Recover from Last Minute Resistance (LMR)

[OnlyPassion]

Hi guys.

This is OnlyPassion, and it's my first time here.

I was wondering if anyone here has ever got a girl after failing last minute resistance (LMR)? I'm ready to "next" her but I'm just curious if it could be done.

I met an undergrad one month ago at our university's entrepreneurial workshop. She became really attracted to me, has asked her friend to stalk me on facebook, then eventually added me on facebook. We went to dinner one evening after the workshop and kissed. Afterwards she started texting me and telling me she misses me etc. I've never initiated text and had only ever responded to her text before I go to bed. She loved that.

Last night she came over to my place and I cooked for her. I put a film on and we started making out on my bed. I guess I became quite aggressive and she asked me when was the last time i had sex.. She started resisting a bit but eventually i got all her clothes off and started light fingering her. About 15 seconds in, she suddenly got up and said that we're not going to have sex. She said that she wanted to get to know me, and asked what I wanted to know about her. Long story short. I revealed to her my troubled childhood and deeply damaged side. At some point she was about to cry but later on she also told me that her attraction to me has tumbled as she thinks i'm insecure. Also I couldn't come up with any good questions to get her talking about herself (need to work on my deep dive).

She started resting in my bed and I tried again to initiate kiss and touch. However this time I could feel the passion has died down and she got up and left for a big party. This time I just let her go. Before she got out. I said to meet up again. She wanted to meet during the day but I managed to push it to 4pm on Sunday and I will meet her near her place.

My question is what exactly are we going to do during the day? Since that near-sexual experience seem to have had a fatal blow to the attraction. But I'd like to get her still if there is a way.


Thank you in advance,
OnlyPassion

 

[Franco]

Moved to the "General" board.

 

[OnlyPassion]

I met an undergrad one month ago at our university's entrepreneurial workshop. She became really attracted to me. Last night she came over to my place and I cooked for her. I put a film on and we started making out on my bed. I guess I became quite aggressive and she asked me when was the last time i had sex.. She started resisting a bit but eventually i got all her clothes off and started light fingering her. About 15 seconds in, she suddenly got up and said that we're not going to have sex. She said that she wanted to get to know me, and asked what I wanted to know about her. Long story short. I revealed to her my troubled childhood and deeply damaged side. At some point she was about to cry but later on she also told me that her attraction to me has tumbled as she thinks i'm insecure. Also I couldn't come up with any good questions to get her talking about herself (need to work on my deep dive).

She started resting in my bed and I tried again to initiate kiss and touch. However this time I could feel the passion has died down and she got up and left for a big party. This time I just let her go. Before she got out. I said to meet up again. She wanted to meet during the day but I managed to push it to 4pm on Sunday and I will meet her near her place.

My question is what exactly are we going to do during the day? Since that near-sexual experience seem to have had a fatal blow to the attraction. But I'd like to get her still if there is a way.

This is what I'm going to email to her (Rach)
"Rach, hey, i got something urgent came up so i cant make it tomorrow anymore.

I realised that building connection with people has been left out of my life equation for a while. Its all about efficiency for me these days. I didn't make you feel comfortable for sleeping with me. Sorry about that.

I like you, you're a really cool person. But i also know that things almost never work out after a night like that.

I guess my point is if you still want me, let me know. But either way thank you for everything."