid making out in a public place with someone brand new as it can spike her attraction, but then it dips down almost immediately as you cannot proceed towards sex quickly enough. On the flip side, if you wanted to aim for public sex (bathrooms, side street, etc) then she would have had an easy way to find her friends after and you wouldn't be worried about it either