Q: Losing interest in a girl you're dating and breaking things off?

[Lover]

This is just a general question I'm curious about.

A lot of FR is about getting the girl to bed, but I'm curious about a scenario related to getting girls: dating a girl, but realizing she's not an ideal girlfriend at all. And maybe not even as a sexual partner.

I miss some stories about a guy realizing "This won't be going anywhere", "She's not my type", "She won't make it around me for 3 months" etc. That sort of stuff.

Could some of you share a story or two about this scenario? Dating a girl who initially seemed like a good fit, but during a date turned out to be.. well, not a good fit? And when did you stop dating her: did you tell her during a date, just when it ended, or later on the cell?

 

[jdoc]

A-jay,

My first real girlfriend was actually a girl I lost my virginity to. I asked her what she thought about seeing each other exclusively the morning after the sex. I met her from day game.

We dated for around 3 months before we split it off. I was quite naive about dating then, and I tried to change the qualities that I didn't like about her. I thought her sex drive was too low, and that she was boring. She was also pretty immature.

I also remember sending her a 2000 word essay detailing how I felt the relationship was falling apart, and the reasons why it was. I proceeded to systematically list - point by point, all of the qualities that I didn't like about her. (I do not ever recommend doing this.)

The result was pretty messy. It made me realise that you should date someone who would be a good fit for you. There's no use trying to change a girl and mould her into your ideal archetype. It's not going to happen.

Anyway, things fell apart and she broke up with me over the phone. I was actually planning to break up with her the same day in person actually.

The experience taught me a valuable lesson - don't get into a relationship with a girl because you're horny or just want a girlfriend. You should only date a girl if you like her and think that the two of you would be compatible. Actually, pretty much the whole time that we were dating, I wanted to keep gaming and meet new women. It was a mistake to get into a relationship in the first place, but I guess I was just glad that I finally met a sexual partner, and wanted to hold on to her.

Jeffrey

 

[Lover]

Hey Jeffrey!

In my OP, I actually meant when you are dating and haven't had sex with the girl yet. guess I didn't make that clear..

But I can relate to the lesson you learned. I'm guilty of being in a fwb-relationship simply because we had great sex. But she got feelings and tried to act more like a girlfriend towards the end. I thought it was tryhard-ish, and didn't want her to change for my sake. To me, she was perfect as a fwb. The sex was so good, and I had low low low abundance. So I made a selfish decision to take advantage of her feelings for me and keep shagging her.

A lot of people would say that "she's a grown up woman, she can end your relationship herself". But the thing is, when she's the one blinded by her emotions, and you're the one in control of yours, you have some responsibility. That's probably the biggest lesson I learned from my relationship with her..

She did also end it.. but the breakup is completely different story.

Thanks for sharing your story! Can't wait to read another one of your juicy LR's