Hi, I'm really mad about how hard it is to find a mentor in the country I live. I envy you people, Europeans and Americans, to say. For MONTHS I'm trying to find a good mentor and it's been MONTHS after that stage, I'm in a shape that I'd even accept an average/OK mentor. Even a crappy one if he gets me approaching and daygaming. Now just take a breath, and be grateful that you don't live in a 3rd world shithole. Be grateful that if you want to take a bootcamp or training, all you have to do is to pay the price and get what you want. And in where I live, what do I deal with? Do you know? I search and search and search people who are good in pickup, I find a few decent ones, I read the guys, and write to them eventually, if it seems like they 'get it'. I write, sometimes I even buy their products if it's affordable, and do you know what happens? THEY DONT EVEN FUCKING ANSWER. Like, %70 of the times. I'm LITERALLY offering them my money in exchange of a couple hours of their time, and hell, bootcamps ain't cheap. Some of them try to make me take their more expensive programs. I'm BARELY managing my schedule and university to go to another city and take a bootcamp, to go through all kinds of shit, but they offer me to buy their other program which would take part in another country. UN-FUCKING-BELIEVEABLE. And others are all talk! They write their books, they offer you their 'secret game' which is generalised copy-paste content from pickup forums, and when you mail them about having a bootcamp, they're lost! No answers. Fucking lost! All talk I say, all talk! There are SEMI-DECENT forums, they are paid!
I can't approach. I just can't. I did just a few cold approaches in my life, and they went okay I guess. But I can't pull it off now. I go places to approach, wander like hours, and return to home in shame and frustration. I shouldn't be that man, I don't want to be that man. I hate people who cling to their excuses and just 'survive', I want to be the man who goes for what he wants and actually gets it. If I see a chick is into me, I somehow screw it up immediately. Like, in minutes they lose interest. Often times I'm PHENOMENALLY bad. I got my fundamentals allright. They can be better, I still work on it, but they're fine. I just can't express myself. I have like negative social momentum, I have a hard time talking. I just don't know how to pick up chicks. But I want to learn, I put serious effort in it. Everyday I work on something, consistently. Mastering my walk, my posture, my eye contact, my tonality... I just want someone to teach me how to approach and close. Just the basics, you know. Maybe you'd say it's a limiting belief but I just know myself, I'm a kind of guy who learns by instruction and by people who know how to teach. That's my type. When somebody who wants to teach instructs me, I get good and EVEN BETTER from my instructors. How big of a blessing is that! But no instructors around! I'm sick of reading, watching videos and not seeing the change I want to see. The supposedly good-with-girls types of dudes are either don't know shit and they think it's about their appearance and money, or they just shrug it off like 'I don't know man it just happens'. I've been waiting from this summer to have a kind of bootcamp or training. Guys in my country postpone or cancel their events for reasons I don't even know, they never tell. When they don't postpone they never answer my mails. But I've been waiting patiently. I even tried to go to a training in Germany but it didn't work for some reasons. Think about that borderline poor university student who still lives with his parents, actually so invested that he drops all his business in where he lives, pauses everything, finds enough money to pay for a program and fly to another country and he can't make it happen anyway. When I peeked upon the secret of this 'game', I knew, I had to learn it. To be happy. To not be a pussy-tease and to be an actual man. That was the thing I was missing. To actually end up with girls I like, I understood that I need to bed lots of women to learn how. I just saw it. And thank you Chase, if you read it. The way you explain things just made everything clear in my mind and I find you awfully relatable. You gave me the direction, thank you. And from the moment I saw it, I knew that there was only 2 paths in front of me. Either I learn this shit to its fullest and pull my life around. Or I accept all of these and put it behind me, giving up on this world, and go live a solitary life of a monk in a secluded place, spending my days with meditating, praying, and barely filling my worldly needs like eating and drinking. I don't know. I don't want to give up and run but I feel tired and done. I'm just so sick of it and I felt like I needed to take it off my system and show you that how lucky you are. When there is a PUA event in your city, you can easily go. When there is a workshop, you can go and attend for free. Seminars, hotseats, conferences, trainings, you have it all. Use it. Don't just sulk around and complain when you have the opportunies. You have them, I don't. I'm willing to put my all into this, all I need is a hand and a little push, that's all. Yet there is no one. The moment I write these things, I still search for some guys in my country. I don't give up, never. So shouldn't you. And thus ends my random mad rant.
I can't approach. I just can't. I did just a few cold approaches in my life, and they went okay I guess. But I can't pull it off now. I go places to approach, wander like hours, and return to home in shame and frustration. I shouldn't be that man, I don't want to be that man. I hate people who cling to their excuses and just 'survive', I want to be the man who goes for what he wants and actually gets it. If I see a chick is into me, I somehow screw it up immediately. Like, in minutes they lose interest. Often times I'm PHENOMENALLY bad. I got my fundamentals allright. They can be better, I still work on it, but they're fine. I just can't express myself. I have like negative social momentum, I have a hard time talking. I just don't know how to pick up chicks. But I want to learn, I put serious effort in it. Everyday I work on something, consistently. Mastering my walk, my posture, my eye contact, my tonality... I just want someone to teach me how to approach and close. Just the basics, you know. Maybe you'd say it's a limiting belief but I just know myself, I'm a kind of guy who learns by instruction and by people who know how to teach. That's my type. When somebody who wants to teach instructs me, I get good and EVEN BETTER from my instructors. How big of a blessing is that! But no instructors around! I'm sick of reading, watching videos and not seeing the change I want to see. The supposedly good-with-girls types of dudes are either don't know shit and they think it's about their appearance and money, or they just shrug it off like 'I don't know man it just happens'. I've been waiting from this summer to have a kind of bootcamp or training. Guys in my country postpone or cancel their events for reasons I don't even know, they never tell. When they don't postpone they never answer my mails. But I've been waiting patiently. I even tried to go to a training in Germany but it didn't work for some reasons. Think about that borderline poor university student who still lives with his parents, actually so invested that he drops all his business in where he lives, pauses everything, finds enough money to pay for a program and fly to another country and he can't make it happen anyway. When I peeked upon the secret of this 'game', I knew, I had to learn it. To be happy. To not be a pussy-tease and to be an actual man. That was the thing I was missing. To actually end up with girls I like, I understood that I need to bed lots of women to learn how. I just saw it. And thank you Chase, if you read it. The way you explain things just made everything clear in my mind and I find you awfully relatable. You gave me the direction, thank you. And from the moment I saw it, I knew that there was only 2 paths in front of me. Either I learn this shit to its fullest and pull my life around. Or I accept all of these and put it behind me, giving up on this world, and go live a solitary life of a monk in a secluded place, spending my days with meditating, praying, and barely filling my worldly needs like eating and drinking. I don't know. I don't want to give up and run but I feel tired and done. I'm just so sick of it and I felt like I needed to take it off my system and show you that how lucky you are. When there is a PUA event in your city, you can easily go. When there is a workshop, you can go and attend for free. Seminars, hotseats, conferences, trainings, you have it all. Use it. Don't just sulk around and complain when you have the opportunies. You have them, I don't. I'm willing to put my all into this, all I need is a hand and a little push, that's all. Yet there is no one. The moment I write these things, I still search for some guys in my country. I don't give up, never. So shouldn't you. And thus ends my random mad rant.
