Quick question please answer asap, gonna meet this girl soon

[superomar]

Okay so, I went out for coffee with this cute girl, i deep dove, things went well, i got her relaxed and she really digs me. Threw in a bunch of chase frames, touched here and there,
Smoothly gave genuine compliments and i can tell
She wants me. Now, towards the end of the convo shes like, youre on a mission for something, you just want to
Fuck me, and i told her not to flatter herself, girls that dig me are the ones that get most furustrated. She said that i was smooth and she hasnt ever met a guy like me, said that she was scared So i calmed her
Down and told her not to be Nervous. Set sexual themes, told her im open to everyone having sex, if you like it you get it. Starting talking about how most guys arent like me, then asked her to name five qualities about herself. She said no, she started saying things like how i was pissing her off. Before that she said how i was annoying and
I gave her a skeptical look and looked away. Towards the end we had
To go to class, she mentioned it, and we stood in the hallway and she said well arent you gonna hug me? I grabbed her hand for a handshake, then pulled her in for a hug, patted her back, told her id see you around and left for class. Oh she also said how i was getting to know her really fast, so what happenned exactly? Where did i go wrong?

 

[Thedoctor]

Superomar,

"I told her not to flatter herself" - This is the start of where you went wrong. This line should only be used for girls that turn guys down in extremely rude ways. This girl sounds like she was being a little playful and maybe a little cautious. It's possible you went a little overboard with the sexual frames. You should have tried alleviating some of her fears. She already saw you as sexual, but you say you kept "setting sexual themes". Then it sounds like she was auto-rejecting, which is extremely difficult to turn around.

Try reminding her that you were really having a good time together and alleviate some of her fears as I mentioned before.

Hopefully it works.

-Doc

 

[Estate]

I agree with the above.

I think you were trying to set your value too high and while she clearly liked you, you were disqualifying yourself from her.
When I first read about game YEARS ago I did it all the time too... I didn't know what was going on... I'd have cheeky comebacks for everything, I'd use Negs and all that other crap... and in the end the girls would just get pissed off and leave. I learned eventually I was just laying it on too thick. You can set Chase frames while not totally putting yourself on a pedastil.

There's a difference between saying "I'm so great" with a cheeky smile on your face and saying it with saying it with a stone straight face and adding "No really, I am, you needed to know that before you bother pursuing me".

 

[superomar]

Yeah I eventually figured that's what it was, I got auto rejected by putting too much value on myself. I should have been more humble and alleviated her fears, while not over doing the sexual frames.

 

[Butch]

So I'm curious now, what would have been a good way to answer that question or statement without messing up?

 

[superomar]

Said this to her: Hey, I had a good time! It was fun and i needed the coffee. Youre really chill, You have a good rest of your day! Ill talk to you soon

She said she had a lovely time as well, five
Hours later she texts me saying: "i have so many questions for you now that my head is clear.
This how the convo went:
Me: Haha, playing a little bit of detective now are we? What kind of questions _____?
Her: What makes you mad the most out of everything?
Me:I dont get angry quite too often, but there are a few things that push my buttons here and there. Instead of us being open books over endless texting, shall we get coffee or a drink sometime this week or the next?
Her: I want to know right now though. I don't know. I have a lot of stuff going on

And now im stuck

 

[superomar]

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