Quick question on area and culture

[ViewerOnline]

Hi, I've been reading articles on GirlsChase for quite a whole now and while I do often feel quite excited about applying the tactics and techniques I read about on this site, there has always been the question of whether this if appropriate where I am. I am currently still in college, just hit twenty recently, and I live in a rather conservative, Asian country. Many of the techniques I've read seem to be improper at this setting and at my current age. I have little problem regarding the latter, as I've decided to just get good at meeting women and getting a girlfriend, but with regards to the former question, my city doesn't seem like the place where I can simply walk into a bookstore and meet a cute girl. Most of the people are in a hurry so it's unreasonable to try to talk to them, as I would only be getting in their way, and most people tend to mind their own business, so just walking up to a girl on the street or speaking to the girl in front of me in a queue seems quite out of the ordinary.

I don't know where to practice the things I've learned as everything indicates that these are socially inept and abnormal.

Also, I wanted to ask on a more general note whether these techniques are universal (I'm pretty sure they've been declared as such on this site before though) or if they're confined to more open countries, like American and European countries, or certain American and European cities?

PS, I am not trying too hard to make it with the women in my college because I've built up somewhat of a 'not boyfriend material' label, as I wasn't fortunate enough to discover this site before completely blowing it with first impressions and poise in my college. I can basically find no one there who is excited about me, and can usually only hold a conversion when academic material is concerned.

 

[Troy]

I can basically find no one there who is excited about me, and can usually only hold a conversion when academic material is concerned.

This part really caught my attention because I know very well how it feels to not be noticed as much as you'd like to. The first thing I recommend you do is become multidimensional: get a skill, take up a sport, find music you love, just do something interesting with your life.

I believe this is the first step to getting better with people in such a situation. You can only talk about educational topics? Suppose you meet a girl that absolutely loves Rnb? Would you be able to relate on that? Absolutely not... You don't need to know everything and every Rnb song but you should know enough to find common ground.

Write down and answer these questions :

What do the people around me enjoy doing? ( watching sports , going cycling )

What is their vibe like? Do they prefer excitement or being layed back?

You'll need to calibrate to the environment, thus knowing quick facts about those around you and being a mirror. You can talk on educational stuff with others who share the same interest. Use the same process , find out what you love and reflect it to those who relate .

Troy

 

[ViewerOnline]

Thank you for the advice. I will most certainly look to picking up additions to augment my current skill set. It isn't that I am a geek who only has academics on his mind (though I suppose I do belong in that category in my college) but people normally only strike up a conversation with me when they have educational obstacles they want addressed. I do have a finger in some other pies, but I do see the merit in further expanding my repertoire when I have free time after finals.

There are a variety of girls. Some of them are excited, others are laid back and gentle, yet with both types of women they do not see me as much more than another face in the crowd, which probably indicates that I have a lot of work ahead of me in discovering my inner sexy man.

A bigger concern clouding my mind was if meeting these women just on the streets or while they're perusing books was viable in my situation, considering how society isn't really used to people on the road just striking up a conversation, especially not at my age (though I'm just assuming that meeting women at bars and all, most of the men are in their mid to late twenties at least?).

Once again though, thank you for your suggestions. I had actually forgotten about building myself up in those areas as I did get excited by the content i read on this site, especially that about personal grooming, body language, and mentalities.