[Question] Gentleman Becomes Dominant

[[GC]Jay]

This has been into my head for the last two weeks now and I feel like asking the community before trying this shit.

I also believe that a guy named "Richard" did this to a girl but I don't remember which thread was it.

BTW, this is purely daygame, I went to a University and mostly my approaches were in the Library or within the School premises or sometimes in a mall or a park.

Situation:

Say you successfully open a girl during the day, you talked and everything went fine, you managed to cement a few good emotions, even manage to get a kino escalation and got a little bit intimate during the rest of your conversation (but could not proceed further because you both are in public - remember my first post above), so after the chatter you get her number instead, and decided to meet again in her place or your place later.

So you decided to meet in your place, you text her your address, she arrives and when she arrived you suddenly give her this dominant but sexy look, grabbing her by the neck and pushing her towards the wall and you make out with her then whispering "You don't know the things that I could do to you right now"

So you two have sex, you dirty talked her like "I'm going to eat your pussy like the hungry man that I am, make you my bitch tonight (not exactly the words, English is not my Language so this be just examples of words).. all that shit and she'd been loving it.. and you managed to pull off the unthinkable things like the sex god that you are. You make her come multiple times, etc.

My question now:

See I'm a silent type of guy and not talking much during conversation and I'm also a Gentleman by heart. I don't throw bad words or dirty talk a girl in public but I have the confidence if I wanted to, just in a proper place and time. So if I were to manage everything fine from the very beginning of the convo and she gets to my place and do the stunts above...is this going to be fine? I don't want to get slapped or accused of being a abusive or worst accused by attempted rape and going to jail.

Because my personality as being the silent gentleman type kinda not matching of being suddenly dominant or shall we say from Gentleman suddenly turned into a Wildman in bed.

 

[fsc]

You want to be congruent. If she saw you as a friendly dude, then she'd expect you to behave in a friendly way and do friendly things, and acting out of that view/frame/idea would generally make things really strange and awkward for her. This is why it's best to "announce" a sexual frame from the get-go because she will know what you're about, and it makes transition to sex much smoother and more expected.

You can be a silent, sexy, gentleman. It's not always what you say or how much you say that makes you what you are. You don't need to be talking dirty all the time. A sexual innuendo or a sexy smirk at the proper places and times are good enough. Dress like a sexy man, walk like a sexy man, have the eye contact and voice of a sexy man, and you should be fine. If the nonverbals are a bit difficult to pull off, then open girls directly by complimenting her figure or her legs.

Even if you did everything "fine"--she sees you as a sex god and expects sex when she comes over--you still want to gauge where her emotions are. If she's tired as fuck, then you should tend to that first and build her up until she's about to tear your clothes off. If she's dripping wet the moment you open the door, then I suppose you can greet her with "what's your favorite safe word?"

 

[Franco]

Jay,

On top of the fact that congruency is important, sexual tension is something that needs to be ramped up to move to the next level. And each time you have a separate interaction with a woman, you need to start that process all over again. This can be started with texting (if it seems like the girl is being receptive to flirting), but no matter what amount of physical escalation you employed when you first met her, you still have to start all over again if it's a new interaction (or a new day).

A girl walking in your door after not speaking much to you for a few days is going to need to be ramped up into the mood to escalate sexually (unless of course you've been texting her sexually, but I've found this tactic to lose me more lays than gain me more). So the scenario you pointed out is highly unlikely. It's much more likely you were on a date with the woman first where you were able to ramp up sexual tension, and then when she's at her peak as you enter your apartment, you throw her up against the wall and begin escalating physically (because the sexual tension was at a point where she was ready to accept your advances at that point in time).

Calibrating your ability to recognize escalation windows comes with time and practice, and there are going to be a handful of times that you most likely push too far too early (and the girl rejects your advances, also possibly losing you the whole interaction) just like there are probably going to be many times that miss a window, just to see the girl leave unhappy that you weren't man enough to make a move.

As far as dirty talk goes, it's pretty much the same thing. If she isn't in a sexual mood with you, then dirty talk is going to be a sensory overload for her because she's not ready for it, and she'll reject it. I generally avoid most dirty talk until we're basically in the act of having sex because, at that point, you are in control, and she'll be looking to you as the leader of how "dirty" you want to be with her. But until intercourse happens, she's going to be on high alert for any mistakes you make in your judgement of how she feels about you and what she's ready to do with you.

What you're suggesting will be fine if you can calibrate it correctly, and it's not so different from what GirlsChase teaches you to become, anyway. Remember, you do need to give enough about yourself so that the girl doesn't feel "disconnected" from you, so make sure you are trying to establish an emotional connection with the few words you do say (and make sure your physical escalation is built up over time before advancing to the next stage).

- Franco