Question to the late bloomers and guys in here that missed out growing up.

[Indian Race Troll (IRT)]

Does it still get to you from time to time even though you've had success now?

I had some rough circumstances growing up in regards to women: overbearing immigrant parents, went to a poor highschool full of fat and thuggish girls, and didn't learn about game until my college days where I didn't have success until a couple years into college. Even though I've slept with over 10 different girls and have had success with some good looking women, it still sometimes gets to me that I entered my 20s as a virgin.

So many guys I talk to seem to have lost their virginity in high school or freshman year of college but I did not have those experiences. For some reason, I feel like I really missed out.

I know that Franco has said a man's value goes up with age but I feel like there is just something to sleeping with cute girls when you are in high school and college compared to being in the grown up world. Like I can't exactly put my finger on it but I feel like if I landed a hot girl while in high school or college, it would feel a lot better than landing her while I am 30. Maybe it is because of the validation you get at those ages when social cliques are so tight or perhaps its because money and none of that stuff comes into account so you know it was real attraction when you got her....

Whatever it is, due to missing out, I have this chip on my shoulder to where I feel like I HAVE TO have sex with lots and lots and lots of different girls. Relationships do not amaze me, I look for quantity because it satisfies my ego.

 

[Raqimus]

No I do not miss out on the past. I don't even need to look at that shit. I lost my virginity at 20(Edit i think it was 21 actually lol) like sophmore(or junior) year and i was only inside the girl for 10 seconds because I couldnt get errect, I felt love for the girl. It was the third time we'd hung out and I'd worked with her at my job for quite a bit and i finally was able to go inside, she asked how it was and out of anger at myself I just said it was okay. Looking back, that is what probably hurt that girl the most. I was heartbroken afterward because she never wanted to see me again and only recently I understood how badly I hurt her, yadada I've moved past it and made peace.

I grew up with overbearing parents and still am. My parents are control freaks and my mother is very overbearing, as in always has to have me check in even now. Like right when i get out of work or am going to a chicks house she has to know who and where its fucking annoying. In highschool and up until maybe 3 years ago I was always awkward, there were women that wanted me but i sincerely believed I would never have sex let alone kiss a girl. Maybe that's the reason why I want to have sex with so many girls to prove to my past self that he no longer binds me that I am becoming me. How can you miss something you've never had? If you've never had it how can you know the feeling of going without it? I understand where your coming from. But there's no reason to keep looking back over your shoulder, all it does is keep you from avoiding the puddle in front you. If you want to have parties shit put yourself in the position to get to those major parties, make friends that party etc. Get it out of your system and you will see you didn't miss much, heck there are probably guys out there who wish they had your position; you never know!

I can't relate to your last two paragraphs, I know there are fucks I missed out on but shit I'm getting fucks now so whats the point in revisiting past fucks you've never fucked

Check out good Will Hunting, pretty good movie

 

[Franco]

Oh Pry,

Personally, I seem to prefer more girls in their mid-20s because they're fully "developed." College girls seem rather scrawny (for lack of a better word) and less physically attractive to me these days. I like my tits big, I like my asses big, and I like my waists small!

Not only that, but I also notice that younger girls seem to have a more childish (and needy) vibe to them, so that tends to turn me off as well if I was planning on wanting to see them regularly.

I think college was fun when I was actually in college, but I certainly don't miss it, and I wouldn't want to go back to it. And as radeng mentioned, it's still relatively easy to sleep with young college girls if you're adamant about doing it. Besides going to college parties, you could also do some Tindering on the side to get the occasional college hottie. Tinder is especially effective if you live close to a college campus or university.

Also, this:

Maybe it is because of the validation you get at those ages when social cliques are so tight

...is probably more true than you realize. When you get to the point that I'm at, you don't really care about the validation from anyone else anymore. The high it gives you fades faster than a cake sitting in front of an obese kid.

These days, I sleep with hot women purely for my own personal satisfaction (and as an added bonus: their personal satisfaction!), and I wouldn't have it any other way. =)

- Franco

 

[Chase]

Oh Pry-

Read this article:

How to Overcome Depression

What you are doing - compulsively and pointlessly revisiting scenarios long past and torturing yourself with regret for actions not taken - is called 'rumination'. The brain uses it to try to figure out things it does not understand, but sometimes it gets stuck, like a car with its gearshift jammed in neutral, or its e-brake stuck on.

The worst part about what you're doing now is you're keeping yourself trapped in a cycle of regret. You regret not taking enough action when you were younger, so you sit and obsess about it now, reject the advice of others as "not understanding", and continue to reminisce over times long past you can never revisit. The end result is you take far less action now than you need to to create a fulfilling life in the present, and as today's present becomes tomorrow's past, you'll find yourself looking back regretfully on your 20s saying, "Goddamn it, I should've listened to Franco and Radeng and even Estate (shudder)." All you're doing by obsessing over your regret from yesterday is building more regret for tomorrow.

So knock it off. If you want young girls, go nail young girls. I do and a lot of guys on this board do. I don't know what it's like to shag 19 and 20 year olds when you're 19 and 20, but I know what it feels like to shag them when you're a decade older than them and I'll tell you it feels pretty good.

If you want to reenact The Breakfast Club or American Pie or something, dunno what to tell you. I don't know anyone who had high school experiences like that; even the guys who get laid in high school, it's not magic for them, they're just nervously making moves on girls and then high five! They got the girl to put out. Cool. No different from what guys do after high school.

You know what I bet you'd enjoy? Get a 19 y/o girlfriend and make her wear a cheerleader outfit and pigtails in the bedroom. Give it a try. Bet you just about splooge your pants when she comes out like that

Chase

 

[Indian Race Troll (IRT)]

Honestly Chase, I am a broken guy and I have become consumed with pursuing this idea of validation and respect from sexual conquest and social life. I don't want respect from the career I do or what I become, I want respect from other guys based on how well I do with women, validation from women, and I want to be the popular guy. It's like I know high school ended but even after high school is over, I want to be Mr. Popular and Mr. Cool Kid.

Come to think of it Chase, that is why I pursue hot blondes do much. I am not even that attracted to these women but I want to feel like the cool guy when I fuck one. It is why I go for the All American Bimbo ones too, because I want that validation from being Mr. Cool Guy. I want to run with the cool crowd that I never had a chance to be a part of growing up. I want to be above other guys my age and make them envious when I walk into a venue with the hot blonde by my arm. All of me wants to be the fucking man, get the respect that football jocks got in high school (sucks because my high school didn't have sports).

I want people to acknowledge me, validate me, and give me love and respect based on my looks, game, and charm. I want to be that guy that is in the cool crowds as I laugh at some of the Greek Life trash that robbed me of my college experience...

There man, I said it. I thought about it, I want the experience and the label. Being the expert that you are, I am sure you can suggest something.