Reacting to "maybe"from her when scheduling dates.

[razir110]

Hi all,

Another classic from girls with low interest. (or maybe a test, but whatever)

You are setting up the date and she comes with some variation of "maybe", so "ok lets meet on tuesday, but let me confirm later" , etc-sort of stuff.

My reaction:

"Don't maybe-me girl, if you want to meet then lets meet, let's do it on tuesday, sounds good?" or more playfully "I chose you among 3.5 billion women and you are maybing-me? No, lets meet as arranged" so pass an assertive message that I am not to be played around with, I value my time and have options. if she keeps with the maybe thing I say "then lets talk when we have more time" and delete her number.

So instead of saying like "ok then let me know" and essentially losing her, you can still have one last shot by showing you are not into this sort of BS and displaying some power.

What you bois think? How do you react to this cases?

 

[mindful]

You've almost always already lost her if she's luke warm about meeting you. There is no power struggle, just the reality of the situation.

If a girl is wishy washy about a certain day you basically tell her that you guys should meet another day when there aren't constraints or whatever. At this point, I'd probably delete her number but you can try to rengage again in a week or 2 if she hasn't reached out first. However, I'd rather meet a new girl in that time, one that would be more excited to see you.

 

[Científico]

However, I'd rather meet a new girl in that time, one that would be more excited to see you.

This ^.

One has finite time and mental energy that can be spent on any one girl when the 'abundance mentality' really is present in your mind. There are so many women out there to meet, why expend energy on one that is being flaky or unreliable? You should always have things cooking with multiple women. Best to move on for now to a new girl, re-engage later if time allows. Sometimes they even come back to you if you are detached enough.

Científico

 

[foggy]

chase discusses strategies for reacting to a "maybe" text here