Questions about upcoming resistance

[Mark E]

I have a question for some of the more experienced users about what to expect in an upcoming situation.

About a week ago I was at a cousin's wedding, and I saw a girl who caught my fancy. I wasn't planning on approaching her, but she was looking at me a great deal and smiling quite a bit. I decided to meet her, and she ended up being the groom's sister. I moved her fairly soon into the interaction with no resistance, and then mostly did deep diving with a little bit of joking and physical contact. I didn't want to take things anywhere with her, because she was in the family, and that could end up causing a lot of drama. Both our families are incredibly conservative and religious, and any sort of sexual liaisons would not end well, therefore I didn't get her number. She ended up adding me on Facebook, and after messaging back and forth and deep diving a bit, she started telling me about how she was the "black sheep" of the family, and wasn't quite so conservative. She also told me she was "up for anything".

From what she told me I am pretty certain that she is a virgin and wants to lose her virginity. I am leaving tomorrow to stay a night in a house close to her area, and we already agreed to hang out then.
My question is, what kind of resistance should I expect from her if I try to get intimate when we hang out? I haven't had any resistance yet, so I am expecting it sometime when I try to get intimate. Also, in spite of her being pretty open, since she is a virgin will I have to worry about her getting attached? I don't want to hurt her, and I have tried to disqualify as boyfriend material, but she is still a virgin, and I am afraid she will become attached.

-Mark

 

[Franco]

Mark,

Both our families are incredibly conservative and religious, and any sort of sexual liaisons would not end well, therefore I didn't get her number. She ended up adding me on Facebook, and after messaging back and forth and deep diving a bit, she started telling me about how she was the "black sheep" of the family, and wasn't quite so conservative. She also told me she was "up for anything".

It sounds to me like she's got a bit of the "Romeo & Juliet" fever going on, which means she might be quite excited at the opportunity of having a "taboo lover."

My question is, what kind of resistance should I expect from her if I try to get intimate when we hang out?

With a virgin, it's very difficult to know the answer to this, and it differs depending on the girl, her upbringing, and what social influences have affected her. She may give you little-to-no resistance due to a lack of experience or a desire for a whirlwind romance, or she may put up tons of resistance sheerly out of nervousness about what is going to take place. You'll need to be persistent, but in a very calm, relaxing, and slow way. If she gets even the slightest bit nervous, it's best to take a step back right there, go back to whatever you were doing before you took that next step (such as kissing, caressing, etc.) and then gently try again in a minute or two until she lets you go all the way. Never show any sign of nervousness though; treat her as if you know it's going to happen, but you understand that it's her first time and that you need to be gentle. If she gets nervous and then senses nervousness in you, she'll be more likely to feel like she's not making the right decision.

Also, in spite of her being pretty open, since she is a virgin will I have to worry about her getting attached? I don't want to hurt her, and I have tried to disqualify as boyfriend material, but she is still a virgin, and I am afraid she will become attached.

Yes, this is a possibility, so you do need to take great care in how you proceed afterward if you decide to take her to bed. Virgins tend to be the most prone to being upset when they are ignored after sex, so you'll want to hold her close afterward and be warm to her. Depending on her personality, she may or may not push to see you again, but you need to do your best at disqualifying yourself as a boyfriend. This means not taking her out for things like "dates" or "dinner" if you want to get the message across that this is just something sexual and fun between you and her.

- Franco

 

[Mark E]

Hey Franco, thanks for the reply. The overall seduction went great except for the final bit.
I got physical with her, then started making out, and afterwards she told me it was a very smooth transition, but thought I would never get around to doing it. I literally got no resistance. Everything went fine, but I couldn't get it up for the life of me. I think it was just a culmination of things. First off I'm a virgin, and I masturbate quite a bit, but I don't watch porn. Second we were on a beach on a pile of driftwood, so it wasn't the most comfortable spot. Also, she doesn't shave, and I just wasn't in the moment. I've realized I have a problem with getting into the moment when I'm making out with girls. It just doesn't seem that sexy. Especially cause you can like taste their breath. Also, I've never had sex, so is it that my mind hasn't made the connection that naked girls mean getting off? I decided I'm never masturbating again, and I'm still gonna try to get girls, but that was a serious disappointment. What do you suggest I do?

I really feel sorry for this girl, because she probably thinks its her fault. I fingered her a fair amount, but I really wanted to give her a great experience. Maybe I put too much pressure on myself?

Thanks, Mark