LR Quickie before a date

[Verisimilitude]

Hey all,

I'm finding it harder to get back into this. I'm pretty much where I want to be seduction wise, but I guess there's always room to improve. I'm going to try to hang around and answer a few threads as best I can, but once school starts, I don't have a ton of time. I'm also met someone who meets my criteria for a girlfriend, but it's too early to say what's going to happen, but I could see her becoming my girlfriend. Anyways, I want to share this LR, mostly because I think it's hilarious.

So I met a girl on tinder, and we made plans to meet up for drinks. We can call this girl Cassie. This is a link to my tinder process: https://boards.girlschase.com/viewtopic.php?f=4&t=11121&start=50

I show up exhausted. The night before, I had gone out with a different girl (girl #2), and had sex with her all night. But obviously I wasn't going to tell Cassie that! I'm not sure what my excuse was, or even if I gave one. I probably just said I was up late and she didn't question it.

But I basically sleep through my date with Cassie, but I put in enough effort that she's hooked. I actually think the yawning and zoning out helped. Combined with my usual deep diving, it gave me just enough of a disinterest look, but also enough investment she felt a connection. Once we finish our drinks she asks me if I want to walk. I was tired, but I know an escalation window when I see it! So I walk with her for a bit, but I don't even up doing anything b/c I was so tired. She understands and we say goodbye, and start texting. Nothing special, just normal conversation.

The next day, she texts me that she's free. I know what she wants, and I'm rested. But the problem is I'm going on a date with another girl (girl #3) later than night. Tinder has been VERY good to me . So I text her I have about 30 minutes, and push back my date with girl #3 by 30 minutes. Girl #3 doesn't mind. I don't remember what I told them, but it was probably just I told Cassie I only had a bit of time, but wanted to see her, and asked girl #3 if we could push the date back a bit. Pro tip: Don't make excuses or lie unless they ask. Just say you have to do it.

So Cassie comes over and its on. I manhandle kiss her, move quickly, and she loves it. We both know why she came over. We have sex until she has to go (15 mins before my date with girl #3). We agree to meet up later as I rush her out the door.

I go my date with girl #3, and I make it in time! It goes well, despite a rough start. During the date Girl #3 actually tells me she wasn't sure about me when I walked in, but she realized she was into me as the date went on. I don't take her home that night (we end up becoming lovers later, but that's a story for another LR).

Cassie and I have met up again, but I think she feels self-conscious about sleeping with my so quickly. We didn't sleep together the third time we met up and it was more of a romantic date. She's not being very responsive with texting, so its really if I want to put in the effort to see her. And while the sex was good, I don't feel like spending more effort on her than a new girl.

This actually highlights a pretty big problem for me. I can get a lay with a girl, but I'm having a lot of trouble keeping them around. I don't mind if I don't like the girl, but when I do, I'd like to know how to keep her around. Any tips?

If you have any questions feel free to ask. I'm happy to help!

-V

 

[Eternity]

Could you P.M how your Tinder Profile looks like. Im in the opposite boat...No luck with Tinder.

 

[lao che]

Cassie and I have met up again, [1] but I think she feels self-conscious about sleeping with my so quickly. We didn't sleep together the third time we met up and it was more of a romantic date. She's not being very responsive with texting, so its really if I want to put in the effort to see her. And while the sex was good, [2] I don't feel like spending more effort on her than a new girl

1- this is wrong thinking, IMO. you THINK she feels self-conscious about it, doesn't make it so. we know what she wanted, why feel bad about it? maybe YOU feel self conscious about it, so you organize a "romantic date" and don't fuck. well, guess what? she didn't get what she wanted this time, and now she thinks you are not wanting to fill the secret-lover role in her life but, rather, looking for something more.
so, now look. the texts die off, she becomes less responsive because she's thinking she will have to give up time to you during which she's not getting fucked. she's thinking .. hmm do i really wanna go hang out with this guy for [whatever]? meh, he seems to want something more - but if he's not gonna fuck me then it's not a good use of my time.

2 - it absolutely should not be more effort. again, i think this is wrong thinking. sending a few banter texts and some relevant comfort-building should not be thought of as effort. and it really isn't difficult to have some short convos before setting up your next 'date'




i don't exactly know what the secret sauce is, but i "never" have a problem getting repeat business after having had sex with a girl.

after we part, a text or two about the time we spent together.
after a few days (or less) SHE re-initiates.
little banter.
set up next 'date'
she comes to my place at the allotted time on the allotted day
job done.


the texts should go like a wave, or music building to a crescendo. it should be very organic. but, here's the thing - you control it. maybe a girl is too needy, wants to text you lots straight after your first night together. you still have to answer, don't be a douche, but you answer in non-commital ways, taking your time. you let the wave subside. after a few days, or when you're ready to make plans with this girl again, you gradually start to dial up the frequency and responsiveness of your texts until she arrives on your doorstep carrying beers and the makings of tonight's dinner.

EDIT: in fact, the secret sauce is probably the sex. girls come back because they KNOW they are gonna get fucked like they never been fucked by any other guy. but it's so much more than that. i'm not sure i can explain accurately. a feeling of togetherness and bonding and great conversation and understanding and lack of judgement and ... it's like they get everything they need from their once a week visit. they'll do anything for it. but i'm nothing special, i'm just an ordinary guy.


EDIT: i just noticed on your other thread that you only recently lost your virginity .. so hmm maybe i'm a little too advanced for you.
well done. you seem to be cleaning up over the last couple of months. keep on trucking, sir. and believe me, once you get good at nailing girls to your mattress you won't have much trouble getting them to come back for second helpings.

 

[Verisimilitude]

Hey Eternity! No problem, just give me a bit of time, because my life is getting crazy busy.

Lao, you're confused, which is partially my fault. I didn't suggest a romantic date. I just took her out for coffee and she wanted to walk again. I thought it was going to be back to my place, but we ended up at a very public park and she wanted to stay there instead of going home.

But that post about me losing my virginity is 3 years ago bud! It resurfaced now for some reason.

I'm not sure where you're going with the sex thing, but I'm down to hear more about how you keep girls coming back with it, if you can explain it in clear terms! I'm always willing to find out ways to have girls screaming into my pillow

 

[lao che]

fair enough seems i got the wrong end of the stick.

but, yeah, basically you don't ever meet a girl outside after you've already taken her to your place .. after that it's just setting up sex dates at your place, and leaving the door open for future sex dates, at your place.
there's room for .. experimentation .. i can't think of the right word right now. i might occasionally visit her place, or arrange a meeting outside then do some adventure together, but she has to have previously put in the work to deserve that kind of treatment

i used to have a rule that girls couldn't stay overnight, this was so they never got the wrong idea and start thinking we have something "serious". this worked well as many girls have a curfew of some kind from living in uni dorms or with parents, but a few times for whatever reason a girl had to stay over, it didn't seem much to make a difference so i relaxed that rule.

now i usually chill out the next morning, make breakfast, whatever. fuck some more, of course.
if you and your place are warm and welcoming and the sex is good then why wouldn't she come back for more?
i treat girls really well, a real gentleman, but i'm very masculine and dominant at the same time. girls look at me like i'm the shit, i turn on the shower and check the water isn't too hot and get her a fresh towel and wash her back. do that for a girl after you've just destroyed her in bed, she thinks "who is this guy!"
but, i don't know, i feel stupid writing about it coz i imagine everyone is like that, but maybe they aren't?
it's not something i engineered in wicked fashion to keep girls in my lair. that's just how i am, i wanna treat people nice when they are in my home. be a good host. have drinks ready that they like, nice food, music, nothing elaborate or extravagant but i like to reward the effort that they make by coming to visit me, let them look forward to it.
i'll often/most of the time have the girl do something for me, too. bring food, bring beer, cook for me or help me cook. i think that's a big part of it. cooking and eating together, and she feels useful in your life when you're bossing her around the kitchen.

meh, hope that helps i never really thought about the process i just do it so .. i'd be happy to answer specific questions.

 

[Seppuku]

Same as with Lao Che, once I took her to my place, all subsequent meets will be at my place. There's no going back to dating after we had sex once.

When I started getting laid on first date, I initially had some retention problems. I don't get these much nowadays. Not sure exactly what changed, but I would guess it's the quality of the emotional connection.

I also noticed easier retention if I do second date lay. But this require enough calibration to get a second date consistently.

Seppuku

 

[Bboy100]

Hey dude, check this out: https://www.girlschase.com/content/how-c ... egular-sex

Addresses the issue of why you can't keep girls around. I've never had this issue, but as I understand it, the long of the short of it is that you're providing hardcore lover value and pretty much nothing else. As such, women will often see you as just a penis they can use and nothing more. So they have no incentive to see you again

 

[Verisimilitude]

Thanks guys. I'll make sure to check out that article.

It's weird though because I've always considered myself to be too nice, and I actually think I have a good bit of "boyfriend value" (not that I mind having lover value either)

Maybe it's because we met through online dating? I feel like that may be the easier answer.

 

[lao che]

verisimilitude,

have you tried simply telling the girl what you want? either beforehand, if "what are you looking for?" comes up, or via text the next day. something as simple as "ok i got something to do now, see you next time" works fine for me. usually she'll reply "and when will that be, mister che?"