RE: When girls don't screen themselves... Or more.

[Edd--19]

Had this epiphany earlier after writing my latest Journal Entry. It's to do with girls who don't play ball completely, but are interested in you nonetheless.

Effectively, lets take a girl that we're talking to. She's happily engaged and exchanging a few laughs and we move her, following our process. We've got compliance on our side in this case and she's paying more attention to you than you are to her. As she starts to screen herself (actively, or you pursue it) she hits upon something that we really don't like or a quality that she lacks that creates a gap in us connecting with her.

What I stumbled upon, and am sharing with you, is that we start to give her less attention for doing so. We are less invested, we have control of the conversation. Thus, we can start to take away some of the interest we have in her to make her back-up. If we take all of it away she'll start to auto-reject.

What would this look like? Well, from the conversation I was having, I turned my body away from her a little bit and reduced the volume of eye-contact I was giving her. Simple and effective. Much stronger than any verbal response. Don't overdo this, too much she'll auto reject, too little and she won't back-pedal to keep your interest.

So, in essence, your body language will have to reflect that you don't approve of what's happened. This can be applied to other things that crop up during interactions, like her ball-busting you etc.

Another option would be to use The Skeptical Look. Same, if not stronger, results, but trickier to pull off I feel, but if done right, much more powerful (less visible effort to adjust your face than your body).

Next time a girl is interested, but isn't helping advance the interaction, try this.

Edd

 

[Orelfius]

Exactly.

I also once used wandering eyes:
I was with a beautiful girls, walking on the street, another girls she knows meet us (badluck happen to all of us) and start engaging her about a project they have togheter. I just take a midly bored look and start looking around at the shop, at the street... Then after 2 minutes, since it wasn'T ending, I let my eyes wander to other beautiful girls passing by. 10 second later she closed her conversation with her friend quite abruptly. We walked a bit more and 2 days later, she called me to propose a date at my place (I screw it up unfortunately and get the "we are just friend" when I kissed her... Though we are still in contact and she still want to have me in her life... both engaged in a frame battle about "just friend" vs lover. It's ok: I'm ready to walk away, she's not. Either she drop the ball and eject from my life or I win and we become lover. No other possible outcome... and I keep meeting other girls meanwhile. One phone call a week doesn't waste too much time).

But the key here is to thread very very lightly and gently. Starting soft and light and gently add a bit of pressure progressively until she react. Girls auto-reject VERY EASILY!