re: Article clarification time period rebound phase cool off phase longing phase

[Rain]

https://www.girlschase.com/content/how-g ... riend-back

In scenario #1 "Screw you jerk" autorejection from lack of commitment, there's three phases. Rebound phase, cool off phase and longing phase. The article gives a rough time estimate for the rebound phase, but there's no time limit guide for when/how long the cool off phase and longing phase start/last for. Rebound phase and longing phase are best if you want to try and get her back in the article. Assuming rebound phase has ended, and assuming I'm not wanting to send a "farewell for now message" during cool off phase as that might not the best time to send it, is there is any guildelines about how long cool off phase and longing phase last for and/or when the longing phase might start?

 

[Thedoctor]

Re: re: Article clarification time period rebound phase cool off phase longing p

Rain,

The longing phase could vary from girl to girl as there are way too many unpredictable variables such as dating prospects she has or if she's currently in a relationship. For this reason, the longing phase is likely something you'll know she's in cause she will initiate it. Often, you might get a text or call from her after a long period of silence.

That being said, I recommend you move on. I've never heard of a situation of ex's getting back together that was beneficial to either person.

-John

 

[Rain]

Re: re: Article clarification time period rebound phase cool off phase longing p

So end of May start of June last year, short term seeing each other, then she auto rejects as she wanted exclusive. Sent farewell for now[modified].

August she send a text photo of herself saying "Still too fat?" I say looking good, we text a bit she seems interested in what Ive been up to . She says she got back with her ex and never been happier. I then stuffed up by saying "you never were too fat, I know it contradicts what you thought I thought. I don't like the idea I let you think that. Sorry about that". She seemed a bit less interested, and I said "You went quiet after I tried to apologise before, you okay?" She said she fine its just that you have contradicted yourself yet again. But whatever not my circus or monkeys. I then said c'mon, that's a bit insulting no need to call me circus or monkeys that below the belt. She said google not my circus not my monkeys. A few days later I tried to reframe[but failed and think it was actually wrong idea] saying "and here I was thinking you were calling me a cute monkey. I'll have to check google next time haha. Did you end up getting your driver licence back?" and heard nothing.

We not friends on fb but a couple days after getting back in contact, she became 'single' on fb and also signed up to pof as a new user , so clearly it's likely she wasn't happy with her then bf[despite saying never been happier lol] and perhaps that is why she contacted me and was interested what I'd been up to, until I made mistake of bring up bad emotions. But since August she is with a new guy, fb in a relationship. November, text her "Hey. how was your weekend", no response. Its now January. She might have seen me with another woman back in September maybe but that woman wasn't that great, and I'm not 100% sure it was my short term ex that was walking passed us.

If someone contacts you after no contact, that's like a second chance. If you then stuff it up, no contact again this time without a farewell for now type message, is it possible to get a third chance? Can you go back and forth between phases? If I was still single in I dunno two years, I could just add her to fb, yes that's on radar, but I don't think a 2 year gap counts as on radar? Assuming staying on radar is a bad thing...