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I was reading this article, and I couldn't help but see my ego get so offended.
There was a girl from school in my class who I always flirted with but never really took her serious.
There's certain girls who I see as 'immature' but see positively, so I never get serious with those types of girls.
For example, even in class today, she made a little ball by tearing a corner of the notebook paper and threw it at me to get my attention in class. And I threw it back at her. And she would make these little faces and say
"I hate you!"
"I'm going to hEAt your ass!" (She's Russian so I tease her accent)
"How are you going to HEAT my ass, you have a lighter?) (She meant 'hit')
And she would hit me.
I would say
"I had no idea you were so abusive physically and psychologically. You're truly the stereotypical Russian girl"
I had shades on in class, and pulled them up.
And she would say,
"Oh, you think you're cool?"
And I would say
"Nope"
And she would laugh.
To me, I saw this type of relationship as harmless and just poking fun at each other. And I never really took her serious and vice versa.
However, after reading this article by Chase, it occurred to me.
Does this girl really look at me as 'lower status' than her? And is this why she's such a flirt and comfortable flirting with me?
I've noticed I treat girls a certain way. If I see her as more mature and compatible with me, I will tease and be playful MINIMALLY. But also get serious with her and have a conversation.
But with this Russian girl, she's young, so I never really took it seriously and assumed she can't really have a deep conversation as she'd respond as such.
"What did you want to be when you grew older?"
"I don't know, but I would love to eat food"
So my question is, does this Russian girl look at me as lower status than her and that's why she feels so comfortable 'flirting' with me?
And second, what's the difference between being playful and flirting?
I've noticed if I'm TOO playful all the time, I don't get taken serious and seen as a 'goofball' or an 'entertainer'.
What's the fine line between being playful and flirting but taken serious?
I truly love flirting and enjoying the back and forth teasing with a girl sometimes, and she can also give me shit back.
But does this come from a low value paradigm where she starts to look at you as 'lower value'?
I guess my personal 'playful vibe' comes out childish or a 'little kid at heart'
I was reading this article, and I couldn't help but see my ego get so offended.
There was a girl from school in my class who I always flirted with but never really took her serious.
There's certain girls who I see as 'immature' but see positively, so I never get serious with those types of girls.
For example, even in class today, she made a little ball by tearing a corner of the notebook paper and threw it at me to get my attention in class. And I threw it back at her. And she would make these little faces and say
"I hate you!"
"I'm going to hEAt your ass!" (She's Russian so I tease her accent)
"How are you going to HEAT my ass, you have a lighter?) (She meant 'hit')
And she would hit me.
I would say
"I had no idea you were so abusive physically and psychologically. You're truly the stereotypical Russian girl"
I had shades on in class, and pulled them up.
And she would say,
"Oh, you think you're cool?"
And I would say
"Nope"
And she would laugh.
To me, I saw this type of relationship as harmless and just poking fun at each other. And I never really took her serious and vice versa.
However, after reading this article by Chase, it occurred to me.
Does this girl really look at me as 'lower status' than her? And is this why she's such a flirt and comfortable flirting with me?
I've noticed I treat girls a certain way. If I see her as more mature and compatible with me, I will tease and be playful MINIMALLY. But also get serious with her and have a conversation.
But with this Russian girl, she's young, so I never really took it seriously and assumed she can't really have a deep conversation as she'd respond as such.
"What did you want to be when you grew older?"
"I don't know, but I would love to eat food"
So my question is, does this Russian girl look at me as lower status than her and that's why she feels so comfortable 'flirting' with me?
And second, what's the difference between being playful and flirting?
I've noticed if I'm TOO playful all the time, I don't get taken serious and seen as a 'goofball' or an 'entertainer'.
What's the fine line between being playful and flirting but taken serious?
I truly love flirting and enjoying the back and forth teasing with a girl sometimes, and she can also give me shit back.
But does this come from a low value paradigm where she starts to look at you as 'lower value'?
I guess my personal 'playful vibe' comes out childish or a 'little kid at heart'
