haven't been doing much street approach lately. i had a while back where i was a fearless machine and all those leads turned into nothing, that plus some other things has put me off a little and i've weasled out of a lot.
it's almost dusk, riding home on my bike i see a girl climbing over a hedge. . as i pass she seems to be ridiculously hot. i decide i've weasled enough so fuck it, i'm going back. i drive up to her on the pavement, as i get close i pull out my earphones, stop and say "excuse me" she kinda half stops and looks at me with a WTF? look. so i hold her gaze and hold my cocky expression, "i said excuse me!" she stops fully and i said "how's your english?" she tells me it's ok but she's looking at me like what the fuck do you want. so i say "well, i just saw a beautiful girl climbing over a hedge so i had to come see what's up" she's completely stopped in her tracks now. i'm a little unsure what to do. i wanna tell her to come closer but i'm afraid of getting a no. then she tells me "you're very _____" but i forget the word she used. like very forward, or brave, or confident. or something which is probably a compliment but could not be too. then comes the fuck up. she told me she's in a hurry that's why she was jumping over the fence. so after finding out where she's going (not far) i say "you wanna ride? get on i'll give you a ride" if she was hesitant i felt i would need to tell her i didn't expect anything in return, no obligations.
she got on and we made small talk. she's going to some opening event. i assume she's a model. from eritrea. she said "wow you're really friendly" she asked me a couple questions which i avoided answering. i dropped her off. told her "arrived in style" and that was that. she thanked me. i said sure no problem. she said maybe see each other around. i said have a good night.
riding away i thought the strongest play (from a getting laid point of view) would be to say "oh i can see you're in a hurry. give me your number and we'll chat when you have more time"
whether she says yes or no "great, have a good evening" job done.
now, though, i genuinely look for ways i can help people, without wanting or expecting anything in return. it was no skin off my nose to save her a 10 minute walk.
anyway, i probably could have pushed for something after she got off. i didn't wanna be that guy, or for her to think "oh, awkward, he just wanted my number so offered me a ride. typical!" something liek that if tht makes sense.(edit: or, i could have pushed really hard during the ride. tried to really spice up the talk with innuendo, had a good laugh then taking her number would have been natural and easy. what was i thinking! stupid. that's totally possible if i'm in the right frame of mind ... motherfucker!! now i can see the entire conversation laid out in my mind. it would have been great. esp after that strong opening arrgghhh i wish i could always think like this)
meh, i was happy enough at fighting off my weasel. in fact i've just realized a major hurdle in my game, and it's to do with inner game and not feeling good enough for the girl. due to my position in life etc... i felt it immediately when this girl stopped, although it didn't creep to the surface.
good. food for thought there. i need to make some changes.
EDIT i'm literally slapping my forehead now. this could have been a night to remember instead of a lame FR if i'd just thought more quickly. the word she used, i believe was "you're very bold" now i can see it was an invitation. moving superfast here was key, and i fucked it up with small talk and self-esteem issues.
it's almost dusk, riding home on my bike i see a girl climbing over a hedge. . as i pass she seems to be ridiculously hot. i decide i've weasled enough so fuck it, i'm going back. i drive up to her on the pavement, as i get close i pull out my earphones, stop and say "excuse me" she kinda half stops and looks at me with a WTF? look. so i hold her gaze and hold my cocky expression, "i said excuse me!" she stops fully and i said "how's your english?" she tells me it's ok but she's looking at me like what the fuck do you want. so i say "well, i just saw a beautiful girl climbing over a hedge so i had to come see what's up" she's completely stopped in her tracks now. i'm a little unsure what to do. i wanna tell her to come closer but i'm afraid of getting a no. then she tells me "you're very _____" but i forget the word she used. like very forward, or brave, or confident. or something which is probably a compliment but could not be too. then comes the fuck up. she told me she's in a hurry that's why she was jumping over the fence. so after finding out where she's going (not far) i say "you wanna ride? get on i'll give you a ride" if she was hesitant i felt i would need to tell her i didn't expect anything in return, no obligations.
she got on and we made small talk. she's going to some opening event. i assume she's a model. from eritrea. she said "wow you're really friendly" she asked me a couple questions which i avoided answering. i dropped her off. told her "arrived in style" and that was that. she thanked me. i said sure no problem. she said maybe see each other around. i said have a good night.
riding away i thought the strongest play (from a getting laid point of view) would be to say "oh i can see you're in a hurry. give me your number and we'll chat when you have more time"
whether she says yes or no "great, have a good evening" job done.
now, though, i genuinely look for ways i can help people, without wanting or expecting anything in return. it was no skin off my nose to save her a 10 minute walk.
anyway, i probably could have pushed for something after she got off. i didn't wanna be that guy, or for her to think "oh, awkward, he just wanted my number so offered me a ride. typical!" something liek that if tht makes sense.(edit: or, i could have pushed really hard during the ride. tried to really spice up the talk with innuendo, had a good laugh then taking her number would have been natural and easy. what was i thinking! stupid. that's totally possible if i'm in the right frame of mind ... motherfucker!! now i can see the entire conversation laid out in my mind. it would have been great. esp after that strong opening arrgghhh i wish i could always think like this)
meh, i was happy enough at fighting off my weasel. in fact i've just realized a major hurdle in my game, and it's to do with inner game and not feeling good enough for the girl. due to my position in life etc... i felt it immediately when this girl stopped, although it didn't creep to the surface.
good. food for thought there. i need to make some changes.
EDIT i'm literally slapping my forehead now. this could have been a night to remember instead of a lame FR if i'd just thought more quickly. the word she used, i believe was "you're very bold" now i can see it was an invitation. moving superfast here was key, and i fucked it up with small talk and self-esteem issues.
