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Hey guys, I read all the articles about relationships and how to choose the right girlfriend considering your goals in life. However, I'm finding it hard to apply the concepts to my situation.
In this article , Chase talks about how he chooses girlfriends:
"For me, I really want to do big things with my life. I have no idea how successful I'll be at that, but that's what I want. So when I pick a girl to be a girlfriend, I'm looking for someone who's going to help me be that. She needs to help me shoulder some of the burden of what's involved in trying to break the mold everyone else follows, and she needs to be able to endure some of the hardship that comes along with starting from zero and not knowing if you'll succeed.
Hence, the qualities I look for include things like mental toughness, a razor-sharp intellect, and extraordinary perseverance."
I have similar goals of doing big things with my life, especially in business and philanthropy. I want to build companies in the millions and I want to solve a big problem in the world. But I'm not sure yet how ambitious, tough and intelligent or savvy should the ideal partner be for me.
For example, my girlfriend is a great person, she's a teacher for kids between the 5th and 7th grade. She has a Masters and is well educated. She followed a traditional path of a secure career and paycheck.
She likes her job but highly values work life balance. She has a couple of hobbies and also likes to watch TV in the weekends some. She isn't into the business world and does not like to read self-help books as she wants to learn the lessons of life on her own. She understands that the business I'm trying to build is hard but does not get too involved. Whenever I have a day that is not so good, for example losing 30% of my clients, she listens but there is no fire to get back and keep fighting in her words. She says stuff like "You'll make it baby" in a soft voice but there doesn't seem to be belief behind it nor a clear strong support.
Now I can take care of myself and keep pushing, but it would be nice to have her understand more about the business that I'm in to truly empathize when things sometimes don't go as well.
Am I expecting too much out of her? Should partners simply have their own lives or do you guys prefer to have intertwined work lives? Should I seek someone who's also highly into daily self-improvement, wants to always improve in her job and sometimes considers having her own business? Basically do you feel that a partner with higher ambitions would fit my life better?
Looking forward to hearing your thoughts.
In this article , Chase talks about how he chooses girlfriends:
"For me, I really want to do big things with my life. I have no idea how successful I'll be at that, but that's what I want. So when I pick a girl to be a girlfriend, I'm looking for someone who's going to help me be that. She needs to help me shoulder some of the burden of what's involved in trying to break the mold everyone else follows, and she needs to be able to endure some of the hardship that comes along with starting from zero and not knowing if you'll succeed.
Hence, the qualities I look for include things like mental toughness, a razor-sharp intellect, and extraordinary perseverance."
I have similar goals of doing big things with my life, especially in business and philanthropy. I want to build companies in the millions and I want to solve a big problem in the world. But I'm not sure yet how ambitious, tough and intelligent or savvy should the ideal partner be for me.
For example, my girlfriend is a great person, she's a teacher for kids between the 5th and 7th grade. She has a Masters and is well educated. She followed a traditional path of a secure career and paycheck.
She likes her job but highly values work life balance. She has a couple of hobbies and also likes to watch TV in the weekends some. She isn't into the business world and does not like to read self-help books as she wants to learn the lessons of life on her own. She understands that the business I'm trying to build is hard but does not get too involved. Whenever I have a day that is not so good, for example losing 30% of my clients, she listens but there is no fire to get back and keep fighting in her words. She says stuff like "You'll make it baby" in a soft voice but there doesn't seem to be belief behind it nor a clear strong support.
Now I can take care of myself and keep pushing, but it would be nice to have her understand more about the business that I'm in to truly empathize when things sometimes don't go as well.
Am I expecting too much out of her? Should partners simply have their own lives or do you guys prefer to have intertwined work lives? Should I seek someone who's also highly into daily self-improvement, wants to always improve in her job and sometimes considers having her own business? Basically do you feel that a partner with higher ambitions would fit my life better?
Looking forward to hearing your thoughts.
