What's up guys.
I've had a casual relationship with a girl the past few months and stopped approaching other girls for the most part. However, I recently ended it with her since I could sense she definitely liked me and was pushing it more in a boyfriend direction with her actions (going to movies, friends bday party, buying me little gifts, etc). Honestly, none of this stuff really bothers me except that I wasn't as into her as she was for me, so it started causing me anxiety and I broke it off with her.
Anyways, I found this girl on Bumble and had a date with her this past Monday. The date itself wasn't too bad and I defintely incorporated touching into the mix, which she was comfortable with. I also had her talking a lot and covered typical topics to get to know her better. We also talked a little about 50 shades of gray... she said she didn't like the movies or books at all, which struck me as a red flag that this girl wasn't as sexually experienced (or not?).
I knew she had work real early, since we had been texting back and forth more than I normally do before meeting girls so I knew some things already. I ended up pulling her around 9 PM, which isn't too late... however I didn't exactly invite her to my place, I just said we should continue hanging out since its still early. She gave the typical "I need to be up for work early". I persisted a little but didn't go overboard. We hugged and said our goodbyes. I did not kiss her either... I usually don't do this anymore because honestly if I don't get her back to my place I usually write her off immediately, which is essentially the question of this thread.
She did text me once she got back home, lots of exclamation points basically saying something like "I really enjoyed meeting you tonight! sorry I am a grandma but i have to be up early for work. Next round of drinks are on me!"
I didn't really think much of the text honestly. I responded as courtesy and thought she was just being nice. It's been 6 days since then and I haven't contacted her. Should I have tried to setup a second date? I've had a decent amount of first date lays so I just get deflated when it doesn't happen now and don't really feel like putting in the effort to see the girl again.
I've had a casual relationship with a girl the past few months and stopped approaching other girls for the most part. However, I recently ended it with her since I could sense she definitely liked me and was pushing it more in a boyfriend direction with her actions (going to movies, friends bday party, buying me little gifts, etc). Honestly, none of this stuff really bothers me except that I wasn't as into her as she was for me, so it started causing me anxiety and I broke it off with her.
Anyways, I found this girl on Bumble and had a date with her this past Monday. The date itself wasn't too bad and I defintely incorporated touching into the mix, which she was comfortable with. I also had her talking a lot and covered typical topics to get to know her better. We also talked a little about 50 shades of gray... she said she didn't like the movies or books at all, which struck me as a red flag that this girl wasn't as sexually experienced (or not?).
I knew she had work real early, since we had been texting back and forth more than I normally do before meeting girls so I knew some things already. I ended up pulling her around 9 PM, which isn't too late... however I didn't exactly invite her to my place, I just said we should continue hanging out since its still early. She gave the typical "I need to be up for work early". I persisted a little but didn't go overboard. We hugged and said our goodbyes. I did not kiss her either... I usually don't do this anymore because honestly if I don't get her back to my place I usually write her off immediately, which is essentially the question of this thread.
She did text me once she got back home, lots of exclamation points basically saying something like "I really enjoyed meeting you tonight! sorry I am a grandma but i have to be up early for work. Next round of drinks are on me!"
I didn't really think much of the text honestly. I responded as courtesy and thought she was just being nice. It's been 6 days since then and I haven't contacted her. Should I have tried to setup a second date? I've had a decent amount of first date lays so I just get deflated when it doesn't happen now and don't really feel like putting in the effort to see the girl again.
