quality barrier?

[stratvm]

there were posts related to this topic written by Chase saying our fundamentals limit the quality of women we can get and as we improve girls are not quantity but rather quality problem.

think i`m stuck with this issue now that i realized i can get girls up to a certain quality - of course quality its subjective but in general girls i`m not happy with - personalitywise & lookswise combined. they are not bad but not the quality i want - probably subconsciously.

i also noticed especially in the gym that despite i went overweight in the last few months i get more signs (or maybe im better in noticing them) from girls i like - however i just dont feel like i have good chance with them so i dont approach which i know is the worst thing i can do.

what`s puzzling is
- why i am not satisfied with the ones i can get (i enjoy being with them to a certain degree including escalation but dont enjoy sex itself & dont want to continue seeing them)
- why i am stuck with a certain set of women and not my types
- if im not satisfied with them why do i have this blocking mechanism to really start working on the ones i want even despite of their signals? maybe subconsciously i dont want to succeed with those i think i really want?

also whats frustrating is the buyer`s remorse i have after putting effort into getting them and then not enjoying the benefits fully. it sets my motivation to zero as its enough work to get them and at the end of the day its nothing special. is this the same with girls we think are `higher quality`?

 

[Zoro]

Let me shed light on something.

You don't approach girls you like, yet you do approach the ones you aren't so into?

Whatever is keeping you from approaching them is most likely all in your head. I had a similar experience. I was dealing with some health issues and felt like I should take care of that before I get involved with women. Turns out after some tests, it was now painfully obvious this was all in my head. I then shook off that belief and starting going out and having fun. Within two weeks I was having the best sex I've ever had with a girl who I thought wouldn't be interested in me.

I recommend shaking off whatever is limiting you.

Something else I think may help you is when you see a girl you think is cute. She's cute. When you see a girl who's absolutely gorgeous. She's cute. When you see a girl whos of "higher quality." She's cute too. This can help relieve some of the pressure of meeting these "higher quality" girls and help you avoid from acting differently around these girls just because you may be especially interested. Be curiously detached.

I hope this helps!

 

[stratvm]

I hear you man, thanks - no shortcuts, this is a nightmare.