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Going to make this as short as possible but detailed. I feel like everyone here who is serious about game could possibly either learn something from this thread or chime in to help me or others.
So let me get to it.
I met a girl in class. Immediately pursued after obvious body language signs of interest. Such as the position of feet, mocking my behavior, leaning in so I can notice her, ect.
About 2 weeks goes by, I take it up a notch, start flirting and teasing her. Works like a charm. She starts initiating the playful hitting and making physical contact with me. Which shows she's comfortable.
Our conversations go well at this point and she is investing in me. So I ask her to hang out with a confident tone and meaning. Basically stating were hanging out not really asking her. She laughed and agreed. I didn't have my phone so she called mine but it was off so I didn't get her number. So we didn't hang out that weekend. Which was a guarantee hang out because she made multiple remarks that she is free Saturday and if we hang out it has to be Saturday and she made it clear she wanted to hang out. (At this point she hasn't seen him in months, keep reading remember this though).
Now, the weekend went past. I told her what happened and decided to ask her again to hang out once we get closer to the weekend, it was now Monday.
Friday came and it was time to make the second move. I also asked her what she is doing this weekend, she hesitated, really hesitated to answer my question. Stuttered and finally said my bf is coming home. I played it cool as I should have and made nothing of it then changed the topic. She still agreed to hang out. Texted her the next day, and tried to arrange the hang out. She flaked and said she had to go out with family.
Now I am certain the flake was because of the bf. It was literally such bad timing for this. I do not blame her for flaking. Her emotions steered from me to the boyfriend without a doubt. Perfectly understandable. Not to mention she was obviously fucking him so she was definitely not thinking of me at all. The bf is leaving in 1 day which made her sad without a doubt and once again all the emotions were focused on him.
I played it cool once again, said no problem have fun ect. Short and to the point.
Now, my question is. What should I do next? What would you do?
The boyfriend will be leaving for couple months again, which will make her venerable once again like she was before and basically seeking some attention. My plan is to lay off for a little bit. A week should be enough. Going to start the push pull method. As before I was doing the pull since she was lonely and seeking it.
What I plan to do is, keep the cool and have the same attitude. Don't ask her to hang out or anything like that. Just be casual until she slowly starts forgetting about her bf and build up from there. Basically starting at square one again. This time doing a push pull method of still showing interest but not as much as before. We walk to class together almost everyday, I will definitely cut this off, I will come late and make her walk alone. We walk to our cars together as well. This will also be cut off, on the way back I will make excuses such as " I have to go meet up with a friend, ill see you later". Others as well, do this every other day or so showing that I am distancing myself a bit. Skip class sometimes and not show up. This is a huge one that makes the girl or even the guy think hmmmm where is she/he what is he/she doing right now. Creates a bit of curiosity and a bit of fear that she/he is losing him. While doing all of this pushing away, I will be pulling in with my physical touch and slight flirting in between.
Depending on how this goes, not exactly sure how long I will keep this going but after a week or so I will make my move once again, and try to hang out with her. At this point her focus should be on me again and not her boyfriend.
If this fails, then my gamer bros, I think I will have to make peace and let her go even though I want her really bad. Let me know what you guys think, any opinions or advice is welcome.
So let me get to it.
I met a girl in class. Immediately pursued after obvious body language signs of interest. Such as the position of feet, mocking my behavior, leaning in so I can notice her, ect.
About 2 weeks goes by, I take it up a notch, start flirting and teasing her. Works like a charm. She starts initiating the playful hitting and making physical contact with me. Which shows she's comfortable.
Our conversations go well at this point and she is investing in me. So I ask her to hang out with a confident tone and meaning. Basically stating were hanging out not really asking her. She laughed and agreed. I didn't have my phone so she called mine but it was off so I didn't get her number. So we didn't hang out that weekend. Which was a guarantee hang out because she made multiple remarks that she is free Saturday and if we hang out it has to be Saturday and she made it clear she wanted to hang out. (At this point she hasn't seen him in months, keep reading remember this though).
Now, the weekend went past. I told her what happened and decided to ask her again to hang out once we get closer to the weekend, it was now Monday.
Friday came and it was time to make the second move. I also asked her what she is doing this weekend, she hesitated, really hesitated to answer my question. Stuttered and finally said my bf is coming home. I played it cool as I should have and made nothing of it then changed the topic. She still agreed to hang out. Texted her the next day, and tried to arrange the hang out. She flaked and said she had to go out with family.
Now I am certain the flake was because of the bf. It was literally such bad timing for this. I do not blame her for flaking. Her emotions steered from me to the boyfriend without a doubt. Perfectly understandable. Not to mention she was obviously fucking him so she was definitely not thinking of me at all. The bf is leaving in 1 day which made her sad without a doubt and once again all the emotions were focused on him.
I played it cool once again, said no problem have fun ect. Short and to the point.
Now, my question is. What should I do next? What would you do?
The boyfriend will be leaving for couple months again, which will make her venerable once again like she was before and basically seeking some attention. My plan is to lay off for a little bit. A week should be enough. Going to start the push pull method. As before I was doing the pull since she was lonely and seeking it.
What I plan to do is, keep the cool and have the same attitude. Don't ask her to hang out or anything like that. Just be casual until she slowly starts forgetting about her bf and build up from there. Basically starting at square one again. This time doing a push pull method of still showing interest but not as much as before. We walk to class together almost everyday, I will definitely cut this off, I will come late and make her walk alone. We walk to our cars together as well. This will also be cut off, on the way back I will make excuses such as " I have to go meet up with a friend, ill see you later". Others as well, do this every other day or so showing that I am distancing myself a bit. Skip class sometimes and not show up. This is a huge one that makes the girl or even the guy think hmmmm where is she/he what is he/she doing right now. Creates a bit of curiosity and a bit of fear that she/he is losing him. While doing all of this pushing away, I will be pulling in with my physical touch and slight flirting in between.
Depending on how this goes, not exactly sure how long I will keep this going but after a week or so I will make my move once again, and try to hang out with her. At this point her focus should be on me again and not her boyfriend.
If this fails, then my gamer bros, I think I will have to make peace and let her go even though I want her really bad. Let me know what you guys think, any opinions or advice is welcome.
